Back and forth
It has been almost a year since I asked my husband to leave. I found out he was texting and seeing a co worker 17 years younger behind my back. I asked him to stop talking to her and he refused so I asked him to leave.
After he left they began a relationship soon after. He went six months with no contact with his kids and I still get no help from him. Since he has been gone, almost a year, he has gotten multiple new tattoos as well as multiple face piercings. He is a completely different person.
So here's the question. He approached me and said he wanted to work on coming home. We hung out some, he started seeing the kids, things were going OK. He told me he wasn't seeing or sleeping with the OW at this point. Fast forward two months and I found out he was seeing her and sleeping with her the whole time. He lied about everything. He said he didn't know it was going to be so hard to leave her and that he loved her blah blah. Why the back and forth? Why approach me while he is still with her? Was he maybe testing the waters to come back to me because the affair is breaking down? Maybe not as fun as it used to be? But I took myself out of the situation and he ran back to her.