avoidance behavior

by deborah
(sarasota florida)

My husband has extreme avoidance behavior that includes lying just to not have to deal with any issues at home. He has worked away from home and has financial problems caused by some of his own poor decisions. I have tried to support him, but we are totally disconnected. He seems to think I should just sit here work teaching taking care of the house the dogs and supporting my daughter in college. He never calls or emails unless it is something completely impersonal or to answer a quick questions. He lies at times saying he will be here or do something that he knows he is not going to do. He has hurt our daughter who loves him but has felt abandoned by him. Now I just want to settle things and move on, but he does not want to do anything. I can not live this way anymore but because of the financial problems he has caused it is not easy.

Noel's response

The only I can suggest is setting some long-term personal and financial goals for yourself, and making a plan to bring them about.