Is it a Midlife Crisis?

I'm 41 and my boyfriend is 52. We have been together going on 10 years and have lived together going on four years. In the last year or so he began to pick arguements over dumb issues almost childish issues and when I respond back with the wrong answer he tells me to get out of his house.Sometimes we won't talk for a few days and when we do we never discuss what happened until the next episode and it's the same thing over and over.He tells me I can't ride with him to the local bar because he may want to leave sooner. He constantly spends time alone in the basement and goes to bed very early. I'm at my wit's end. What is happening to a once happy relationship?


Noel's response

It sounds as though it could be a midlife transition, and being in his early fifties, he is the right age for what I call the 'existential crisis', which I talk about on this site.

This too shall pass, and I don't know that there is much you can do about it, except decide how much you will and will not put up with. You might look at the 'for women' page on this site.

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