Can his feelings change in midlife transition?  The Question

I'm 43 he is 42. I was laid off of a well paying job nine months ago. We started arguing over money and paying bills. My husband is on ...

How did your wife deal with your MLC  The Question

How did your wife deal with your midlife crisis? How long did it last for you?

My husband is starting in on his fourth year!! Very ...

HARLEY DREAMIN 
The question

I am 49 year's young. I don't want to come off as petty, I know their are many problems in this world. I personally have many problems,...

What Am I Going to Do?  The Question

Dear Noel:

Im 47 years old and I think I'm going through some kind of mid-life crisis. I went back to school at 44, not because of ...

thinking of starting college at age 47  The Question

I just turned 47 and regret not going to college. I did attend for a week when I was 19, then never went back. I was making, I thought,...

Fearless-Certainty becomes Cold-Empty-Indifference  The Question

Somewhere after High School I seemed to be driven by a mission designed by a higher power.

Shortly after my 52nd birthday, I started ...

I'm struggling, and my boyfriend/fiance is riding away...  The Question

I have been dating Bob or 7 years. He has lived with me and my two kids for 4 years of those 7 years.

Last Christmas was a disaster....

My husband doesn't know what he wants  The Question

Out of the Blue my husband told me he didn't know if he wanted to be married anymore. I am devastated. He has never even said anything ...

Can a midlife crisis change a man so drastically  The Question

My husband and I have been together for about 27 years and we have two young children. We have overcome many obstacles over the years ...

Midlife crisis  Question

Please help I am losing it... my husband was on Oxycotin everyday for 7years of our 9 year marriage. the Doctor put him on it. Everyday...there ...

Cheating  Question

I've been with a man for six years. He is 47, and I believe he is going through midlife crisis.

He thinks that cheating is okay, and ...

Husband in midlife crisis ?  Question

My husband met another woman & moved in with her after he claims he'd only known her for four weeks. He is nearly 53yrs old. She is 39 yrs ...

How can I get him back? I think I truly love and care for him  Question

My boyfriend came out of 20 years of marriage and saw me as the best thing that ever happened to him.

But lately he began finding faults ...

How Long does it last?  Question:
how long does the transition last?

Noel's Answer:

It varies. With some men, it is a few weeks, with others, several months, and with ...

Going back to school at 55  Question

I'm 55 and interested in going back to college. Actually, I did go to college a year ago and dropped out after 10 weeks because I was afraid ...

I looked after him all these years, now he has left.  The Question

My husband told me three weeks ago that he loved me but wasn't in love with me. Three days later he filed for divorce. Said he wasn't ...

Does EVERY man go through a midlife crisis?  The Question

Does every man go through a mid-life crisis? my boyfriend is about to turn 41 and I've noticed A LOT of changes in him. We've only been ...

if and when men leave?  The Question

A man had an affair and his wife had left, then they had reconciled but the man didn't seem to be remorseful. What are the chances of ...

Excitement in Life  The Question

Hi Noel,

I have been with my partner for nine years and it was just a few days ago he decided that he needed some excitement in his ...

My 50 year old boss is having a midlife crisis - and I have a crush on him?  The Question

Here we go:

I am 30, and my boss is 50. We are both very successful in our company; in fact, my boss recruited me, and I have been ...

Time to move on?  The Question

I've been with my partner for seven years, married for two of those and living in Japan (as an ex pat) for five years. We also planned ...

MIDLIFE CRISIS AND HAVING AFFAIRS  The Question

While men are going through Midlife Crisis, I have read that they more likely go for younger women. I am five years younger than my ...

husband says he doesn't love me.  The Question

My husband says he no longer loves me. I think he really does but is going through a rough time.

I want to know how best to help ...

Is my 38 year old boyfriend going through a midlife crisis?  The Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two months. Things started off amazing between us. He was happy and so full of life ...

Left me for another woman  The Question

My husband left me two days before New Years Eve. I was totally shocked. We have two children, son is 19 and daughter is 16, and they ...

Confused 
The question

I am a 42 year old Man, and I have lost all my normal energy and interest in sex. All I want to do is sit around and watch tv. Normally ...

Orgasm 
The question

Hi, my husband (44 years this year) and I have been married for 8 years. I have 3 concerns.

a) My husband has not been having an ...

is my husband having a mid life crisis  The Question

I was with my husabnd for 11 years and married for three.

He is 32 and has ran off with a friend of mine who is 19 years old. He has ...

Support groups for women?  Do Support groups exist for women whose husbands are going through a mid life crisis? I live in Miami, Florida

Noel's response

I do not know of ...

Life didn't turn out the way I thought, and it is bothering me  The Question

I am not sure if I am having a mid-life crisis or am just depressed.

I am a 46 year old male, married for 25 years with no children....

My husband can't make decisions  The Question

I think my husbands in a midlife crisis. He left two weeks ago. I tell him I love him but he seems so angry and is not in love with me....

Do all midlife men who leave their wives get involved or are already in an affair?   The Question

My husband of 28 years has left home and says he does not have the same feelings for me. I have looked for signs of an affair but have ...

Midlife man back with ex  The Question

All the symptoms are pointing that my husband is in midlife crisis.

He did a lot of things difficult to explain. He does not want ...

Angry and manipulated.  The Question

I am 48 years old and it seems like there are now two families in my life. One is my wife and the children. The other is me and the ...

support groups  The Question

Are you aware of any support groups in the Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania area for men with mid-life crisis?

Noel's response

I Googled ...

Boss mid-life crisis  The Question

My boss is going through a mid life crisis which threatens the entire organization.

He is potentially going to sell the company which ...

Now What?  I am what everybody says one of the most successful surgeons in the country I live in. I am the top earner of the hospital group I work for.

I worked ...

enlarged prostate  The Question

Last year when my husband had his yearly exam, the doctor said he had an enlarged prostate. This year at his exam the doctor said he ...

Is this mid-life crisis? Please help me  The Question

This past year my husband has forgotten our anniversary and my birthday, in all the years (13), he has never forgotten them. Our sex ...

Does it make sense to try to help my husband through this?  The Question

Does it make any sense for me to make my husband aware of the fact that the reason for his erratic behaviour is that he is actually suffering ...

How to handle husband suffering from MLC?  The Question

My husband is 51 years old. He is good looking, and a successful man. He has been the best husband, father, son, friend and a relative ...

Is my husband going through a mid-life crisis?Is he going to leave me?  The Question

My husband and I have been together for 12+ years. We have always been inseparable,truly enjoying one another's company and very loving ...

Mid-life crisis or mental illness?  Hi Noel:

I don't know if my husband is in a mid-life crisis or mentally ill (paranoia) but I am tire of his odd behavior. I want to help but he's ...

Will my husband come back  The Question

My husband, I am sure, is having a midlife crisis. He showed all the signs before he left. We've been married for 12 years and have ...

Right livelihood crisis  The Question

At 24 I "fell" into a career as a government official. It was the depths of a recession and, as a new graduate out of work for a year,...

How do I make this last?  The Question

I am 49 years old. My wife and I went through a mid-life change together several years ago. When we were in our 40s, (Her early 40s,...

My husband has an urge to be on his own.  The Question


Four weeks ago my husband came home and told me he had quit his job (although his boss talked him into staying)and told me that although ...

How long will this abuse go on?  The Question


My husband and I have been married 20 years, and for the last nearly two years we have been separated because he told me ne was no ...

How Come The Men Get Off So Easy?  The Question

I've read through some of your scenarios here - I don't see any happy endings in terms of the "previous" life?

I wonder about the ...

my husband doesnt know what he wants 
Six weeks ago my husband left me for another woman. He is not living with her though, as he said she has a boyfriend, but he can't stop thinking about ...

is my spouse going thru a mid life crisis?  The Question

We live common law. we have been together 19 years and have two beautiful daughters.

In early summer he had a one night affair....

Do Men Ever Get Through A Midlife Crisis?  The Question

My husband is 50 and left me for a 25 year old. Do men ever come out of a mid-life crisis and how long does it take?

Noel's response ...

Can men go through a midlife crisis at the age 35?  The Question

My husband has been acting like a complete bachelor for the past 5 months now. He is drinking, draining our bank accounts on his drinking,...

My husband thinks he is a failure  The Question

Hello,

About 3 months ago, it was as if a switch were flipped and my usual loving husband suddenly became very quiet and then told ...

My Husband and a Midlife crisis or transition?  Question

My husband and I recently separated after 21 years of marriage. I don't know what has happened except that we both were unhappy and I suggested ...

Husbands Mid Life Crisis  Question

I am 46 and my Husband is about to turn 50. My Husband was the most loving kindest gentle man I have ever known. I have known him for 30 ...

My marriage  Question

I am 52 years old and my husband is 55. We are both in our second marriages and are both grandparents.

My husband and I went out 34 years ...

mid life crisis in marrage  Question

My husband and I were married for 28 years. He stood by me during menopause and I want to stand by him. He says he is not in love with me....

Get my husband to couseling  Question

My husband and I got together 1988 and married in 1996. Several years after marriage we started trying to conceive to no avail. Tried fertility ...

What are psychological changes that take place in the midlife?  Question

I am 46 years old...am a teacher. I just notice I'm more irritable and easily get angry now than before except I know I am hypertensive. I ...

Yes women have it also  Question

My wife's father passed away, our eldest went to college, and she has become a different person. Was always kind, extremely devoted. Now ...

MidLife Crisis in Men  Question

At what age do men usually start going through mid life crisis?

Noel's response

It can happen anywhere from age thirty five to fifty....

Shall i wait   Question

My husband is age 53. We've been separated for 4 yrs now. He left me, because he said he fell out of love for me, and admitted he has an ...

Husbands midlife crisis  Question

If you know your husband has been carrying Viagra and Cialis with him, is there any reason besides an affair?

A counsellor said he was ...

Midlife Crisis Mood swings  Question

Can anyone help me!
My husband has left me 13 weeks ago due to infidelity during a midlife Crisis. He is 46 and his new girlfriend is 19....

transient sweating  Question

I literally get hot flashes several times a day. I sit there and just start sweating, not just my face, but everywhere. It interrupts my ...

My husband wants to retire, and I don't want him to  Question

Got married two months back, my husband is 11 years my senior divorced was married at 23 and has three kids living in the west with his x....

coming back to the women he left  Question

What are the chances that a man who went through a mid-life crises will want to reconnect with the women he left?

Noel's reply

I ...

My husband hides things  Question

I have been married for about three years, and in the last year my husband has started to act strangely.

I will put something someplace,...

How can I see that my husband's MC is ending?  Question

My husband is 42 years (me 41), we have a daughter of 5 and we are married for 15 years.

He started to act strangely 18 months ago. He ...

Men who have affairs and leave home  Question

My husband left home six weeks ago, and is living at his mother's. I found texts from a woman he had been seeing. He said the relationship ...

Men who have affairs and leave home  Question

My husband left home six weeks ago, and is living at his mother's. I found texts from a woman he had been seeing. He said the relationship ...

Hyperactivity  Question

My husband just turned 55. In the past month he has become extremely hyperactive along with changing his entire attitude about work and home....

Relationship  Comment

We have been happily married for 35 years. Within the last year we have both lost our jobs. He has mentioned that he feels worthless. I have ...

my partnerkeeps changin his mind  Question

For three years now is he suffering from mid life crisis. I have been with my partner, we do not live together but I stay at his a lot he ...

feeling like a failure  Question

My husband is 41 and recently we had a boarder(female) who was removed from the house on my part because I felt like a fifth wheel in my ...

When all this will be end   Question
My husband and I have been married for 3 years, and we have been happy.

I am 29 and my husband is 54 years old. But last year he told me ...

I caught my husband talking to another woman   Question

I caught my husband talking to a woman on a strange cell phone the second day after we got back from vacation.

He was in the motor home ...

dont want to regret   Question

I have a great girl friend who is perfect for me but I have a 7 year old boy and his mom wants to give it another try. I am afraid if I ...

Does this sound like mid-life crisis?  Question

My husband is 48 years old and he recently went to a conference for work in Texas.

He is a cowboy and ended up riding a bull while there ...

Can a married man in his 44 become bisexual?  Question

In the last five years my husband is spending more time with gay friends. I think he has become bisexual.

I'm 12 years younger than him ...

Of course! It is a midlife crisis.  Question

For just about a year I have researched, watched, listened, cried and just about died inside over and over due to my husband's crisis.

I ...

Left the marriage and has a girlfriend  Question

My husband suffers from depression and bipolar disorder and now is in the midst of a midlife crisis. He has left the house and is having ...

Is it common to be driven towards change even if you cannot seem to find the answer?  Question

My mid-life transition seemed to start in my early 40s, when I decided to quite teaching and find something more meaningful in life (teaching ...

Midlife Men who leave their wives of 28 years  Question

Once a man leaves his devoted wife of 28 years is there any chance he will return after he realizes he's not looking for someone, but what ...

new begining  Question
I do not finish my college, but go to business. For many years (15) I run a profitable business, but in Dec, 2008 I decided to shut down operations....

Why are his feelings changing so much?  Question

Why are his feelings for me different each day? One day he's ok, the next he can't seem to stand the sight of me. I'm lost.

Noel's Answer ...

How long will this crisis last?  Question

I'm a wife whose husband, I believe is in the mist of a Mid-Life crisis. We have been married for 26 years, soon to be 27 and together for ...

Is this classic to mid-life crisis?  Question

My husband and I have been together for almost ten years. During this time, we had previously had a wonderful sexual relationship.

About ...

I never was loved by as a child how do I deal with it?  Question
Born july 1963 /given for adoption 1964
never new father/mother
my marrage has ended
I am in this world alone.

Noel's Answer

Yours ...

my husbands midlife  The Question

My husband recently decided to leave me and my kids. He quit all his church responsibilities, unhappy in his job, living with his miserable ...

Only for Men?  Question:

Can this apply to women also? Reading things here, I feel much the same way. I've often held the dominate financial (or at least equal)...

how long do i wait on my husband to come back home?  The Question:

After the loss of my husband's mother and about a year later our 19 year old grandson, who was killed in an auto accident, my husband ...

WHEN WILL IT END?  Question

STARTED IN 2004 WHEN I WAS 53...LOST INTEREST IN WORK...STURGGLED EVER SINCE...THIS IS SAME AGE MY FATHER AND HIS FATHER STARTED DRINKING....

does a man going through midlife crisis like to read and look at pornography more?  Question

My husband is 60 years old he is twelve years older than me. I have recently found out he has been reading erotic stories and looking at ...

Thinking of changing my career, lifestyle....everything  Dear Noel,

First and foremost, congratulations on this website and even more on embarking on the amazing journey of self-discovery.

It feels like ...

sperm color  Question
We have sex infrequently. Does sperm color give any clue that my husband is doing it with others? The sperm is clear and very little.

Noel'...

Sudden change about loving one's partner  Question:

My husband made a DVD of slides from his teenage years. He says that that was a trigger for him to leave me--his wife of 30 years-- and ...

Unmotivated, but depressed  Question:

My husband has been going through something and I'm worried about him.

We've had several miscarriages and finally he agreed to have a ...

crying after sex  Question:
If a 46 year old man who wants oral sex and more and after he ejaculates, he cries what does that mean. i have never encountered this and I ...

midlife crisis?  My husband and I have been together for 14 years. He is 44 years old. We have had a great life and marriage together until the past year and a half.

Our ...

when the husband does strange things.  QUESTION:
I am married for the last 12 years, and my husband, I think, is having a midlife crises. He does things that make me feel that he has another ...

midlife of my partner  THE QUESTION:
My partner hurt me last year when i found out about his affair with a girl half his age. Hez 48yrs old,our sex life was good. He was sleeping ...

Signs of a Midlife Crisis  Question: What are the typical signs of a midlife crisis?

Noel's Answer: First let me say there is a difference between a midlfe crisis, and a midlife ...