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Can a marriage survive a male mid-life crisis

by Josephine Sullian-Smith
(Tampa,Florida)

My husband of 10 years moved out. He is a complete stranger. He told me I'm a great wife. I'm lost, confused,upset. It's been a month.I don't know if he will ever come back. He doesn't call or text. He has ran up all his credit cards. I'm just don't know what to do.I really love this man with all my heart. We don't have children together it's my second marriage. His as well.

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Jun 18, 2018
Mlc
by: Anonymous

Josephine I’m so sorry. You are at the beginning of a very long road. I was married 29 years when the same thing happened. He was already seeing someone else although I didn’t know that and moved in with her.
He was pretty awful to me and the kids. The first two years were pretty horrible to say the least. It got to a point where I finally blocked all communication with him for quite a while.
I was fortunate that I hired a lawyer at the beginning of all this. I didn’t file anything but retained the lawyer just in case.
After the two year mark he filed for divorce. Hardest thing I have done. But I gathered all my courage and responded and filed my own petition for divorce. He never finished on his end.
Almost five years later we are still legally married. But I live happily as a single woman. In the last year he has wanted to come home. I have not let him. At least we can sort of get along these days. His affair partner has been gone a couple years now although she still tries to contact him.
He is very different. I don’t think his crisis made him a better person. He struggles with a lot of stuff and he’s very closed off.
So just know this is a very long process and even if he gets through this and wants to come home it may end up not being what you want. So for now just breathe deep and do the best you can to take care of yourself and do what’s best for you.
That is the best thing you can do either way it goes.
Again I’m very sorry and I know your pain very well. Just take it one step at a time.

Jun 18, 2018
Can a marriage survive a male mid-life crisis
by: Noel

Hi Josephine,
You probably know if you have read many of the submissions here that your question cannot be answered. Some marriages survive, some don't.
I recommend you read all the submissions that relate to your question so you will at least know you are not alone.
Perhaps other readers will have helpful advice for you.
All the best,
Noel

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