age difference

by Rabitah
(maryland)

i am a 20 year old female, i am in love with a man who is 39 years of age. i know he love me. we have been together for 3 years now, after the first few months of us going out, taking me places, having sex, now things have changed, he never had time, he thinks money will solve all my issues. we have not had sex willingly on his part since 2 and a half years now. he says sex does not matter, he doesn't care about sex, he just wants be to be a good person, make my life and all, i want to know did he just get all his satisfaction in the first few months? he gets hard just by touching me and he says he does not want to take advantage of me by having sex with me , but i don't feel like he is taking advantage at all. he orgasms quick all the time , since day one.

Noel's response

I am not sure what to suggest. You were very young when the two of you got together, and it sounds as though the sexual part of your relationship didn't last very long. Perhaps he is really not very interested in sex, or has some psychological issues with sex, and only had sex with you in the beginning in order help get you committed to being with him.

My suggestion is you talk to a counselor about this problem. You might also decide whether you want to stay with a man with whom you are not likely to have much, if any, sex.