How do they feel when they decide to return to the marriage
My H was in a full blown MLC for 7 years, left had a girlfriend filed for divorce and when I said ok enough is enough, he decided he wanted to work on the marriage and stopped the divorce.
For me it was what I begged for but now I could care less, he has betrayed me our marriage our family and the innocence of the blessed life I thought we had for 35 years is gone.
I wonder why he would do an about face, he acts as if nothing every happened, gets annoyed if I ask questions and is living his life as if he never caused his family life to be imploded. What gives.
My guess is that he got to the edge of the precipice, took a look over and realized what he would be losing if he went through with the divorce. He now doesn't want to talk about it because he feels shame and embarrassment about what he did, and would rather just go ahead as though nothing happened.
If you are ever going to get the trust back you once had, you and he will almost certainly have to go through some marriage counseling to help you both express what was happening then, and how it is for you now. I doubt very much whether you will be able to do this on your own.