Love enough?

by Rcl
(Arizona)

Husband left to find himself 4 months ago. Said loved me, just not enough , he thought. Still said I love you too whenever I said it to him. We talk frequently on the phone ( 3 to 4 times a week) and I see home at least 2 or 3 times during the week. Lately no I love you, just kiss on lips and hugs (sometimes very strong ,sometimes not). Does not seem at all happy now that he is out of the house and all the family responsibilities. Seems happy to see me when I surprise him at work and sometimes just seems pained at everything. Could this be midlife crisis or something else. We have been married 27 years and have 4 children. Some kids still in college or high school and oldest trying to find her way with our help. Your opinion? Please

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Jun 19, 2015
Love enough?
by: NWF

RCL, I would not tell him that you love him (he already knows that)...that puts too much pressure on him to respond in kind. He has gone to go thru a rebirth by himself. Give him space and have NO expectations. He will make it on his own or he will not. This is his crisis and it seems it is time for him (after 9 years)to rebuild himself from the broken pieces of the past that he wants to keep hidden...at least for now. Be kind to him but live your life, there is nothing else you can do now. He will learn for your strength and kindness. This is not your fault and you cannot fix it for him, only support him as he goes thru the end of the tunnel. This is his time to grow internally and he must do it on his own time-line.

Take care of yourself!

Jun 18, 2015
it could be a mlc
by: Noel

He seems to be the right age, and have the right symptoms for a midlife crisis, or at least a midlife transition.

Have you showed him this website? Perhaps he would find something useful here.

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