How can I help him?
(New Jersey )
Hi, I’m 24 and I recently broke up with my boyfriend who is 36. Apparently he is too confused about his emotions and doesn't want to hurt me. lately he’s become confused about everything - his job, his money and everything in-between.
Sometimes I feel like I act more mature than him in spite of our age difference. This all was triggered by the death of his father 2 years ago. I feel like I love him and don’t want to break up, I’m really trying to be understanding, and giving him more space to figure things out. But I know he’s hurting, he’s even started using drugs again.
All this disruptive behavior is taking a toll on me personally too because I really don’t know how to help him. Noel's response
Chances are the best way to help him is to continue to give him the space he is asking for, and let him know you are moving on with your own life. When he gets through this transition, and if he wants to get back together with you, you can decide whether you want him back.