I think I blew things up!
(Salt Lake City, utah)
I have been married to 43 year old workaholic for 15 years. I'm not sure when every thing started I just know I felt the distance and our sex life became non-existent. (Trust me I tried) After many fights, and him says he was "going to leave" I pushed the issue so he left. He has been gone a little over a month. We have dated every week and he has come to one counseling session.
On the last date, I had found out he is hiding money. So I mentioned it ( not very nice I might add) he instantly got mad , which a fight followed.
So after not hearing from him, I apologized. His response " I still care deeply about you and I love you and just want you to be happy". I'm so confused. I responded with I don't want to live my life alone anymore... It's been two days no response.
I know I have always been second to work. In fact he was there when we scheduled our 2nd counseling session, which was before our fight, he cannot make because of a work trip he scheduled.
He keeps saying he is evaluating the man is was and is trying to figure out the man he should be. But in my opinion, is doing little to change. Still work comes first. He will go weeks without calling his daughter 14. But has changed physical thing, new clothes, working out, etc.
I know I need to just shut up, it's hard.
Did I blow it?