Divorce  The Question

My 41 years old husband and I had sexual problem for a year. He can not maintain his erection when having sex with me. With oral sex,...

I want sex and my husband doesn't  The question

My husband is 46 and I am 36 years old. I am always wanting to have sex. We havent had sex in 2 years. When we do have sex it will be ...

How long does this go on?  Question

Does middle age crisis end at some point?

Noel's response

Yes. It can take anywhere from a few weeks to a few years. But it does ...

Feeling Lost and Alone due to husband's MLC.  The Question

I have been with my husband for 13 years. He is 43 and has been going through midlife crisis now for almost 2 years.

He has been ...

midlife crisis- does it make you unproductive?  The Question

I am 47 years old and feeling like I'm in a middle of it. I am in the oil and gas industry, I was working fine 2 days ago, but I feel ...

He wants to be single  The Question

We have been married for 32 years and he has left saying he wants to be single without any responsibilities. We have a 2 week old grand-...

do they return to the marriage  The Question

My husband left a month ago. Says he still loves me but wants to be by himself. He said he doesn't want a relationship with me or anyone ...

I she a midlife crisis girlfriend?  The Question

I have been with my boyfriend for a year. We had a long distance relationship. Though we lived far away, we were part of each other's ...

Do men in a midlife crisis lose interest in their relationship?  The Question

Do the men going through a midlife crisis tell their partners they do not feel passion for the relationship anymore, and they are not ...

I am 'in shock'.   The Question

After moving out my husband has completely cut me off, and becomes angry when I try to contact him (not very often). If this is a mid-...

How can I help him?  The Question

Hi, I’m 24 and I recently broke up with my boyfriend who is 36. Apparently he is too confused about his emotions and doesn't want to ...

What could he be thinking?  The Question

My partner of 10 years fits every single midlife crisis symptom except that he's more relaxed, careless & feeling euphoric.

He been ...

Seperate or Divorce  The Question

We have been married for ten years. We have two small children. My husband says that he never wanted to be married and he feels empty....

My husband is depressed and drinks too much  The Question

We have been married for 28 years. My husband has always had low grade depression, as have I.

A year ago I noticed that his drinking ...

Does this sound like a midlife crisis?  The Question
Hello.

My boyfriend left after four years. Said it was all him not me, and I did nothing to cause it. AT random times through our relationship ...

Married man age 52  The Question

I'm 38, married and went through a very tough time for 19 months. I was diagnosed with PTSD. A married man visited me every two weeks ...

Am I having an early mid life crisis or am I just a cold hearted bastard?  The Question

I'm 36 years old, married to my college sweetheart (Together since we were 19 years old) have two amazing boys (7 & 4) and all I can ...

Can his feelings change in midlife transition?  The Question

I'm 43 he is 42. I was laid off of a well paying job nine months ago. We started arguing over money and paying bills. My husband is on ...

How did your wife deal with your MLC  The Question

How did your wife deal with your midlife crisis? How long did it last for you?

My husband is starting in on his fourth year!! Very ...

HARLEY DREAMIN 
The question

I am 49 year's young. I don't want to come off as petty, I know their are many problems in this world. I personally have many problems,...

What Am I Going to Do?  The Question

Dear Noel:

Im 47 years old and I think I'm going through some kind of mid-life crisis. I went back to school at 44, not because of ...

thinking of starting college at age 47  The Question

I just turned 47 and regret not going to college. I did attend for a week when I was 19, then never went back. I was making, I thought,...

How to handle husband suffering from MLC?  The Question

My husband is 51 years old. He is good looking, and a successful man. He has been the best husband, father, son, friend and a relative ...

Fearless-Certainty becomes Cold-Empty-Indifference  The Question

Somewhere after High School I seemed to be driven by a mission designed by a higher power.

Shortly after my 52nd birthday, I started ...

I'm struggling, and my boyfriend/fiance is riding away...  The Question

I have been dating Bob or 7 years. He has lived with me and my two kids for 4 years of those 7 years.

Last Christmas was a disaster....

My husband doesn't know what he wants  The Question

Out of the Blue my husband told me he didn't know if he wanted to be married anymore. I am devastated. He has never even said anything ...

Can men go through a midlife crisis at the age 35?  The Question

My husband has been acting like a complete bachelor for the past 5 months now. He is drinking, draining our bank accounts on his drinking,...

Can a midlife crisis change a man so drastically  The Question

My husband and I have been together for about 27 years and we have two young children. We have overcome many obstacles over the years ...

Midlife crisis  Question

Please help I am losing it... my husband was on Oxycotin everyday for 7years of our 9 year marriage. the Doctor put him on it. Everyday...there ...

Cheating  Question

I've been with a man for six years. He is 47, and I believe he is going through midlife crisis.

He thinks that cheating is okay, and ...

Husband in midlife crisis ?  Question

My husband met another woman & moved in with her after he claims he'd only known her for four weeks. He is nearly 53yrs old. She is 39 yrs ...

How can I get him back? I think I truly love and care for him  Question

My boyfriend came out of 20 years of marriage and saw me as the best thing that ever happened to him.

But lately he began finding faults ...

How Long does it last?  Question:
how long does the transition last?

Noel's Answer:

It varies. With some men, it is a few weeks, with others, several months, and with ...

Going back to school at 55  Question

I'm 55 and interested in going back to college. Actually, I did go to college a year ago and dropped out after 10 weeks because I was afraid ...

midlife crisis?  My husband and I have been together for 14 years. He is 44 years old. We have had a great life and marriage together until the past year and a half.

Our ...

when the husband does strange things.  QUESTION:
I am married for the last 12 years, and my husband, I think, is having a midlife crises. He does things that make me feel that he has another ...

Signs of a Midlife Crisis  Question: What are the typical signs of a midlife crisis?

Noel's Answer: First let me say there is a difference between a midlfe crisis, and a midlife ...

Why do men in their mid-life make women their age feel undesireable by wanting younger women?  The Question

Why are men careless about how they make women their own age feel so unattractive and undesirable. Don't men lose their erections with ...

Age  The Question

Age when a man goes through a midlife crisis?

Noel's answer

As I mention on The Two Crises page on this site, I believe there ...

Search for meaning  The Question

I'm 44 and divorced 2 years ago. My life is not working. Nothing seems to bring me any enjoyment anymore. I feel stuck. I am no longer ...

He wants me, but he also wants to have affairs  The Question

Hi Noel,

I am a woman whose loved one is, I believe, experiencing a midlife crisis. I am so glad you exist and are willing to read ...

midlife crisis or dislike  The Question

My partner and I have been together for 26 years (we are in our early 40s) and have two adult children. My partner drinks every night ...

Does male menopause cause bisexuality in men?  The Question

My hubby is 47 years old and is now bisexual. Is male menopause a cause of bisexuality in men at this age?

Noel's answer

Male ...

Is he having second thoughts now that our divorce is done?  The Question

My husband and I divorced two months after he droped the bomb. I did not realize he was in midlife crisis at the time, though after reading ...

I want a holiday, he doesn't want to go, and doesn't want me to either  The Question

This is the second year of husband's MLC though it likely started earlier.

After 30+ years of marriage, he says he loves me, but ...

I got together with my boyfriend shortly after he got divorced. Now he wants to be alone.  The Question

I was blind-sided 2 months ago by a very loving boyfriend who suddenly turned into a monster. After a year in a profound and very loving ...

Help!! My dad is going crazy!  The Questions

I honestly did not believe in the midlife crisis until my dad changed drastically over 3 or 4 yrs ago. I secretly nicknamed him Dr. Jekyll ...

is my boyfriend having a midlife crisis??  The Question

Hi,

My boyfriend who is 27 was made redundant from his job in March, and around the same time he decided he didn't want to be with ...

Why can't he talk to me but can talk to her?  The Question

Hi Noel,
We have been married for 17 years. My husband started an affair with a very long distance telephone call in February with ...

the girl from earlyer years   The Question

Well my husband of almost 20 years has lost his mind. In short he has left me and our two girls for another woman that he knew from ...

44 yr.old husband turns gay?  The Question

My husband/best friend of 22 years and I were living apart and to my knowledge were working on our problems. I moved out of our home ...

Swollen prostate and fertility  The Question

Can a man that has an enlarged prostate or prostate cancer have children?

Noel's response

A man with an enlarged prostate (e....

Why is it always a Midlife "Crisis"?  The Question

Why does midlife always have to be a crisis? What would it be like if we tried to treat midlife as the next right of passage just like ...

how long does it last and will he get better?   The question

My husband is going through what I assume is a midlife crisis. He is distant and spends all his time away from our home. He has found ...

Is a strong desire for sex a sign of midlife crisis?  The question

Is desiring an extreme amount of sex with your wife a sign of midlife crisis?

Eddie

Noel's response

It could be. Some men ...

The adult daughters of a midlife man  The Question

How do you support the grown up children when dad goes into midlife crisis and takes up with a woman younger than they are? In particular ...

I can't have sex with my husband, and don't know why.  The Question

I love my husband very much but for the past 3 months I can't have sex with him. Is there something wrong with me? I dont want to drive ...

Glad to find this site !  The Question

This web site will be the start of a new era for me! I have been searching for answers for months as to why I feel the way I do: mood ...

Loss Of Memory/Just not being myself?  The Question

Hi to all.

Well I can tell you I am so glad I found your web site. I have been to the doctor at my hospital clinic (2 different doctors)...

Loss of interest in sex  The Question

My partner is 38 and his sex drive is very low. We hardly ever have sex anymore, and this has been going on for several years. He says ...

Is my boyfriend going through a mid life crisis  The Question

I have been with my boyfriend coming on 2 years, am 28 and he turns 40 in a couple of days. We have just come back from holiday and last ...

He has left, but not really. How long do I put up with this?  The question

On September 9, 2009 with those dreading words "I love you but I'm not in love with you", my Husband (42) told me wanted a divorce. We ...

I am 35, and don't know what to do.  The Question

My name is Tebogo and I'm 35 years old. I went through the website and I now believe that I have a midlife crisis if I were to call it ...

What am I?  The question

I have been married for 32 years. My husband is 55 yrs old. My husband found an old girlfriend from his younger years. The woman is older ...

Can men still have kids after a Midlife Crisis?  The question

Can men still have kids after going through a mid-life crisis?

Noel's response

Yes. Men can father children until very old age....

Is this part of mid-life crisis Men? How do I respond?  The question

In talking to most women in there late forties and up, there seems to come a time in our relationships where our spouses become very ...

to tell or not to tell him he is having a midlife crisis  The question

I think my husband is going through his midlife transition. I've tried to talk with him about his anger, moodiness, depression, sadness,...

Husband 52 Has Affair, His Father dies, Divorces me, and changes job. Midlife Crisis??   The question

My husband of 26 years started conducting an affair with a co-worker almost 2 years ago. I found poetry he had written to her, but kept ...

midlife crisis  The question

My boyfriend is 59, and I am 49. We have been friends for 15 years and dating for 4 years.

Recently his daughter got married and ...

midlife crisis on my 44 year old husband  The Question

How long can this last please? And why doesnt he believe this?

He left two years ago. Now he is into women 10 to 12 years younger ...

47 years old and don´t like my job, but don`t know what to do for a living.  The Question

Hello, I was just looking for answers and navigating through the Internet found your web page.

I am 47 years old, went to college ...

Confused  The Question

My husband and I are high school sweethearts. We have been married for 35 years. We have always had the ideal marriage. We both were ...

Why am I worrying even more? 
I thought when I was in my forties I would be on top off the world. Not so. Then I thought maybe the 50's. But more worry and anxiety. I have aches and ...

Can a midlife crisis come on all of a sudden?  The Question

My husband was happy until Christmas last year. Then in January he suddenly changed. He became moody and began avoiding the family. He ...

Does He, or doesn't he?  The Question

We met at work, both divorced...single for awhile. Instant connection...but long distance. Time passed, lay off made it an option to ...

Divorced over midlife crisis  The Question

My husband has acted strange since turning 49. That was in february this year. Our anniversary
was in april. He just divorced me saying ...

Is my husband just staying cause it is easy?  The Question

Although our relationship has had its ups and downs we have always seemed to get through.

We recently renovated out current house ...

husband leaves wife for another woman  The Question

do they ever go back to their wives?

Noel's response

Sometimes.

How do I behave when he visits?  The Question

My husband of 32 years left last week to be single without responsibilities. He is visiting me in 2 days. How do I speak to him? What ...

My boyfriend is not sexually active anymore  The Question

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months now. During the first 4 months, he was sexually active. But as time goes by, he started ...

Do I allow him to family functions?  The Question

My husband after 32 years has decided he wants to be single without responsibilities. How do I treat him in regards to family gatherings?...

39 and midlife?  The Question

We have been married 15 years, and Monday night he asked me for a divorce. He is just tired of working at marriage. Five days prior ...

Getting help  The Question

Married 28 years and we talk well together and a lot lately.

His doctor told him everything he was feeling was not uncommon and some ...

The signs are there!  The Question

My husband of 15 years told me last week that he no longer loved me but he didn't want anything to change. Almost immediately, he pushed ...

Prostate CANCER  The Question

Can you get prostate cancer by catheterising yourself? And if you can would it be best to get a operation to take out the large prosate?...

My head sweats in social circumstances. Is that a midlife symptom?  The Question

I am 36 years old. 3 years back, I started experiencing something that I’m not sure if I can call it mid age crisis. It happens only ...

and my small children?  The Question

Hi,
I have been married for 10 years and we have 2 children ages 6 and 7. I met my husband in college and he was going thru some hard ...

Is there any way to get through this more smoothly and quickly?  The Question

I feel like I'm in the middle of a mid life crisis. I'm changing how I dress, I'm growing my hair longer, I'm hanging out with a new ...

My husband and I have been married 32 years and he still wants sex every night.  The Question

After 32 years he still wants sex every night and sulks if he doesn't get it. I sometimes give it to him just to keep the peace even ...

My boyfriend of 4 years decided to move out on his own?  The Question

My boyfriend of 4 years, all of a sudden decided to tell me he wanted to be on his own. We have lived together for 4 years and his teenage ...

Is is normal to lose interest in sex at midlife?  The Question

I'm 39 yrs old my wife is 57.... I love her dearly. We've been married 6 years, and sex does not interest me anymore. I often find excuses ...

Shows me no affection anymore, and I think there is another woman  The Question

we are married 36 years now he keeps avoiding me. We never do or go anywhere as a couple anymore. Two years ago he announced out of the ...

He is 31, and has changed a lot in the last few months  The Question

My husband is 31, in the Navy since he was 18. We have been married for 13 years. Yes a very young marriage. He said he loved me and ...

I have no freinds and am by myself most of the time  The Question

I have no freinds and nothing to do...what can I do by myself without looking?

Noel's response

You get out of life what you put ...

My boyfriend after 4 months is not interested in sex anymore and I wonder why?  The Question

My boyfriend is 37 and we have been living together for the past 6 months and for some reason after 4 months of living together, he just ...

Will my husband ever come back?  The Question

My husband left me and our two teenage daughters 6 months ago completely out of the blue. He had been bored for 4 years but no-one had ...

I am a woman thinking about an affair and I don't know what to do!  The Question

I love my husband, he is wonderful. He is my best friend and he dotes on me. I enjoy our sex although certainly life has taken its toll ...

Is this a mid-life Crisis?  The Question

My husband and I have been together 21yrs, married 17. When we met we were 16 and 15. We are now 37 and 36. We have two teenagers.

We ...

I think my boyfriend is depressed  The Question

Hello, my name is Rahkelah and my boyfriend and I have been together for four years. When we met he was 49 and I was 23. We hit it off ...

Midlife crisis stages  The Question

My husband, 39 years old, is going through a midlife crisis.

I've been researching as much as I can, trying to understand what is ...

Is it okay to mention midlife crisis to my spouse?  The Question

My husband and I have been married for 33 years. We separated several months ago per the advice of his therapist. He was really angry,...

My 48-year-old boyfriend is avoiding me.   The Question

I have been dating my 48 year-old boyfriend for about four months. He is a wonderful, gentle man.
After a month of dating we had a ...

I am the 'Other Woman'. Can it last?  The Question
Hello.

I'm a fairly young woman dating a man in his mid-40s. He is a Western man, successful in his career with a family and house of ...

My husband drinks a lot now. What can I do?  The Question

My husband started hanging around with a younger (male) friend, and drinking in excess last year, and now he drinks at least 5/7 days ...

I don't know if it's a mid life crisis  The Question

I have been married to my wife for 32 years. We have raised 3 children and they are grown and on their own. We have an empty home.

I ...

Husband leaving with no real explanation  The Question

I have been married for 20 years. My husband just turned 41. One day he started drinking more and more and staying out all night with ...

Childless marriage and mid-life crisis connected  The Question

My husband is 46 and I am 48. We lived together for 9 years and have been married for 10 years.

When we met he knew I was infertile....

My older boyfriend  The Question

My boyfriend is about 14 years older than me. I am 25 and he is 39. We have been together for two years now and lately he has changed ...

I feel as though my life is over  The Question

I am 40 and feel my life is over with. I feel like I am just going through the motions. My drive is gone and I feel like it is gone forever....

He comes and goes as he pleases  The Question

My husband slowly started to spend more and more time away from home, until now he is here about three days a week and the other he supposedly ...

I looked after him all these years, now he has left.  The Question

My husband told me three weeks ago that he loved me but wasn't in love with me. Three days later he filed for divorce. Said he wasn't ...

Does EVERY man go through a midlife crisis?  The Question

Does every man go through a mid-life crisis? my boyfriend is about to turn 41 and I've noticed A LOT of changes in him. We've only been ...

if and when men leave?  The Question

A man had an affair and his wife had left, then they had reconciled but the man didn't seem to be remorseful. What are the chances of ...

Excitement in Life  The Question

Hi Noel,

I have been with my partner for nine years and it was just a few days ago he decided that he needed some excitement in his ...

My 50 year old boss is having a midlife crisis - and I have a crush on him?  The Question

Here we go:

I am 30, and my boss is 50. We are both very successful in our company; in fact, my boss recruited me, and I have been ...

Time to move on?  The Question

I've been with my partner for seven years, married for two of those and living in Japan (as an ex pat) for five years. We also planned ...

MIDLIFE CRISIS AND HAVING AFFAIRS  The Question

While men are going through Midlife Crisis, I have read that they more likely go for younger women. I am five years younger than my ...

husband says he doesn't love me.  The Question

My husband says he no longer loves me. I think he really does but is going through a rough time.

I want to know how best to help ...

Is my 38 year old boyfriend going through a midlife crisis?  The Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two months. Things started off amazing between us. He was happy and so full of life ...

Left me for another woman  The Question

My husband left me two days before New Years Eve. I was totally shocked. We have two children, son is 19 and daughter is 16, and they ...

Confused 
The question

I am a 42 year old Man, and I have lost all my normal energy and interest in sex. All I want to do is sit around and watch tv. Normally ...

Orgasm 
The question

Hi, my husband (44 years this year) and I have been married for 8 years. I have 3 concerns.

a) My husband has not been having an ...

is my husband having a mid life crisis  The Question

I was with my husabnd for 11 years and married for three.

He is 32 and has ran off with a friend of mine who is 19 years old. He has ...

Support groups for women?  Do Support groups exist for women whose husbands are going through a mid life crisis? I live in Miami, Florida

Noel's response

I do not know of ...

Life didn't turn out the way I thought, and it is bothering me  The Question

I am not sure if I am having a mid-life crisis or am just depressed.

I am a 46 year old male, married for 25 years with no children....

My husband can't make decisions  The Question

I think my husbands in a midlife crisis. He left two weeks ago. I tell him I love him but he seems so angry and is not in love with me....

Do all midlife men who leave their wives get involved or are already in an affair?   The Question

My husband of 28 years has left home and says he does not have the same feelings for me. I have looked for signs of an affair but have ...

Midlife man back with ex  The Question

All the symptoms are pointing that my husband is in midlife crisis.

He did a lot of things difficult to explain. He does not want ...

Angry and manipulated.  The Question

I am 48 years old and it seems like there are now two families in my life. One is my wife and the children. The other is me and the ...

support groups  The Question

Are you aware of any support groups in the Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania area for men with mid-life crisis?

Noel's response

I Googled ...

Boss mid-life crisis  The Question

My boss is going through a mid life crisis which threatens the entire organization.

He is potentially going to sell the company which ...

Now What?  I am what everybody says one of the most successful surgeons in the country I live in. I am the top earner of the hospital group I work for.

I worked ...

enlarged prostate  The Question

Last year when my husband had his yearly exam, the doctor said he had an enlarged prostate. This year at his exam the doctor said he ...

Is this mid-life crisis? Please help me  The Question

This past year my husband has forgotten our anniversary and my birthday, in all the years (13), he has never forgotten them. Our sex ...

Does it make sense to try to help my husband through this?  The Question

Does it make any sense for me to make my husband aware of the fact that the reason for his erratic behaviour is that he is actually suffering ...

Is my husband going through a mid-life crisis?Is he going to leave me?  The Question

My husband and I have been together for 12+ years. We have always been inseparable,truly enjoying one another's company and very loving ...

Mid-life crisis or mental illness?  Hi Noel:

I don't know if my husband is in a mid-life crisis or mentally ill (paranoia) but I am tire of his odd behavior. I want to help but he's ...

Will my husband come back  The Question

My husband, I am sure, is having a midlife crisis. He showed all the signs before he left. We've been married for 12 years and have ...

Right livelihood crisis  The Question

At 24 I "fell" into a career as a government official. It was the depths of a recession and, as a new graduate out of work for a year,...

How do I make this last?  The Question

I am 49 years old. My wife and I went through a mid-life change together several years ago. When we were in our 40s, (Her early 40s,...

My husband has an urge to be on his own.  The Question


Four weeks ago my husband came home and told me he had quit his job (although his boss talked him into staying)and told me that although ...

How long will this abuse go on?  The Question


My husband and I have been married 20 years, and for the last nearly two years we have been separated because he told me ne was no ...

How Come The Men Get Off So Easy?  The Question

I've read through some of your scenarios here - I don't see any happy endings in terms of the "previous" life?

I wonder about the ...

my husband doesnt know what he wants 
Six weeks ago my husband left me for another woman. He is not living with her though, as he said she has a boyfriend, but he can't stop thinking about ...

is my spouse going thru a mid life crisis?  The Question

We live common law. we have been together 19 years and have two beautiful daughters.

In early summer he had a one night affair....

Do Men Ever Get Through A Midlife Crisis?  The Question

My husband is 50 and left me for a 25 year old. Do men ever come out of a mid-life crisis and how long does it take?

Noel's response ...

My husband thinks he is a failure  The Question

Hello,

About 3 months ago, it was as if a switch were flipped and my usual loving husband suddenly became very quiet and then told ...

My Husband and a Midlife crisis or transition?  Question

My husband and I recently separated after 21 years of marriage. I don't know what has happened except that we both were unhappy and I suggested ...

Husbands Mid Life Crisis  Question

I am 46 and my Husband is about to turn 50. My Husband was the most loving kindest gentle man I have ever known. I have known him for 30 ...

My marriage  Question

I am 52 years old and my husband is 55. We are both in our second marriages and are both grandparents.

My husband and I went out 34 years ...

mid life crisis in marrage  Question

My husband and I were married for 28 years. He stood by me during menopause and I want to stand by him. He says he is not in love with me....

Get my husband to couseling  Question

My husband and I got together 1988 and married in 1996. Several years after marriage we started trying to conceive to no avail. Tried fertility ...

What are psychological changes that take place in the midlife?  Question

I am 46 years old...am a teacher. I just notice I'm more irritable and easily get angry now than before except I know I am hypertensive. I ...

Yes women have it also  Question

My wife's father passed away, our eldest went to college, and she has become a different person. Was always kind, extremely devoted. Now ...

MidLife Crisis in Men  Question

At what age do men usually start going through mid life crisis?

Noel's response

It can happen anywhere from age thirty five to fifty....

Shall i wait   Question

My husband is age 53. We've been separated for 4 yrs now. He left me, because he said he fell out of love for me, and admitted he has an ...

Husbands midlife crisis  Question

If you know your husband has been carrying Viagra and Cialis with him, is there any reason besides an affair?

A counsellor said he was ...

Midlife Crisis Mood swings  Question

Can anyone help me!
My husband has left me 13 weeks ago due to infidelity during a midlife Crisis. He is 46 and his new girlfriend is 19....

transient sweating  Question

I literally get hot flashes several times a day. I sit there and just start sweating, not just my face, but everywhere. It interrupts my ...

My husband wants to retire, and I don't want him to  Question

Got married two months back, my husband is 11 years my senior divorced was married at 23 and has three kids living in the west with his x....

coming back to the women he left  Question

What are the chances that a man who went through a mid-life crises will want to reconnect with the women he left?

Noel's reply

I ...

My husband hides things  Question

I have been married for about three years, and in the last year my husband has started to act strangely.

I will put something someplace,...

How can I see that my husband's MC is ending?  Question

My husband is 42 years (me 41), we have a daughter of 5 and we are married for 15 years.

He started to act strangely 18 months ago. He ...

Men who have affairs and leave home  Question

My husband left home six weeks ago, and is living at his mother's. I found texts from a woman he had been seeing. He said the relationship ...

Men who have affairs and leave home  Question

My husband left home six weeks ago, and is living at his mother's. I found texts from a woman he had been seeing. He said the relationship ...

Hyperactivity  Question

My husband just turned 55. In the past month he has become extremely hyperactive along with changing his entire attitude about work and home....

Relationship  Comment

We have been happily married for 35 years. Within the last year we have both lost our jobs. He has mentioned that he feels worthless. I have ...

my partnerkeeps changin his mind  Question

For three years now is he suffering from mid life crisis. I have been with my partner, we do not live together but I stay at his a lot he ...

feeling like a failure  Question

My husband is 41 and recently we had a boarder(female) who was removed from the house on my part because I felt like a fifth wheel in my ...

When all this will be end   Question
My husband and I have been married for 3 years, and we have been happy.

I am 29 and my husband is 54 years old. But last year he told me ...

I caught my husband talking to another woman   Question

I caught my husband talking to a woman on a strange cell phone the second day after we got back from vacation.

He was in the motor home ...

dont want to regret   Question

I have a great girl friend who is perfect for me but I have a 7 year old boy and his mom wants to give it another try. I am afraid if I ...

Does this sound like mid-life crisis?  Question

My husband is 48 years old and he recently went to a conference for work in Texas.

He is a cowboy and ended up riding a bull while there ...

Can a married man in his 44 become bisexual?  Question

In the last five years my husband is spending more time with gay friends. I think he has become bisexual.

I'm 12 years younger than him ...

Of course! It is a midlife crisis.  Question

For just about a year I have researched, watched, listened, cried and just about died inside over and over due to my husband's crisis.

I ...

Left the marriage and has a girlfriend  Question

My husband suffers from depression and bipolar disorder and now is in the midst of a midlife crisis. He has left the house and is having ...

Is it common to be driven towards change even if you cannot seem to find the answer?  Question

My mid-life transition seemed to start in my early 40s, when I decided to quite teaching and find something more meaningful in life (teaching ...

Midlife Men who leave their wives of 28 years  Question

Once a man leaves his devoted wife of 28 years is there any chance he will return after he realizes he's not looking for someone, but what ...

new begining  Question
I do not finish my college, but go to business. For many years (15) I run a profitable business, but in Dec, 2008 I decided to shut down operations....

Why are his feelings changing so much?  Question

Why are his feelings for me different each day? One day he's ok, the next he can't seem to stand the sight of me. I'm lost.

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How long will this crisis last?  Question

I'm a wife whose husband, I believe is in the mist of a Mid-Life crisis. We have been married for 26 years, soon to be 27 and together for ...

Is this classic to mid-life crisis?  Question

My husband and I have been together for almost ten years. During this time, we had previously had a wonderful sexual relationship.

About ...

I never was loved by as a child how do I deal with it?  Question
Born july 1963 /given for adoption 1964
never new father/mother
my marrage has ended
I am in this world alone.

Noel's Answer

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my husbands midlife  The Question

My husband recently decided to leave me and my kids. He quit all his church responsibilities, unhappy in his job, living with his miserable ...

Only for Men?  Question:

Can this apply to women also? Reading things here, I feel much the same way. I've often held the dominate financial (or at least equal)...

how long do i wait on my husband to come back home?  The Question:

After the loss of my husband's mother and about a year later our 19 year old grandson, who was killed in an auto accident, my husband ...

WHEN WILL IT END?  Question

STARTED IN 2004 WHEN I WAS 53...LOST INTEREST IN WORK...STURGGLED EVER SINCE...THIS IS SAME AGE MY FATHER AND HIS FATHER STARTED DRINKING....

does a man going through midlife crisis like to read and look at pornography more?  Question

My husband is 60 years old he is twelve years older than me. I have recently found out he has been reading erotic stories and looking at ...

Thinking of changing my career, lifestyle....everything  Dear Noel,

First and foremost, congratulations on this website and even more on embarking on the amazing journey of self-discovery.

It feels like ...

sperm color  Question
We have sex infrequently. Does sperm color give any clue that my husband is doing it with others? The sperm is clear and very little.

Noel'...

Sudden change about loving one's partner  Question:

My husband made a DVD of slides from his teenage years. He says that that was a trigger for him to leave me--his wife of 30 years-- and ...

Unmotivated, but depressed  Question:

My husband has been going through something and I'm worried about him.

We've had several miscarriages and finally he agreed to have a ...

crying after sex  Question:
If a 46 year old man who wants oral sex and more and after he ejaculates, he cries what does that mean. i have never encountered this and I ...

midlife of my partner  THE QUESTION:
My partner hurt me last year when i found out about his affair with a girl half his age. Hez 48yrs old,our sex life was good. He was sleeping ...