Confused

by Gillian
(England)

Hi ya myself and my husband were having normal arguments in our marriage we were married 5 years and he told me 2 weeks ago he was going to Australia to be on his own. He has two kids from a previous marriage (I did not separate them they were separated approx 4 years before I met him) I am heart broken and am looking for ans. He says I've pushed him away made him feel unloved and now I have made him empty and lost not sure how. All I doing is crying crying over him and also over the managing of the bills that's left behind for me to deal with. It all seems a shock to me as it happened so fast. When I call him he just seems so hard on the phone to me. I've cried and begged him not to go away but he says he is. Is this normal thanks

Noel's response

I don't know that there is a 'normal', and it doesn't matter whether it is. You are in the situation you are in.

The first thing I would do is talk to a lawyer or a legal adviser (there may be free government help in England) to take some kind of action to make him help pay the bills, and to protect yourself against him running up bills in your joint names.

I don't know what else to advise, except that you go ahead and 'cry yourself out', then move on with your life.