how can a men profess to loving children then look at young girls on porn

by Debbie
(Bremerton, Washington)

I still am not comfortable thinking that most men look at porn. But my dilemma is, how can a man say he loves kids, want to hang out with his young daughters, then look a porn with very young girls. I just don't get it. To me if you love young people, you don't lust after them too. Would someone please explain this to me?


Noel's response

I can't answer that question, but perhaps a reader can?

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Nov 17, 2011
Always two options
by: Anonymous

Did I mention that he lives out his behavior. Not only the does he look at porn of young girls, he looks at the same types of females in public. I could tell by his behavior in public what type of porn he looked at before I even knew. The funny thing is I am caught between both replies. Yes, it is innate that men are attracted to and aroused my females in their reproductive years, their daughter's age. Many men can control themselves by a certain age, many men don't. Many men take their porn use, their innate urges, to the streets by being avid oglers. AND, their significant others don't care. Even though a behavior may be biological, we are taught that certain things are to be kept private, to use discretion, have self respect. There are the lookers, this bothers some women and doesn't bother others!?!? But then again, what if?? What if he really does have a problem that is not genetically based, that is not a bad habit, limited to the computer? I have thought of both options, they could both be true. He does seem a bit more interested in youngs girls in public than makes me comfortable, am I being too sensitive? Can he control himself at some point, does he care more about us than his primal urges, can that habit be changed???? Besides the porn, I have asked him to try and keep his eyes in his head. It is easy to say ditch him, but I love him, and always feel people can change. I guess I will have to wait to see what happens, and let things play out naturally. He was single for many years, he is 59 and was only married for 4 years. He is a very loving man, but I am still watching to make sure his intentions are pure. Once burned....You know?

Nov 17, 2011
It's Natural (in my opinion)
by: Anonymous

I'm 17 (and female!) so this may be a little strange to hear coming from my demographic. I think it's a fetish of his. I think he has a healthy, normal love for his children (or are they just yours? It doesn't matter). I find father-daughter porn to be really hot. It's my favorite. Yet, I have totally normal platonic love and respect for both my father and step-father. I find neither one of them sexually appealing AT ALL! I have never fantasized about them, nor will I ever. The idea of that repulses me. This man your with could be drawn to young girl porn because it's an innate, animalistic instinct inside us all. It appeals to him because young women represent better chances at having offspring and producing multiple offspring versus older women. Think of it more as a deeply rooted ancestral urge versus him being a pedophile.

Nov 04, 2011
Be cautious
by: Anonymous

If this is the situation you find yourself in, all I can say and advise is to be VERY alert and cautious. This is the behaviour of a pedaphile in my opinion. Do you have any reason to suspect him of this with his daughters? Bear in mind that the girls may not be able to tell you. I know I was in this situation as a child and didn't tell my mom for years although I suspect she knew very well what was going on as it had happened to my older sister and then my younger ones. I will pray that you have wisdom and that nothing will get by you.

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