Feeling Lost and Alone due to husband's MLC.

by T
(NJ)

The Question


I have been with my husband for 13 years. He is 43 and has been going through midlife crisis now for almost 2 years.

He has been very distant, cold and unloving for quite a while now and it's really starting to take it's toll on me. I feel very alone and I am starting to question my self worth.

He is very self absorbed lately, more then his usual self (He has always been a little). He rarely talks to me anymore. Always on the phone with his friends discussing toy trucks.

Last year he did have an emotional affair over the phone and computer and of course like every other person would be in my shoes, I am still struggling with this and have major trust issues... we fight a lot over this. (As far as I know that has ended but who knows?)

My husband has always been the type who wasn't very affectionate, but lately we live as roommates. We sleep in separate room, we haven't been intimate for a year (he has been having issues in this area... erectile dysfunction).

I guess my question is, how does one get through this? Is there a way to actually get through this? I am ready to throw in the towel, waive the white flag. Just tired of feeling alone.
Anyone???

Noel's response

I don't have any suggestions for you other than what I have suggested for a number of women who have written with similar problems. Perhaps if you read the other submissions you will find some help.

Maybe another reader has some advice?

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Jul 14, 2010
Did it again
by: Me

So, since I first posted this comment, I have found out that my husband had a prepaid cell phone behind my back and has been talking to this other "married" woman for a year...10 times a day!
I feel like a fool!!

After I took him back the last time, I tried so hard to make us work, and the whole time he was talking to her.

Says he talks to her cause she doesn't yell at him. (I don't yell at him, I ask him to contribute to household bills instead of spending all his money on his hobbies, he sees that as getting yelled at.)

Don't know what to believe anymore........

Noel: He sounds like a boy in a man's body. It might be time to move along with your own life.

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