He is almost 60, and wants more sex than ever
I assume my husband is having a mid-life crisis. He contacted a woman he has known for over twenty years that he always called his friend. He started having an affair with her.
After I confronted him for days and days, he stated that he felt his life was over. He had accomplished all his goals as far as career, the house is paid for and the kids are all gone.
He also felt I did not love him because I did not lust for his body. I found out that he was obsessed with sex and felt less than a man because I was not lusting after his body. We are working the problems out, but I find it hard to understand why so much is tied to sex. He is 59 and all of a sudden he wants to have sex everyday - maybe twice a day if I allow it.
It is early yet, but he has professed his love for me. I think the affair has ended but time will tell.
When men are lusting after more sex, especially at his age, it sometimes means they are losing some of their sexual power - starting to have occasional erectile dysfunction for example - and they begin to worry about it. They believe, often without even being aware of it, that if they can have frequent sex, they are still virile, and not losing their manhood.
Sex, and the penis, are for men what having attractive breasts, and looking desirable to men are for women. We are sexual beings, and when we begin to move away from our active sexual years at midlife and beyond, it can be frightening for some men, and for some women.