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Listen To Your Inner Voice
August 01, 2008

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Midlife Wisdom For Men Issue #110, August 1, 2008

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Listen To Your Inner Voice

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Written by Noel McNaughton
Midlife-Men.com
(c) copyright 2008 midlife-men.com

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Welcome to this issue of Midlife Wisdom for Men.

There is just one article in this newsletter, as it is a bit longer than normal. It is, however, about a topic I believe is important during midlife and beyond. Hope you find it useful.

There are about 1050 words in this issue, which should take you about three minutes to read.

Noel

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Letters

Dear Noel,

I can't tell you how much I appreciate what you write.

And I read your email regularly, and some of my friends are also doing that to whom I forwarded your newsletters.

You might be surprised at someone reading your mail in a country such as Pakistan!

Today while reading your article on "quality of life", I thought I should try communicating with you.

Yes, there is no relationship between being rich and be able to enjoy life and be a good being to others in life.

While the former is very impressive to most, the later is the reality.

I envy the hard labourers in my country, who after a tough job in the day, sit together at dinner and play flute and laugh more than we do in months.

They have little money, many problems, but much more patience and respect for human relationships than any material gains.

Most of us in the third world are much more close to 'realities' of life. Rich have their problems even in our country, but since there are very few who are rich, it is not important what the rich think. As English is only my 3rd language, I may not be able to put my message across properly. But I am sure that you being so wise will understand my view point for sure.

Please keep the excellent work going on.....

Regards
Akhlaq
Islamabad
Pakistan

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"If opportunity doesn't knock, build a door" - Milton Berle

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Listen To Your Inner Voice

I believe one of the main tasks of midlife and beyond is spiritual growth. You may connect more consciously with the Higher Power through church, meditation, prayer, communing with nature, or any of a variety of other approaches.

One of the tangible benefits of going on the spiritual journey is to receive messages from what I call your 'inner voice'. In the bible there is reference to the 'still, small voice of God'. I suspect this is the same voice I am talking about.

I find this 'voice' very useful for getting guidance in puzzling circumstances, and for keeping my life on track in general.

As I have mentioned before in this newsletter, I have been doing a four-day waterless fast every year for the past eighteen years, and the most recent was a couple of weeks ago. This is the spiritual highlight of my year, and the time I am most likely to receive a message from my 'Inner Voice'.

It usually arrives in my thoughts as a brief sentence or two, with some clarity for staying on the spiritual path in the coming year. It has a different 'tone' than my normal self-talk, and I have never found it to be wrong.

I also can also get a brief message during times of stress, or confusion.

Here is an example: When my wife and I were moving to Vancouver in 1997, we flew there one Saturday morning to look for a place to rent. Elizabeth had drawn up a list of things she wanted in an house, which looked fine to me.

We looked at houses all day, and at the end of the day, we found one we wanted to rent. We filled out the application, and were told by the current tenants that the landlord would likely go to church the next morning, then call us for an interview. He said he was sure we had a good chance of being able to rent the house.

The next morning we ate breakfast, then went back to the room expecting a call. None had come. We were confident we would get the house, but thought we had better keep looking just in case. Off and on during the day we called the hotel for messages, but there was none. We were confident we would get the house just the same.

As the day wore on, I began to feel depressed, and I didn't know why, although I knew it had something to do with the house.

When we got back to the hotel, the message light was blinking so I called the desk, and she explained that we had received a call that morning, but for some reason, our room's answering machine had malfunctioned for that one call. It turned out the landlord had called to interview us, and when we didn't return his call, he rented it to the only other couple he was interviewing.

I immediately began to feel better! The whole situation was puzzling to me, so I did a brief meditation and asked for some clarity. Within a few minutes, I got this message from the Inner Voice: "Your house is not ready yet, and the middle of the month is an important date".

I wasn't sure what that meant, but I trusted it was true.

The upshot was that when I was back in Vancouver to lead some workshops a couple of weeks later, I found the upper two stories of a duplex across the street from the ocean, with wonderful views of the bay and the mountains beyond (a view was what was missing from the first house, and that was what was making me depressed), and it rented for exactly the amount of money we had decided we could afford.

It had come on the rental market on the 15th, which was why on the 1st, 'our house wasn't ready yet, and the middle of the month was an important date'!

How to tap in to your Inner Voice

We can access the knowledge and wisdom of what I will call our Higher Self, (although I don't know what exactly the source of this knowledge is), through silence, quieting our mind, and allowing the information to come through. It can be useful to ask a short, concise question.

The answer may come as a short sentence, or insight suddenly appearing in our mind, as a body sensation (a rush of energy when we have a certain thought as we ask about the situation), or even a message from another person, as we hold ourselves open to the answer we are seeking. You have no doubt had someone remind you of something you said years before that changed their life, and you have no recollection of even having said it! Or perhaps you have received a message that way. It is as though we are used to deliver messages from time to time.

However you do it, my experience tells me the most important steps are:

  • Accept that receiving guidance from some higher source is possible
  • Prepare yourself by having a clear question in mind, or simply by opening yourself to receive guidance
  • Find a quiet place to still your mind, and wait. I find breath counting can be useful in quieting my mind.
  • Do not have an 'agenda' for what the answer should be. Be open to whatever comes to you.
  • When you receive the answer, ponder it to see whether it seems reasonable (sometimes our minds will play games with us), and perhaps talk it over with someone whose wisdom and integrity you trust.

I have deeply value the help of this Inner Voice in guiding me through the difficult situations in my life. Perhaps you will too, if you don't already.

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Nobody grows old merely by living a number of years. We grow old by deserting out ideals. Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul. - - - - Samuel Ullman

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Unusual travel Web sites:

NOTE: I received a list of unusual travel sites in a professional speakers newsletter about a year ago. This is the last of that list of sites.

WikiTravel.org - A no-charge, up-to-date, and reliable worldwide travel guide. So far, they have 19,164 destination guides and articles written by travelers from around the globe. Share your own expertise about a specific destination or check out what other travelers have to say about places.

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**************************************************** I Need Your Questions and Feedback!

Got comments? Questions? I'd love to hear from you.

Just email your suggestions and/or questions to noel@midlife-men.com . I look forward to hearing from you. And thanks.

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Well friend, that's it for now. Again, if you enjoyed this and/or found it useful, and know of anyone else who might like it, please pass it forward. And if you have questions or recommendations, I would love to hear from you.

All the best, Noel

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