I think my husband is going through a midlife crisis. This started about a year and a half ago. He graduslly pulled away from me. He said he wasnt happy, wants his freedom,bored, wants excitement,doesnt know if he wants to be faithful to me, told me im useless,felt nothing after we had sex, but was always up for it. He went crazy when he got on facebook. Trying to hook up with younger girls. Telling them he was getting divorced before i even had a clue that it was this serious. He left 4 times and came back in the last year. He has been gone since november 16 2015. He is always angry and says hurtful things. I have not seen him since christmas and have not spoken to him since february 6 2016. He is now involved with this whore eho used to babysit him as a child. She is older. Her husband died septembe 13 2015. By october she had her claws into my husband. While we were yrying to work things out. He told our children that he is never coming back and he wants them to be friends with her. We have been together for 21 years. He has seen our youngest child who is 11 only once since chtistmas. He has barely talked to her. They have never met the whore and refuse to. He has not given me any financial help since december. I am working two jobs to keep everything going. He blames me for everything. He says marrige shouldnt be so much work. That we are not friends and have no connection. We are imcompatiable. When i have made changes he says to little to late. Should i file for divorce or wait it out? This is killing me.