is he still in midlife crisis

My husband has been gone for over two years he has been living with the other woman for six months but it has ended lots of times this time it has ended for eight months he finished it so he says He has also said he wants to come back home to live and be with me and his children i started off letting him stay a couple of nights we share a bed but i do not have sex with him as i don't really see that he is making any effort to repair our marriage yes he helps out yes we go out to places but a lot of the time we go out the other woman always seems to find out where we are and turns up so we end up moving on to somewhere else is it usual for the walk away spouse to not make much effort if he truly want to come back home and be with us?


Noel's response

I recommend marriage counselling to help heal your marriage. In fact I think you should insist on the counseling. If he is not willing, he may not be committed to repairing the marriage, or he may afraid he will be made into the 'bad guy' in the counselling, but that should not happen with a professional counselor.

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Jun 05, 2013
Is he still in Crisis?
by: Anonymous

He may come and go a few times before he is finally ready to stay. This is called a Touch-and-go. Please go to midlifecrisismarrigeadvocate.com to read more about this. YOu will find the best info out there at this site. Hugs again, NWF

Jun 05, 2013
Is he still in Crisis?
by: NWF

This all seems normal. MLC takes a long time...for the return also. If he helps...be happy about that. Watch for the small changes and simply listen to him, really actively listen. He needs to show remorse..for you, not pity for him. Give him some space, no pressure (for a while) and give him time. He will not be ready to talk about anything yet....give him time. Things may slowly get better but insist that he may only stay with you if the OW is gone and NC with her...at all.

Hugs

Jun 05, 2013
not the sort of person to talk to anyone
by: Anonymous

he wont go to couciling he wont even speak to me about his feeling never did before all this he was always one to sweap everything under the carpet or pretend it just never happened im begining to think there just is no hope at all for us

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