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Have you Had Enough Foolishness?
December 15, 2006
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Midlife Wisdom For Men Issue #072, December 15, 2006

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· Have you Had Enough Foolishness?

· Want To Make The Coming Year The One Where You Move Your Retirement Date Up?

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Written by Noel McNaughton Midlife-Men.com (c) copyright 2006 midlife-men.com

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Welcome to this issue of Midlife Wisdom for Men.

This is the last issue before Christmas. It is short, because everybody is busy this time of year, and has no time to read anyway (or in my case, to write very much!)

Midlife is a watershed time in all kinds of ways. As a friend of mine would say, it is a time of sorting the fly specks out of the pepper. Priorities change, values get adjusted. It can be a trying time, but also deeply satisfying as we move from our 'foolish days', to days where we don't take everything so seriously.

As you know, I am a big fan of the internet. Check out the 'e-goods' link below to see whether there is a website in your future.

There are about 750 words in the articles in this newsletter, which should take you about three minutes to read.

All the best for the Christmas season, and many blessings in the New Year,

Noel

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Have You Had Enough Foolishness?

I just finished reading "Earth Elder Stories" by Alexander Wolfe (Fifth House Publishing, Saskatoon, Saskatchewan, 1988).

Earth Elder was Alexander Wolfe's grandfather, an Anishnaybay Indian who lived in western Canada and died in 1937 at age 106. He was alive during the period when European settlers came into the Canadian prairies. The book is about Earth Elder, and the stories he told about his family, and the Anishnaybay culture during his lifetime.

One thing Earth Elder told his grandson caught my eye, and I thought it nicely describes the transition we are faced with at midlife.

Here is the quote from Earth Elder:

"There is a period in the life of every person in which there is foolishness. When this period passes some people will grow up remembering and using what they there told. For this we have a saying, 'When you have had enough foolishness, then you become knowledgeable and know your mistakes'. There are others who never go beyond this first stage; they remain foolish for the rest of their lives. To those people we say, 'Your foolishness will accompany you to your old age'."

One of the gifts I found when I reached midlife was to be able to look back at things I used to think were incredibly important and say "what was all that about? I could also look back at people I had hurt, or the things I felt embarrassed about having done, and make amends to the people, and forgive myself for my foolishness. I could also take the lessons from each 'foolish' circumstance, and gain a bit of wisdom.

This is not to say I no longer do any foolish things! I do them fairly regularly, but they are a little 'higher grade' of foolishness :-)

I have also met a fair number of men who have not gone beyond the first stage, and continue making impulsive, or self-destructive decisions, or continue to think their happiness depends on how the others around them treat them. They feel victimized and blame others for whatever 'bad' happens in their lives, and can't seem to take responsibility for themselves. In other words, they have not had enough foolishness yet, and when these men get old, they become bitter, blaming the world for not treating them better.

What about you? Have you had enough foolishness yet? Can you take the lessons from your past foibles, accept responsibility for them, learn from them and move on with more wisdom? Yes? Good. May you have yet more foolishness, and grow to be wise and compassionate!

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What did Adam say the day before Christmas?
"Its Christmas, Eve!"

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Want To Make The Coming Year The One Where You Move Your Retirement Date Up (And Have Some Fun Doing It)?

I have said it before in this newsletter, and I will keep saying it. I think the internet is the most incredible communication tool in the history of human endeavour. It is like a giant market square, bringing millions of people together to share knowledge, experience, and to trade all kinds of goods.

The goods most easily traded are 'e-goods' - goods that you can't touch, but have value, such as ebooks, and digital photographs (one of my former classmates is an excellent wildlife photographer, and sells some of his photos through his website: http://members.shaw.ca/ocl2/oldman2003.htm).

Anyway... do you have a hobby? A special skill (Music? Art? Sketching? Carving? Cooking?) special knowledge about something (How to make gazingus pins? Auto repair? How to repair bamboo fly rods?). You get the idea. If you have a passion about something, you can create either 'hard goods' (something you can touch, such as a duck decoy), or 'e-goods' (a 'virtual product, such as my ebook "Picking Up The Burning Feather") and sell them on through your website.

Maybe this is the year you will start your own website, and not only have some fun, but make some 'passive income', when people who want exactly what you have, pay you to provide for them! Learn more about it here: 'Build an E-Goods Website'.

Have fun!

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What did the bald man say when he got a comb for Christmas? Thanks, I'll never part with this!

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I do this newsletter and host the www.midlife-men.com website as a service to other men, and am happy to do so. Just the same, it costs some money, and if you would like to make a small contribution to help with those costs, I would really appreciate it. If you would like, you can make a donation at: http://www.midlife-men.com/donation.html

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Wouldn't it be great to work less and play more golf? I do not of a better way to earn a part-time income, than a simple information Web site. I encourage you to check out http://passion.explore-sbi.com. You'll be amazed at how you can turn YOUR hobby into online income.

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Got your copy of Picking Up The Burning Feather yet? It will help you on your spiritual journey.

Just go to Picking Up The Burning Feather: A Spiritual Guide For Midlife Men.

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Just For You: A Free Do-It-Yourself Retirement Planning Report

If you are a new subscriber to this newsletter, you will recall I promised you a link to a secret page on the Midlife Men's site where you can download a free 27-page report on 'DIY Retirement planning' by George Slater.

Welcome to the newsletter, and for your free report, go to: DIY Retirement E-Report , and follow the instructions.

Enjoy!

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I Need Your Questions and Feedback!

Got comments? Questions? I'd love to hear from you.

Just email your suggestions and/or questions to noel@midlife-men.com . I look forward to hearing from you. And thanks.

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Well friend, that's it for now. Again, if you enjoyed this and/or found it useful, and know of anyone else who might like it, please pass it forward. And if you have questions or recommendations, I would love to hear from you.

All the best, Noel

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