A husband comes home after conference and declares his marital unhappiness. No warning.

by Julie Robinson
(Sudbury, Ontario)

My husband left our marriage and me like a snake sheds its skin. No remorse. Flat, poker face. Our children now go from house to house every other week. How can some people walk around without appearing to have a conscience, and to change so completely?


Noel's response

Some people are unable to deal with conflict, express feelings (even to themselves), or communicate effectively, so they let the resentments and hurts that are normal to any human relationship build up, and then one day just walk away. Perhaps your husband is one of those?

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Jul 04, 2013
Warnings Were There
by: Anonymous

What actually happened was that with the assistance of marital therapy the husband was able to express the precise behaviors that required change from his wife. The wife did not change her behaviour so he left. Nothing surprising about that. The most recent Dr. who has worked with the now exes regarding co-parenting said it best to the ex-wife: "you say that you are listening but you don't act like you are listening". She didn't understand then and still doesn't now. It must be frustrating on her part not to understand that people get upset with her because her own words and actions are polar opposites. She thinks she listens but doesn't actually hear what the person is telling her.

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