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Worried About Getting Older? Don't.
June 15, 2008

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Midlife Wisdom For Men Issue #107, June 15, 2008

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Worried About Getting Older? Don't.

Book Review: Five Wishes

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Written by Noel McNaughton
Midlife-Men.com
(c) copyright 2008 midlife-men.com

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Welcome to this issue of Midlife Wisdom for Men.

Summer will officially start in about a week, and if you are like me, you don't have much time for reading, so I have made this newsletter relatively short.

As someone said (I can't remember who), getting old ain't for sissies. Baby boomers in particular seem to fear growing older. But a recent study has found that in general, the older you get, the happier you are! Go figure.

Midlife is often a time of making new decisions. As Jungian analyst Robert Johnson says, we all have unlived lives, and at midlife, our soul calls attention to that fact. But what do we have to do in order to live the unlived parts of our lives? Asking some questions about our lives so far can be a place to start, and to know what those questions might be, I recommend "Five Wishes" by Gay Hendricks, reviewed below.

There are about 840 words in this issue, which should take you about two minutes to read.

Noel

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Worried About Getting Older? Don't

After all the stuff I have read about old people whiling away their days in lonely isolation, I have come to believe the expression "the golden years" may be a bit of an exaggeration. But recent research from the University of Chicago says the golden years may actually be golden.

The latest issue of the The Center for Third Age Newsletter recently (http://www.thirdagecenter.com/), has an article about a study that found that THE OLDEST AMERICANS ARE ALSO THE HAPPIEST.

I don't normally reprint articles from other publications, but I have done so here with a bit of editing. Here is a slightly abridged version of that article, written by Lindsey Tanner, AP Medical Writer

Eye-opening new research finds the happiest Americans are the oldest, and older adults are more socially active than the stereotype of the lonely senior suggests. The two go hand-in-hand: Being social can help keep away the blues.

"The good news is that with age comes happiness," said study author Yang Yang, a University of Chicago sociologist. "Life gets better in one's perception as one ages..."

...Yang's findings are based on periodic face-to-face interviews with a nationally representative sample of Americans from 1972 to 2004. About 28,000 people ages 18 to 88 took part.

There were ups and downs in overall happiness levels during the study, generally corresponding with good and bad economic times. But at every stage, older Americans were the happiest.

In general, the odds of being happy increased 5 percent with every 10 years of age.

Overall, about 33 percent of Americans reported being very happy at age 88, versus about 24 percent of those age 18 to early 20s. And throughout the study years, most Americans reported being very happy or pretty happy. Less than 20 percent said they were not too happy.

Bad News for Baby Boomers

...However, Yang's study also found that baby boomers were the least happy, and they could go on to end up living the unhappy old-age stereotype if they don't learn to let go of their achievement-driven mind-set.

So far, baby boomers aren't lowering their aspirations at the same rate earlier generations did.

Previous research also has shown that mid-life tends to be the most stressful time, said Cornell University sociologist Elaine Wethington. "Everyone's asking you to do things and you have a lot to do. You're less happy because you feel hassled."

The new studies show "if you can make it through that," there's light at the end of the tunnel, Wethington said.

FOR THE COMPLETE ARTICLE, GO TO: The Oldest Americans Are Also The Happiest

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Maybe it's true that life begins at fifty, but everything else starts to wear out, fall out, or spread out. -- Phyllis Diller

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Book Review: Five Wishes: How Answering One Simple Question Can Make Your Dreams Come True by Gay Hendricks

If you were on your death bed right now (or fifty years from now), could you say your life was a complete success?

Hendricks book tells the story of his meeting with a man at a cocktail party many years ago, who asked him this question, then followed it up with a few more. It changed Hendricks's life, and it could change yours.

As I went through it, I realized I have dealt with most of what is in the book, because I am an alcoholic, and as a result of living the twelve steps, I have to keep my life and relationships clear, and 'when I am wrong, promtly admit it'. I have also participated in many other personal growth programs over the years that have helped me be able to say that if I was on my death bed right now, I could say my life was a complete success, with the exception that I would have liked more time to continue my spiritual growth on this plane.

What about you? If the answer to the question right now is "no", this little book can help it be "yes" in the not-too-distant future.

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I had a rose named after me and I was very flattered. But I was not pleased to read the description in the catalog: "No good in a bed, but fine against a wall." -- Eleanor Roosevelt

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Well friend, that's it for now. Again, if you enjoyed this and/or found it useful, and know of anyone else who might like it, please pass it forward. And if you have questions or recommendations, I would love to hear from you.

All the best, Noel

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