is it me or him?

by claire
(london)

I am 25 and seeing a man of 49. We had sex for the first time and he didn't ejaculate. We did it a few times and he would get an erection but not ejaculation. Is it me? Am I not good enough in bed or does he have a problem? Erectile dysfunction or something?


Noel's response

You haven't given much information, but my guess is it is him rather than you. It is not erectile dysfunction, as you say he does get an erection. There could be a variety of causes for his failure to ejaculate, most likely psychological/emotional rather than physical ailment, but there could be a physical cause as well. A visit to his Doctor would be a good idea.

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Feb 23, 2012
thats cause hes taking blue pills to keep up...
by: Anonymous

hes on viagra, one of the side effects... especially if hes not with the underlying non physical issues....

Jan 30, 2012
Is it me or him??
by: NWF

It is him!! He is doing this because the ejaculation brings emotional closeness. Without the ejaculation, there is no emotional value to the sex--it's just sex and he gets to keep his distance. He is probably having a midlife crisis as well. Why are you dating this older man?? I would be very, very cautious if I were you. Is he married?? I bet he is!

Move-on to someone closer to your age and interests.

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