Does male menopause cause bisexuality in men?

by louana
(philippines)

The Question


My hubby is 47 years old and is now bisexual. Is male menopause a cause of bisexuality in men at this age?

Noel's answer

Male menopause (more correctly know as andropause) is not a cause of bisexuality. However it can be an age at which a man decides he can no longer deny his bisexuality, and begins to explore it.

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May 08, 2017
Cross-dressing led to bisexuality in middle age
by: Anonymous

I had never really had any sexual urges towards men and had only very occasionally experimented with cross-dressing when a teenager. My wife and I used to have an active and quite adventurous sex life, and when I had bought her some sexy lingerie she encouraged me to try it on, which I did and liked it. This continued and later my wife encouraged me to cross dress even more and to get wigs, shoes, and wear make up. At the same time our sex life had begun to fade away and I felt a desire to go out dressed, and then to play with other cross-dressers. My wife often encouraged me to do this, and said it was OK for me to have sex with other CDs or men. Sometimes it seemed to turn her on, other times she seemed to think it made me happy so I should, or just not to mind. I discovered that I really liked oral sex, first with other CDs then men, but only when I was cross-dressed. Later I felt bisexual urges even when not dressed and wanted oral sex both ways with men, and became less interested in heterosexual sex. I often try to suppress both the cross-dressing and bisexual urges but they keep on coming back, and now I feel more attracted to male oral sex than to sex with women.

Jan 03, 2017
Bisexuality & Crossdressing
by: Anonymous

I never felt bisexual until my 50's when my wife began to lose interest in sex and it almost stopped. I had occasionally experimented with cross-dressing when younger but only did it a lot with my wife's encouragement (in my 50s) when we were still sexually active together, she liked it too and the more I did it the more I felt a strong urge to experiment with men, but only when cross-dressed. My wife encouraged me to do this (we only have sex very occasionally now) and I have intermittently, at a Cross-dressers club and meeting people through the internet. I usually only feel bisexual urges when cross-dressed, and my wife claims to like me cross-dressing and to like or not to mind at all me experimenting with men if sex is safe. I have only given & received oral sex, but might want to do more. It does not stop me wanting heterosexual sex, but makes me feel more sexy all round.

Jun 10, 2015
Not sure but it could
by: Anonymous

I think that male menopause may or may not bring out bi behavior for all men I can only speak of my own experience . I'm now 47 and my wife and I have been married for almost 25 years now, sex hasn't happened in a very long time. Before I met my wife I was experimenting with cross dressing and was bi curious but suppress send my urges for our relationship. Now I'm older I'm now coming back out with my bisexual behavior. Could it be menopause or a combo of old behavior coming back up after being ignored that is why I'm bisexual and looking for a male mate?

Feb 10, 2012
Maybe indirectly
by: Anonymous

I had always been curious about a male encounter, but I never acted on it. I was brought up to believe that reacting to something like that was wrong.When I could no longer perform for my wife as consistently as when I was younger, she made a big deal out of this. This is about the time that I decided to act on these urges and I enjoyed it. I am still married and at this point I am in a dilemma as to whether I should tell my wife.I am sure what her reaction will be.

Dec 19, 2011
Understanding Male Menopause
by: AustinScott

The term "male menopause" is sometimes used to describe decreasing testosterone levels or a reduction in the bio-availability of testosterone related to aging. In men, hormone production and testosterone bioavailability decline more gradually. Other terms for so-called male menopause include testosterone deficiency, androgen deficiency of the aging male and late-onset hypogonadism.

Dec 12, 2011
Thank You
by: Anonymous

Thank You for writing such a wonderful piece of information.


Aug 20, 2011
Generic Viagra
by: Anonymous

Male Impotence is the very common problem in every men. There are many medicines to cure impotence problem like generic viagra, kamagra and Caverta. Andropause or male menopause, sometimes colloquially called "man-opause" is a name that has been given to a menopause-like condition in aging men. For more: http://www.realviagrarx.net/blog/male-menopause-fact-or-fiction/

Mar 21, 2011
Midlife crisis, bisexual and heterosexual stalemate
by: Anonymous

This is certainly what happened to me but I'm not sure whether it is intimacy and a full relationship that I want with a man -or- whether it is just an occasional sexual encounter.

I have a deep-seated desire to be close to another man, which I believe is intensified by a lack of intimacy with my father when I was a pre-teen and adolescent.

My situation is complicated by the fact that I love my wife and family. At times, but infrequently, we have been able to be intimate and make pretty passionate love. In many ways she has been my anchor and is a soul mate and I do not want to end my relationship with her for a number of reasons, not the least of which is that I/we want to raise our two beautiful daughters in the best possible way so that they can be raised in a loving 2 parent environment.

I also feel that this "bisexual" phase could pass and do not want to regret risking my marriage which has brought my wife and I a lot of joy together (and trying times).

Nonetheless, I feel I met a male soulmate a few years ago as well. We had a relationship that was somewhat intimate but ended fairly abruptly and decisively and now I find myself still longing to at least talk with him or find someone like him I can share with. I have been in therapy for some time now but I don't seem to be able to resolve the dilemma.

The recommendation my therapist has given me is to stay put, preserve my marriage and role as a father while thinking about what it is I might desire later with a man. Anyone have a similar situation or advice?

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