I feel attracted toward other women and I have never had another woman in my life.

by mans
(india)

The Question

I feel attracted toward other women and I have never had another woman in my life. I am now 52 yrs and still have the urge. I also can't avoid looking at other women's boobs, which really turn me on.

Is it wrong to have another woman? Does this happen to other men too? is it normal? And what do I do?

Noel's response

Being attracted to, and fantasizing about being with other women seems to be very common during midlife transitions. Looking at other women's boobs is also common.

You did not mention whether you and your wife are still having sex, but if she is in menopause, or is through menopause, chances are she has lost interest in sex.

I cannot tell you whether having another woman is wrong for you, but you can easily find the answer to that for yourself by simply pondering it quietly in your heart.

I know having other women is wrong for me.

Regarding what you do, my advice is to stick with the fantasies, and do not act on them, as it will in all likelihood bring pain into your life, for yourself and your wife.

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