i have lost interest in sex

by john paul
(belfast)

i have lost all drive in sex, i dont make love to my wife now and haven't for for a long time. i used to watch some porn on the net but not even that anymore, im 49 , and i wonder if i should start doing lots of exercise again and lose some weight im 5,11 and 17 stone, i was a very very fit guy a few years ago, and had sex with many many women over the years before i married.


Noel's response:

Losing weight is probably a very good idea and being overweight may be contributing somewhat to you loss of interest in sex. It will also help with your general health. But you might also want to try some sexual counseling to try to discover why you lost interest in sex after you got married.

You are also at the age where it is common for a man to go through the transition to the 'third age', which is an inner journey, and at which time it is not uncommon to have a drop in sex drive. But not necessarily to lose it altogether.