How do I deal as a wife

We have been together for 19 years and have two children. One is 18 and going to college and the other is 11.

My husband has not been wanting to have sex and doesn't know what he wants or if he is in love with me. Before all this happened he was the type that could have sex daily.

Can you tell me what to do or possibly what is going on.

Noel's response

I suggest marriage counseling if he is willing. I suspect he is in the midlife transition, and may even experience some impotence.

A full medical would be a good idea as well, in case he has some condition that is causing his lack of interest in sex.

You have not mentioned whether he is on any medication, but some, such as statin drugs for lowering cholesterol, can cause a man to lose interest in sex.