Is this a Midlife crisis??

My boyfriend and I were doing great one day and the next he was angry with me for anything I did. He started being distant, didn't answer phone calls or text. After a week or 2 of this I told him I was done with it. He said fine. After 3 yrs of a great relationship he didn't care.


I talked to him he told me it had nothing to do with another woman he just needed space. Then a few weeks later I saw pics of him on fb with another woman. That lasted a few short months and then he moved a younger woman in with him. He still texts or calls occasionally says he misses me and what we had, but is still with her. He is 51 yrs old, I still love him very much and just wonder if
you think this is a midlife crisis?

Noel's response

It certainly has all the markings of one.

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Jan 12, 2012
IS THIS a midlife crisis
by: JO

I never heard of it really til I was looking for answers, til I felt his wrath, til life threw me a curve ball, til I found myself in love alone, til I thought I was living someone else's life. til I wondered if maybe I could wake up from the nightmare, the loneliness, the betrayal, the emptiness, the excuses, .....til he gave me the "speech" on our 35th anniversary:"you might be happy, but I'm not, I like her and she rejected me" life hasn't been the same, i''m sure it can't be,. he really did love me so well for so long. I use to feel embarrassed to think I had something others could only hope to ever have, I felt undeserving of all the good I had been blessed with. I was so very aware of these blessings. always certain to praise him, encourage him, support him, brag him up, respect him love him and let him know . I wanted to make him as happy and grateful as he made me. then someone came along and did all that for him. something, a feeling, you can't compete with. a longing that won't stop, a lust , that poisoned him. though he says he knows he only drank the poison and wanted more . I can't compete with that, I wouldn't even know how to try. I know he knows I love him , it just doesn't matter., his happiness was and his mine. I lost him along time ago. I still wonder how.why I pray the Lord makes sense of it for me. I'm so afraid the Lord doesn't think I'm strong enough to know, so He's only fed me baby food for 5 years, the anger from my husband, the verbal abuse, selfish style, immature, controlling, mean, foolish, yet somehow content with himself, is all unbelievable, and I feel he realizes . so some evil force has definitely enabled him to make the choices he has and set in front of him someone who could fill all his needs and wants without even trying to appear caring, loving, or compassionate. just exciting, enthusiastic, sexy, and challenging,. everything he needs --except more of a chance to prove he can be the same to her. I'm sure he has, but it takes several others to fulfill those orders, so "does he understand?" he said "it's my fault for wanting more." "not her fault at all"

Sep 26, 2011
Confused
by: I just turned 32

Me and My husband of four years have been doing good with our family we have 9 children together we are doing well financially we are always together and talk about everything one month after he turned 40 we made love and he got up as usual and dropped our 4 children off at school came back to make love again we slept when i awoke our 3 toddlers were in there rooms sleep and my husband was gone he didn't say anything I just can't understand he's been gone for over a week left his cell phone and took the kids minute phone and will not answer my calls or text or voicemails what happened


Sep 05, 2011
WHY?
by: Anonymous

Why do men going through midlife crisis get so angry with and blame their wives or girlfriends for everything that is going on? What makes them say such hurtful things to the person they were suppose to love? So hard to understand

Sep 05, 2011
WHY?
by: Anonymous

Why do men going through midlife crisis get so angry with and blame their wives or girlfriends for everything that is going on? What makes them say such hurtful things to the person they were suppose to love? So hard to understand

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