Ex-husband wants my help rebuilding his relationship with our children
Per my post of a couple of days ago, my husband left our home for the forbidden fruit of another woman in July - after 26 years of marriage. His relationship with our daughter has turned ugly. He cannot understand why she will not accept this new woman into her life, as she makes him so happy (gag). She is shoving this woman and her daughters down everyone's throats and my children are having a hard time with it. According to him, this new woman did nothing wrong - it was all his fault. I must note that this woman did do something wrong. She was having a relationship with a married man who had a ring on his finger the whole time. Regardless, he is having a hard time rebuilding his relationship with our daughter (who is 20) and has asked for my help in rebuilding it. I have declined, saying that he has made his bed, now he must lay in it.
I explained that perhaps he should have thought of the consequences before embarking on this journey, alas, I will not help him. My children and I are doing the best we can to rebuild our own lives and relationships without their father/my husband being home with us.
Please tell me I did the right thing. I don't think it's my responsibility to make this easier for him and to ease his guilt. I believe he thinks if everyone accepts this new woman and her daughters, then in his mind he's made the right decision - and the guilt will magically disappear. He doesn't deserve my help after the anguish, hurt, humiliation and debilitating sadness he's put our family through. Your thoughts?
I am with you. I see no reason you should bale him out of a predicament he got himself into.