I am 19years old and my boyfriend is 42 years old and he has wife and 2 children. shoud i break up?

by sheri
(sydney)

my boy friend's wife always hurt him and broke his heart and they aren't have sex with each other. he only lives with her because their children, i love him so much and he love me too. plz tell me what should i do??


Noel's response

I doubt that given the conditions you describe your relationship has any real chance of surviving. It is up to you whether you break up and find someone you can have a long-lasting relationship with, or carry on with this man until it comes to a natural end.

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Nov 21, 2011
God Bless You
by: Anonymous

When I was 18 years old, I liked a guy that was 31 years old. He told me that he had a girlfriend that he was livIng with and it was not working out. When in all honesty he just wanted to have sex with me, some men take advantage of us being young. Sex with a married man is adultery, this is not God's will and there are consequences for our actions. God created man for woman, any relationship ungodly is not God's will. If your not saved God wants you to be, Jesus is the answer. Seek and you will find, knock and the door will be opened.

Nov 17, 2011
Karma
by: Anonymous

You want things in life to be fair then treat others fairly. Any forty yr old cheating on his wife with anyone especially one so young is only feeding an insecurity the man has. So that means number one he just keep cheating even on his mistress because he will never feel good about his actions and to look in the face of his mistress will be a constant reminder of his failures in his own integrity. Second karma is a funny thing..if everyone new how devastating it felt like to be betrayed yours wouldn't do it it to someone else. What that means is have respect for other peoples marriage problems and don't get involved with someones husband. Your not saving anyone and its not real love. There no respect for cheaters or their mistresses.

Nov 16, 2011
AWAKE!
by: Anonymous

Its so hard when you are in that situation for you try to be blind with the consequences of your action. On the first place you know the answer to your question. Your inner conscience shout at you but it seems you cant hear because you love him. Loving someone is not good enough, you must also love your self above all. Your so young and damn in love with the wrong person.Try to assess things.

Nov 10, 2011
wife
by: sandy

I'm in the same situation with you except I'm the wife.(we're 43 years old and have been married for 17 years.) My husband and I have some problems in our life about money. In our country we have to pay tuition for our kids but he doesn't want to work hard for them and I have been working my ass off. One day he met a 20 years old German girl and she is welcome him into her life. He decided to leave us. Maybe they are in love or he just want to run away from being a responsible dad and husband. He can take her to eat, buy her clothes but every time we have to pay tuition, he said he doesn't have money. So as long as the girl just want to have fun with no responsibility, it would be fine. So you should know both side of the story before you make any decision. Remember one thing, once a man can walk out from his family, it will be second and third.

Nov 09, 2011
in the same boat
by: Anonymous

Hi, i was going thru the same thing..
Im 19 and my noone is 42, unhappily married and 2 kids...
My head is now need up, as when she found out she fucked him out, so he came and lived with me , 2 days later he said he cudnt cope without his kids , so dumped me and went back to them. A day or 2 later he better me bk, stupidly i did, and 12 days down the line hes gone bk to her...im now gunna move on. Hope u do to x

Nov 04, 2011
I say dump him he is using you
by: Anonymous

I agree with Noel's comments and might add that if he is unwilling to leave his wife and make a solid commitment to you then you are being used. He can still see his kids and have a relationship with them if he separates from his wife, that is his right. Please seriously evaluate what this situation could mean for your chance for real happiness and a family down the road. I know many who at 19 thought this was the greatest relationship and true love, but then come 25 or 30 or.... they find that they are still out there getting used by men and not finding love or respect. Be good to yourself and dump him.

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