is he still in midlife crisis
My husband has been gone for over two years he has been living with the other woman for six months but it has ended lots of times this time it has ended for eight months he finished it so he says He has also said he wants to come back home to live and be with me and his children i started off letting him stay a couple of nights we share a bed but i do not have sex with him as i don't really see that he is making any effort to repair our marriage yes he helps out yes we go out to places but a lot of the time we go out the other woman always seems to find out where we are and turns up so we end up moving on to somewhere else is it usual for the walk away spouse to not make much effort if he truly want to come back home and be with us?
I recommend marriage counselling to help heal your marriage. In fact I think you should insist on the counseling. If he is not willing, he may not be committed to repairing the marriage, or he may afraid he will be made into the 'bad guy' in the counselling, but that should not happen with a professional counselor.