age difference

by Rabitah
(maryland)

i am a 20 year old female, i am in love with a man who is 39 years of age. i know he love me. we have been together for 3 years now, after the first few months of us going out, taking me places, having sex, now things have changed, he never had time, he thinks money will solve all my issues. we have not had sex willingly on his part since 2 and a half years now. he says sex does not matter, he doesn't care about sex, he just wants be to be a good person, make my life and all, i want to know did he just get all his satisfaction in the first few months? he gets hard just by touching me and he says he does not want to take advantage of me by having sex with me , but i don't feel like he is taking advantage at all. he orgasms quick all the time , since day one.

Noel's response

I am not sure what to suggest. You were very young when the two of you got together, and it sounds as though the sexual part of your relationship didn't last very long. Perhaps he is really not very interested in sex, or has some psychological issues with sex, and only had sex with you in the beginning in order help get you committed to being with him.

My suggestion is you talk to a counselor about this problem. You might also decide whether you want to stay with a man with whom you are not likely to have much, if any, sex.

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Dec 31, 2011
thankx for the feedback
by: rabitah

Actually i found out he is married but his wife is in another country. him and i live togr. he says he feels guilty for having sex with me. he actually wants me to just marry also and move on. he keeps saying he wants to see me happy but.im happy with him sex or not.

Nov 27, 2011
Age difference
by: NWF

Is this man married?? You did not mention this. I suspect that he is married to someone else and is trying to keep his vows now but still wants to help you.

Why do you want a man 19 years older than you when you are only 20 years old? Find someone your own age with similar interests-the sex will be better and maybe even a future life together.

Let this guy go if you can; it is just causing you pain and frustration. And no sex at 20, NOT!

Hugs for you but move on to a better life.

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