Divorced over midlife crisis

by Vicki
(Grants Pass, OR. Josephine)

The Question

My husband has acted strange since turning 49. That was in february this year. Our anniversary
was in april. He just divorced me saying we need to be apart to start over with a clean slate.

It seems like he doesn't know what to do with himself or where he is going. We still see each
other as friends, but he tells me and shows me how much he loves me. He is so confused about a lot of subjects like, work, life, and the economy. But the love is there. I know it and feel it.

How long does this midlife crisis go on? I'm not going to wait forever for him to get his *#@* together and become "normal" again!
Vicki

Noel's response

It sounds as though your husband is definitely in a midlife transition. It is hard to say how long it will take. Some men take a few weeks, others a few months, and still others a few years. It took me about five years to get completely through my 'age 50 transition'.

The books Seasons of a Man's Life by Daniel Levinson, and Crossing the Soul's River by William O. Roberts may help you understand what your husband is going through.