i believe my boyfriend is gay he is 44 years old

by vita
(skokie, il)

I'm so sure my boyfriend is gay. We lived together I just left him. I'm so sure he is gay/bi in denial. I feel used and hurt. I love him we wanted to get marry but we were more like sexless nothing about me he liked. I'm sure he had an affair with his best friend and our gay neighbor. When I confronted him; he got very nervous, his face was red but in denial and didn't want to talk about it anymore. I know I didn't catch him in the act but all the signs were all around me plus I was able to read him so good. I miss him but I wont go back not only that he rejected me but he will verbal and emotional hurt me and then at the same time he loved me and didn't want me to leave....


I would like to find therapy help or support someone that has been used to cover a lie. I'm so devastated we were together for 2 1/2 years. I still love him and miss him.

Noel's response

I don't know that you can help him, as he may not want to go to therapy (although you could suggest it) but I recommend some therapy for you in order to help recover from this difficult situation.

There are psychologists in most cities. You can find them online or in the yellow pages.

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