Kissing means Passion and Desire to me

I put that Topic up because I feel that it is and has been lacking in our marriage. My husband tries but doesn't know how or feel like doing the things that lead up to sex and/or making love. He admitted after he gave me the engagement ring he could take it or leave it when it comes to kissing. That was after I tried kissing him and he backed off. I should have ended it right there because kissing has always been my number one form of showing affection and desire to the one I have feelings for or love. I didn't end it because I thought he would change or didn't really mean it since he kissed me all the while we were dating. He said later that a guy has to do that to get the girl.

I guess it is up to me if I have to accept living this way or not. I is making me unhappy. Our sex life has gone down too. Used to be because he was so tired but at least it was better. Now I think it is our age. Advice would be appreciated.

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Sep 28, 2015
Thank you
by: Debra Philbrick

Just wanted to say thank you for your advice. It makes sense and seems like the right thing to do. Thanks again!

Sep 27, 2015

by: Noel

I am not sure what to suggest. You don't mention your age, but as you found this website I assume you are at least in your 40s.

Perhaps some counselling would help you adjust to the situation, or at least figure out what is and is not acceptable to you.

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