Do I let him stay in my life, even though we are getting divorced, for his own feelings of guilt?
I am in the process of getting a divorce after 20 yrs. of marriage. My husband has been having an affair with a neighbor for at least five years.
He has said all the mid life lines: I am not in love with you anymore; I think I could be happier doing something else; this is not about my girlfriend, it's about me.
Anyway, does he love this other woman or is he looking for something? He keeps telling me if I need anything he will be there for me. What does this mean? He hurt me so much. I cant just let him stay in my life for his own feelings of guilt, right?Noel's response
If you are divorcing him, it means for all intents and purposes, he is just another person. You ask whether you can let him stay in your life for his own feelings of guilt. I can't help you as it really is your decision.