Age difference

by Amanda
(Queens, NY. United States)


I'm 31 years old and my boyfriend of 3 years is 25 years old. I feel strange about this. It didn't bother for awhile, but it's passing my mind again. He says it does not bother him at all but a friend of his told me "Wow isn't he a bit to young for you?" I told my boyfriend how I felt about this and he told me not to let that comment bother me. What should I do?

Noel's response:

Your age difference is only six years, which is not a very big difference. It sounds as though you are not very sure of your own sense of yourself, so let other people's opinions bother you. I suspect this is true in other parts of your life, rather than just in the age difference between you and you boyfriend.

My suggestion is you get some counseling, or go to some personal growth workshops in order to get a greater sense of yourself as a 'solid adult', so other people's opinions don't have so much influence on you.

There is an expression in twelve-step groups that applies with you: 'what other people think of me is none of my business'.

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Nov 19, 2011
im 23 and my husband is 47
by: AnonymousGirl

I love my hisband more than anything... and many ppl think im crazy, but I do my jjob as a wife and we have one 4 yr old.. and we r now pregnant with another... I honestly believe that we found eachother for good reason and the age difference doesnt bother us at all... (i like it, honestly) so just forget about the age... and as long as u r in love thats all that matters

Nov 07, 2011
Go with your feelings
by: Anonymous

When I first met my husband I didn't realise he was younger than me and then when I found out, it was me who felt awkward as I had never dated anyone younger than myself before. He talked me around it! I was 32 and he was 26. He was adamant it wasn't an issue for him and it never has been. We have a beautiful child together and have been happily married for 15 years now. I would encourage you to be with the person you love and not give it a second thought.

Nov 03, 2011
wow!
by: coast guy 78

well you have what is going on right there? It was HIS friend that said that? either his friend wants you or his friend wants you out of the picture. Don't you see? boy or girl doesn't matter the gender of the friend....

Oct 20, 2011
Age not so important
by: Anonymous

I don't think in this day and age that an age difference like that is anything noteworthy. Women live longer than guys on average, so six years is probably just about right.. maybe your friend is jealous!

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