Is my husband having a MLC??

by Sarah
(UK)

Hi


My husband and I have been together for 18 years and have two children. He is 38 and I am 37. We have separated twice before (once due to an affair) but we got back together. He lost his mother 18 months ago and then his father 5 months later. I also had a heart attack that same year. We had a good life doing family things every weekend and spending all our time together. We have had our fair share of arguments and ups and downs but on the whole I thought everything was ok until two months ago. After an argument he left and came back two days later and told me he didn't know what he wanted anymore but he still loved me. He said he was going to live at a friends house but I have since discovered he was living with another woman this whole time. He hardly has any contact with the kids and if he does it is only an occasional phone call or text. He might come to visit for an hour once a week. He now tells me he left because he felt alone and unloved because we didn't have sex often enough. He has told me he still loves me and misses me but isn't in love with me. I love my husband dearly and want him to come home. Is my husband going through a MLC or is it just a simple case of he wanted someone else??

Noel's response

I suspect it is a midlife transition. Read the other letters here. Many women have written in under similar circumstances.

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