I need clarity...Help
I'm a 27yr old woman and my live-in boyfriend just turned 50. I found out a couple of weeks ago that he cheated on me on several occasions since we've been together. He admitted to everything, but says that he's changed and wants only me. He tells me that he has always had these walls around him and never thought that any woman could love him for who he was and its always been a pattern for him to screw things up before he got hurt. But now he realizes that I do love him for who he is. He's truly remorseful and begged me not to leave and says he will do anything I ask of him. We have been together for 3 yrs and living together for 1 year and 3 months. I really love this man and chose to forgive him but I am still very hurt. He has agreed to give me the passwords to his laptop and phone and he agreed to us going to counseling. Could this have just been a phase or do I need to run for the hills. I do see that he's trying to gain my trust again, but is this also just a phase he's going through?
Please tell me what you think.
I think you are on the right track by going to counseling. As you work with the counselor, you should be able to tell for yourself whether you should stay or go.