husband has returned
Well my husband has returned home still has his flat but never stays there over night. He says its a bolt hold just in case things don't work out for us.
As yet our sex life has been none existent, I think that it may be to soon yet. He seems quite secretive at times about his whereabouts and his spending lots on clothes again some of which I have not even seen just seen them on the bank statements. He does not talk much sleeps quite a lot when at home.
I don't want to put pressure on him to add to his crisis my question is how should husbands be when they have asked to return home and given up the other woman? After all I only want him to be happy and feel he has done the right thing for himself not anyone else.
I have told him if he is not happy to go to which he replied shouting and screaming are you throwing me out I replied calmly that no I was not but I was also not holding him as a prisoner and it was his choice if he wanted to stay or go.
I must add he did remain here and has done a few little jobs around the house and I am hopeful that we can get our marriage back on track once and for all. It just seems so hard when he wont open up and talk about things.
Maybe its me maybe I am not at the point of trusting him fully yet and need answers to help me move on from this nightmare that has lasted what seems like a life time, all the hurt and pain that was caused by all of this is hard to get over and I never want that again.
I would appreciate your honest and open opinions on my situation. Noel's response
It is not surprising that you do not fully trust him yet. It takes a long time for trust to build again, and even if your partner clearly demonstrates that he is trustworthy. At the moment, as you say, he seems secretive, which does not help build trust.
I assume you have suggested marriage counselling? if he won't go, about the only thing I can recommend is that you bide your time and wait for things to get better, but do maintain some boundaries.