How many Couples reunite after a divorce?

by Annie
(Rochester, NY)

After 34 years of marraige my husband filed for divoce to be with his high school sweetheart. Our counselor told him he is facing a true mid life crisis; however, he is in denial. He has told me that he is not sure if he is doing the right thing or not, but cannot get this woman out of his head or his heart and of course, she is telling him the same thing, so he says he has to give it a chance to see if this is what he truly wants. He says that if he finds he has made the biggest mistake of his life, he would like me to give him another chance. I love this man with my whole heart and this is killing me; but I cannot let go. I know it sounds crazy, but I am willing to wait to see what happens. My question is what is the chance that he will find that he already had everything he needs right here with his wife and family and come back? If so, how long does it usually take someone to realize such a thing? How many of you have heard of couples re-marrying? My children and I are shattered and we know that he will realize what he no longer has.


Noel's response

I don't know the percentage of people who divorce and remarry. You might be able to find that statistic on the internet, but the statistic doesn't really matter, as the real question is 'what will happen in our case'.

If you are willing to wait for him to see whether he will come back, I suggest you ask him not to marry this woman, but rather just live with her for whatever time it takes for them to find out if their relationship is 'real'. Divorce and marriage are legal procedures, and if he divorced you, married her, then divorced her and remarried you, it could be a legal nightmare.

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