Husbands emotional affair.

by Julir Reese
(Maryland)

My husband came to me abt a year ago and said that he didn't know if he loved me or not anymore. I found out 3 months later that he had been having an emotional affair/friendship with another woman. When I found out and confronted it he was supposedly giving up the relationship. I just found out after 6 months that he has a separate phone so they can talk behind my back.

He doesn't want to give up on us, but does not want to give up the friend. Does this sound like a midlife crisis? I feel that he is so messed up and not making good decisions right now.

Noel's response

It does sound like a midlife crisis, and although he may not be making good decisions right now, you have a right to insist he give up the 'friend' if you choose.

I suggest marriage counseling if he is willing to go.