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do husbands ever return 
after 18 years of marriage 2 kids 18 and 4 mu husband who was working away for the past 2 years due to major financial problems decided he could no longer …

husband has returned 
Well my husband has returned home still has his flat but never stays there over night. He says its a bolt hold just in case things don't work out for us. …

I am a gay man aged 53. I am finding it very difficult to just come to terms with my age and the difficulties it brings in general and specifically in relation to my sexual orientation. 
Where do middle-aged gay men go? I don't want to be one of those who seemingly vanish into thin air - never to be heard of again. I am still interested …

mid life crisis 
I have been marrid for 36yrs, my Husband has left me, he i think, is going through male menapause. He said i spend too much money, but since he left he …

31 and not having sex 
Hello every one im 31 and me and my wife been together for 8 years now and for the last past 4 years her sex drive is at a stop sign and when i ask her …

What he's going thru now> 
With him for three yrs left me suddenly without any warning. Turned to and married a younger woman, now theyre split, occasionally he will call/text, then …

I asked my husband to move out of the house 
My husband announced 10+ months ago that he has been unhappy for 12 years. Since the announcement he has not really spoken to me about anything of significance. …

Daughters fiancee's clothing attire. 
Why would a man at age 46 dress like an 18 yr old??? EG: cut off baggy jeans with mickey mouse on them,high top running shoes,one red and the other blue,baggy …

is he still in midlife crisis 
My husband has been gone for over two years he has been living with the other woman for six months but it has ended lots of times this time it has ended …

How to stop myself from big mistake 
I have come to realize I am in love with another woman, who feels as I do. I have not had a physical affair and know it is wrong. I am in my late 40s and …

midlife crisis and cheating 
I think my husband of 30 years is in crisis. He is cheating with a much younger girl. He states she understands him and he loves her. He has been cold …

how to save my marriage from spouses affair and midlife crisis 
spouse is having affair during midlife crisis, should I leave or tell him to acknowledge his crisis his mistress work for him and is younger with her …

How could a husband acknowledge he might be having midlife crisis? Who may suggest that to him? 
I know it's not going to help me to tell my husband, 33, who told me he wants a new life without me in it, that he may be going through midlife crisis. …

MY husband of 35 years has MLC 
We have been married 35 years, and he has always been hard to live with..he has temper tantrums, never there for me when I was sick, basically didn't want …

will he come back ? 
My boyfriend of a short time has been going through alot lately. He is 60 - He tells me he still loves me and that I am the only one he wants but wants …

Do men return to their family when they waken from a MLC fog? 
My husband of 34 years left our family fir another woman six months ago. I have been to a counselor and went through all the details of his behavior …

No Conversation From Him 
What's going on with this guy? After my mid/late life crisis man of age 63 said, "That's it," left me for a vacation with 20 yr olds, I had visited him …

63 yr old becoming friends with 20-25 yr. olds 
Why does a 63 yr. old become friends with a 20-25 yr.olds, (men and women)? This person is drinking/partying with them. Does he want sex from them, or …

why am i very emotional. and get upset easly 
for the past few months I have been getting upset about the littlest thing and cant seem to get thing right and feal like the whole world is coming down …

Midlife Crisis Man at 63  
We have been dating for 10 years. We both work. We do not live together. We only see each on the weekends due to his traveling for his business during …

Wife moved out after losing pregnancy 
My wife and I have been together for 4 years. Two years ago,we became pregnant, but lost the pregnancy due to ectopic. It was a very traumatic event …

what is it about 50yrs? 
I've been reading all these posts and am now really worried. My husband is 42 and am 32.is it wise to start having a future plan that does not include …

why erection not happening with lover 
i loved a person who is married and having wife. because his wife loved sombody he was loving me. now erection will come only with his wife, not with me. …

my husband says he loves me but he doesn't know why he keeps pushing me away. I'm so hurt and confused. 
He has become an extreme Alcoholic. The past few years We've Lost our home and we haven't even lived together. For almost a year. He doesn't talk to me …

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husband blaming me for deployment 
My husband of nearly 12 years announced he is being deployed again. Although this assignment will not take him overseas the entire time, (he will be assigned …

the love of my life left me. feels like a nightmare I can't wake up from.  
My name is Michael. I am 41 yrs old and gay. I met the most wonderful sweetest person March 6th, 1999. We had a commitment ceremony on September 2nd, 2000. …

Where is he in his MLC 
My husband 40 told me almost 2 years ago that he loved me but wasn't in live with me. Almost a year after that I discovered an affair and he moved out …

my partner is 57,says he doesnt love me or fancy me anymore 
my ex partner has told me he does not love or fancy me anymore and has been feeling this way for sometime but didnt no haw to tell me,we hadnt had sex …

Do men tend to leave their wives when they don't touch each other or kiss? 
Do men leave their wives when they live separately 20-30% of the time don't touch or kiss? Noel's response I don't know whether there are any statistics …

Looking for Info about what they are going through! 
Hello Noel, I have written to you before-a while back and I do respond to others Q's and try to help them if I am able. *** I am wondering what …

Mid life crisis in males who have been good husbands but totally changed  
My husband of thirty six years came home one day, packed a few things and left me. Before he left he told me it wasn't me it was him, he was unhappy with …

My husband is leaving me.Midlife crisis????? 
After almost 21 years of marriage my husband is leaving me. He has applied for social housing,I do not know what he has said to the housing officer as …

Living apart while he is sorting it out 
My husband says he needs his "space". He decided to buy a rental property down the street - a two-flat. I suggested he move his stuff into the unrented …

depression 
my husband had gone through depression last 2010 and now he's recovering and had his job for 3 months already.he has been drinking alcohol again.i think …

divorce after 20yrs 
A 41 yr old man divorces his wife of 20 yrs and leaves his four sons (ages 9-19) will he ever regret throwing his family away like this? Noel's response …

Husband had affair, I asked him to leave 
My husband was having an affair and wouldn't stop so I asked him to leave. He insisted he wanted a divorce but refused to sign divorce papers when I gave …

needing a younger woman 
My husband is 48yrs old, for the past 18 months he has been trying to befriend women a lot younger than himself. He has now left me because he says he …

Is it normal to return to yoiur ex wife?? 
I was with my ex for 5yrs he divorced his wife a yr after we were together he had nothing nice to say about her, she is a nasty piece of work all the way …

Do they ever come back? 
Hello. I will try to be brief. My boyfriend of almost 2 years stopped all contact with me when he found out his sister was not going to live much longer. …

"Ex" remarries (younger woman) and then CHOOSES to have twins! 
As we all know, a man's mid-life crisis has NO explanation...BUT...if he CHOOSES to remarry a younger woman and then CHOOSES to intentionally have twins …

Total withdrawal- no communication 
My 51 year old husband walked out 10 weeks ago, right before Christmas after 24 years of marriage. He has totally withdrawn from me, little to no communication. …

40 YEARS TOGETHER AND HE HAS HAD A MIDLIFE CRISIS 
My husband and I have been together since we were 16 and 17 for 40 years. We have two beautiful adult children, they have good jobs and never given us …

41 year old man broke up with me because I can't have a baby 
I met a man who is 41 years old and has never been married and has no children. I am 44 and I have two children, ages 10 and 11. I don't want anymore …

Depression 
As I write this - he (my husband of 36 years) is upstairs in the other room going to sleep. He is depressed - he doesn't know why - he has been like this …

My husband of 18 years 
He told me that he has been thinking about leaving for the past 3 years. He said he is not happy anymore. he loves me but is not in love with me. He has …

I am a 58 Yr. Old Married Man seeing 28 Yr. Old Div Woman 
This is much more involved than I can write here, but I'll try to be as brief, but thorough as possible. I am 58 and met this girl (28) online 2 1/2 years …

My dad - clearly having midlife crisis and refuses help 
My dad finally told me that he was feeling stale and numb and not sure if hes in love with my mum anymore - after 28 years of marriage - now - 3 months …

Returning to Ex Flame who "stalked" him? 
My significant other of 12 years just broke off with me. He confessed that a friend of his put him in touch with a woman who has carried a torch for him …

MLC Symptoms 
Hi Noel. We have been married nearly 21 years,its always been a bit rocky,but he did used to take me shopping and sometime to KFC etc He never used to …

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5OYR OLD MALE WIFE STILL WANTS CHILD 
I AM 50YR OLD MALE BEEN MARRIED FOR 12 YRS.I HAVE WORKED NIGHTS FOR 10YRS 14HR SHIFTS NOW IM ON LOW T TREATMENT, MY WIFE WHO IS 36 WANTS A CHILD WHAT …

midlife crisis or transition 
should i talk to my partner about the fact that he maybe going threw a midlife transition/crisis or is it best to not talk about it to them even though …

I'm 30 year old female and my 48 year old bf broke up with me. I thought we loved each other???  
I feel that my boyfriend now ex, "always wants to be right... a kind of know it all." I usually just let it be, but I recently got upset over, what is …

my son 
i was divorced in 1994. i just learned from my son he does'nt belive in marriage and does'nt want any children at all. is it my fault? Noel's response …

Dad leaves wife and kids to pursue dreams of being a Rock Star 
My husband of 21 years joined the AA program to get sober but ended up becoming a self centered jerk. Aside from making AA his existence he is now in a …

Is this a MLC and could he change his mind about our marriage? 
I am having a really hard time coping with my changed relationship with my husband of nearly 9 years. We have 3 kids together, the youngest being 10 months …

will he come back? 
my husband told me last week that he has a feeling for some one else he said he still loves me but feels he has to do this, we have been married for 22 …

24 year old man afraid he is aging too fast 
I am a 24 years old, aging too fast to get bald and look older and mature than my actual age. This is actually taking a toll on my confidence level and …

Do all men leave during a mid-life crisis? 
do all men leave their partners when going through this. my partner doesn't think he is going through this but he has lost all care for us and his job. …

My husband says he is not cheating but has not touched me in 9 years. 
I have been married for over 30 years. The first 20 I don't think there was a day we didn't have sex, I never said no to him. We bought a new house and …

is it me or him? 
I am 25 and seeing a man of 49. We had sex for the first time and he didn't ejaculate. We did it a few times and he would get an erection but not ejaculation. …

My boyfriend doesn't want to have sex as much as me! 
Im 20 years old and my boyfriend is 43. We have sex alot but i overwhelm him with how much sex i want to have. What do i do??? Noel's response …

Is he cold or am I too sensitive? 
I am 43 and have been seeing a man the same age as myself for 2 1/2 years, I have been living with him now for a year. A few months after we started dating …

My bf ejaculates too quickly... 
Hi I'm 24 years old and I've been with my bf (38 years old) for almost a year now.. we are extremely sexually active because he know's that I pretty much …

what do i do i'm confused 
my husband was talking to his ex on the computer for a couple of months and it was very hot and heavy stuff they talk about in sexual ways to each other …

is this a mlc 
I am 50 and have been married 12 years. Husband 40. Neither have children and first marriage for both. Bought old house in country location- long commute …

Is my husband having a midlife crisis?  
I have been with my husband since i was 16 and i am now 40. He was my best friend and soul mate. 18 months ago he lost his job and our oldest daughter …

Is it a mid life crisis? 
I have been with my husband for 21 years, married for 12 of those. We will both be 39 this year. Completely out of the blue in September after a weekend …

MLC stages 
My husband and I are both 40. We have a 12 yr old daughter. He dropped the bomb on 08/31/2010 and he moved out 7/31/2011. Since about 2 months ago …

A husband comes home after conference and declares his marital unhappiness. No warning. 
My husband left our marriage and me like a snake sheds its skin. No remorse. Flat, poker face. Our children now go from house to house every other week. …

Cheating and divorce after the death of a child 
Seventeen months ago, my twenty year old stepson died from a heroin overdose. He had struggled for eight years with drug addiction. Six months after …

I am 50 and have fallen in love with a 28 yr.old 
I am a 51 year old man who has been married for 26 years. I have a good job, as does my wife. We have 1 child who is 23 and out on her own. I guess for …

How do I deal with him leaving after 16 yrs? 
My common law husband of 16 yrs packed up and left me, after I found text messages and telephone calls between him and another woman. We have two sons …

I don't want to let go but I know I have to! 
My husband (36 yrs old) of 8 years just left me this fall. We had a solid relationship and our qualities and interests were intertwined. He was a kind, …

again husband cares for me but has lost his feelings 
For six months my husband had an affair. At first he told me that they had only talked about our finances an our relationship. we were starting to get …

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Husband has very strong feelings for me but.... 
Through your website, you have helped me through my husbands' midlife transition for the past 5 months. In brief, he left 5 months ago after a short 1 …

Is it a bad idea to contact the other woman, if supposedly nothing physical ever happened? 
I am struggling with trying NOT to contact the other woman involved in my husband's crisis. I think I'd like to know her side of it. Did he pursue her? …

avoidance behavior 
My husband has extreme avoidance behavior that includes lying just to not have to deal with any issues at home. He has worked away from home and has financial …

Is a texting relationship an affair?  
This is how my story begins...He gets a new phone, updates it on our laptop at home. I ebay, so I start looking for pictures of inventory to post. When …

Do they ever get over it? 
My husband is the perfect example of a mid-life crisis. He hates going to work and he hates coming home, he has moved out of our bed room and into the …

Why did he leave me, and marry the other woman? 
Hi noel, My husband was on midlife crisis five years ago, but was seeing another woman he left and got a flat for 12 months, then moved in with her, …

he cares but does not love me. 
I have been married for 24 years to a lovely husband. In July of this year he said he didn't love me or have feelings for me. This was totally unexpected …

my method for handling his anger 
I commented on another aspect of this topic.. but here's my take... we as women KNOW what this is, yet we are constantly asking WHY THE ANGER???... my …

why is age a problem 
im in love and i love a 46 year old man. im 23 but seems like he thinks its a problem now after we were intimate for a few months he tells me im too young. …

Did my husband leave me because he couldn't perform? 
My husband left me after 30 years of marriage. I felt for most of our marriage we were quite happy. Although, I know we never had sex as much as he wanted. …

walked out after being married for 22 years 
I'm taking all the blame because of my health I'm unable to sleep on a bed, for the past 12 years I sleep on a recliner. He told our adult children that …

Question for Men about Guilt after an affair 
I can't seem to find a post to my question so I'll go ahead and ask it here. My husband of 26 years left me in July after a 1 month affair with a …

i am happy 
hello every one my name is melanie jenkie and i have been married for 4 years and i have a break up with my husband 3 months ago and i was worried and …

Married friends getting too close 
My husband and I became close friends with another couple and we all get along with each other as well as the kids. We spend a lot of time with them, …

husbands chat 
do husbands in midlife crisis keep talking about fun and nice things you did in the past either together or apart? Noel's response Some do, some …

International MLC???????? 
Hi Noel, You obviously need background, so here goes....get ready for a walk on the dark side! I met my husband in a brothel...I was a hooker (high …

my husband had an affair shortly after we were married 
why does my husband of 3 years treat me like dirt? we had only been married 8 weeks when i caught him out he is 48 and in a mid life crisis. Noel's …

About my children 
My husband is definitely still going through a MLC possibly for 3 years now and I have been separated for 15 months now and I have been patient with him. …

Sad Lady 
I am 54, married 32 years to my prom date. We have 5 children and my husbands business did very well up until 4 years ago. He had a big deal that was …

Midlife crisis marriage falling apart 
My husband of 17 yrs is going through what I believe is a mid life crisis. 15 mths ago he told me he loved me but wasn't in love with me. I cried and …

I am separated from my abusive husband, now he wants me back 
My husband and I have been married for 33 years. I have known him for 40 years. During our marriage he has been very controlling, domineering, verbally …

I need clarity...Help 
I'm a 27yr old woman and my live-in boyfriend just turned 50. I found out a couple of weeks ago that he cheated on me on several occasions since we've …

do I have any hope 
My husband of 48 years has just told me that he loves his "affair lady" more than me and wants to spend the rest of his life w/her... I am an active 69, …

When does mid life crisis start 
what age do men start going through mid life crisis? do they always have an affair? and could they just change toward the wife. Noel's response …

pregnant and alone 
My boyfriend of 2 yrs left me and I am 7 months pregnant. He said he was no longer "in love" with me and didn't know what he wanted in life. He still …

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Cheating husband 
What makes a man 54yrs old that has been married for 22yrs, has a daughter that's 34yrs old decide to sneak around with a 33 yrs old. Noel's response …

age difference 
i am a 20 year old female, i am in love with a man who is 39 years of age. i know he love me. we have been together for 3 years now, after the first few …

bipolar scaring me 
my husbands bipolar is getting worse i can see it by the day just about and its kind of scaring me, and he gets very offensive when i bring it up to him …

Noel, could you help us out more??  
I'm amazed how many women are being left by their husbands in the cruelest ways. I don't see many men being left by their wives. I wish all these men could …

Not sure 
I think my husband had some kind of affair last year, but won't admit it. He found fault with everything I did, e.g. loading the dishwasher, parking the …

My husband says he misses his home country. 
My Husband recently told me he is unhappy with the lifestyle where we live. He said he misses his home country. I have expressed my willingness to relocate …

Cialis RX 
Why would my 54 year old husband be taking one of his 36 hour cialis RX with him on a business trip? Should I confront him with the fact that I know that …

My husband is having an affair and won't admit to it 
My husband is having am affair and won't admit to it. why? Noel's response There could be a number of reasons... - he is ashamed - he believes …

my husband feels he is a father figure a female friend  
my husbands married female friend is a manic depressive who has literally drained him emotionally with her daily issues. I have put up with it for 3 years …

Wife says she is gay? 
My wife of 20 years says she is gay and may want a divorce? I have had a negative attitude the past 2 years with real estate and another job but I recently …

Should I leave him? 
In a week my soon to be 60 years old boyfriend, I am 52, are going on a cruise with our 90 year old and 87 year old mothers. This is my birthday gift …

Mid-Life Crisis / Betrayed or Completely Selfish? 
Question: Is it still considered to be a mid-life crisis when you find out that your ex was lying to you for 6 months while he was sleeping with new girlfriend …

my boss and i have fallen in love and he's getting a divorce 
I'm 37 and my boss is 50. We have worked together for over a year and have had a spark and growing connection that has become more and more strong. Finally, …

Husband left after 45 years of marriage. 
Did something happen in his brain? Is something not connecting? we have known each other for 50 years, have been married for 45. We jut built a new …

getting over you ex girlfriend 
Gosh don't know where to start. Thank God for anonymity. Been really wanting to share how I truly feel and get some feedback. It all started back in 2007. …

"Break" 
My Fiance has decided that we are on a break and that she doesn't want to talk to me until she figures things out. What do I do? Noel's response …

Confused 
Hi ya myself and my husband were having normal arguments in our marriage we were married 5 years and he told me 2 weeks ago he was going to Australia to …

I am 19years old and my boyfriend is 42 years old and he has wife and 2 children. shoud i break up? 
my boy friend's wife always hurt him and broke his heart and they aren't have sex with each other. he only lives with her because their children, i love …

how can a men profess to loving children then look at young girls on porn 
I still am not comfortable thinking that most men look at porn. But my dilemma is, how can a man say he loves kids, want to hang out with his young daughters, …

Why after 37 years 
I want to no or understand why after 37 years he decided to have an affair and leave me. And say it was nothing I did or did not do it was him. Also adding …

should i keep communication open with my partner? 
Sometimes i feel angry, hurt, confused, i want to run away from this. he comes round every weekend to our house to walk the dogs should i avoid him or …

Age difference  
I'm 31 years old and my boyfriend of 3 years is 25 years old. I feel strange about this. It didn't bother for awhile, but it's passing my mind again. He …

i have lost interest in sex 
i have lost all drive in sex, i dont make love to my wife now and haven't for for a long time. i used to watch some porn on the net but not even that anymore, …

wife, mistress relationship 
am always feeling guilty living with my live-in partner we have 5 children and im tired of pretending that i love her. I am seeing another woman who …

i am starting to have bi-sexual thoughts after 20yrs of being married 
Is this something that just happens? Its like I'm just plain horny all the time. And sex with anyone will do... Noel's response I don't know how …

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After 28 years together my husband left. 
We never had a normal relationship. We were both from dysfunctional homes(alcoholism/abuse etc.),and his mom was especially abusive to him. His mom and …

Ex-husband wants my help rebuilding his relationship with our children 
Per my post of a couple of days ago, my husband left our home for the forbidden fruit of another woman in July - after 26 years of marriage. His relationship …

My husband suddenly feels nothing for me after saying I was his world for 14.5 years 
HI there, My husbands mother passed away in August. Id been my usual supportive self all the way thro but a few days after her passing I let it in and …

How should I respond? Desperate!!! 
Hello, I am 28 and my husband is 41, we've been married for 10 years. About 5 weeks ago I noticed he became distant and when I raised the issue he announced …

Feeling blaw, I feel like I'm trying to dig myself out of a semi depression. 
What do you do when you feel very blah? nothing is exciting anymore, feel a little depressed, empty in side, like there is a hole though me and I can fill …

I am a gay Christian, and struggling. Is this Mid-Life or just messed up in the head? 
I just turned 49 years old. To give you a brief background, I'm a Christian, gay but trying not to be and hiv positive. Most of my life I've fought the …

What happened to him / us? 
Hi, I am a 31 year old woman and I was happily married until 18 months ago. My husband who is 29 woke up upset one day and stayed upset (lost weight and …

Mid-Life Crisis / Betrayed or Completely Selfish? 
Married for 31 years, my husband's dream was to always build his own company. We never had children, but throughout our marriage, our love and commitment …

Can this abuse be blamed on a mid life crisis? 
yes my ex says he went through mid life crisis which is hard to believe him by cutting all my clothes, destroying part of our home, brought a prostitute …

Husband Left After 25 Years of Marriage-Totally Bewildered & Betrayed 
I would like to know if this situation fits into mid-life crisis. We have been married 25 yrs, husband recently retired (62 yrs old) and we moved into …

dumped by a younger woman 
I am 60 and my 43 year old girlfriend dumped me recently she said it was because of the age difference.she being from a poor area in Jamaica I was generous …

My fiancee, the father of my six year old left me. 
I have been with him six years seven months. I helped raise his other three kids. Since they were small, one of them still in diapers. I love them all …

husband wants to 'live alone' after 41 years together no obvious reason. 
For about a year now my husband has been withdrawing from me. He has refused to take any responsibility for helping with the family home. He just wants …

My husband is wanting to leave for a couple of weeks. Is it wrong to have misgivings about this? 
My husband is 56. I'm 41. We have been married for 15 years. He has 5 kids, I have 2. They are all grow & only one @ home, my son who is almost 19. My …

My husband left after 20 years of marriage! 
I am so confused! Ten months ago my husband announced he no longer loved me and wanted a divorce, he had been distant with me for approx 3 weeks prior …

Talking to my husband, who left our home 
My husband left our home 2 weeks ago with a few bags of clothing. He said he needs Time & space from our home & me. I was in shock. we have been married …

After 30 years of Marriage, Husband Leaves wife for 10 year Younger Woman 
Do husbands ever regret or have remorse leaving their 1st wife and realize they have made a mistake? Do they really ever find happiness? Noel's response …

My wife wants kids but at 58, I’m too old! 
I’m a retired 58yo man, married to a 39yo woman. Before we got married 14 years ago, we talked about kids. She wanted one, but knew I had a vasectomy. …

My husband walked out after 21yrs of marriage AND renewing our vows 
Hi, My husband had an emotional affair with a coworker in 2007-2008. Once I found out, we said we were going to go to counseling and make changes. This …

Their Anger 
Why do men who are going thru midlife crises become so angry with the ones of us they supposedly loved so much? I don't understand why they blame the wife …

is wife still attractive? 
after 32 years I find that my husband needs porn to be aroused, is this normal? Does he feel disgusted with me? I'm not fat, 120 lbs. is all. but I'm aging …

46 Year old male depression? 
Hello, I am 46 years old and seem to be at a point in my life where I need to start over. I have succeeded many times in my life but not without …

How to control sex 
sex control,i.e some times i am getting emotion to have a sex with boy too. Noel's response See a counselor to get help with these emotions.

Should I leave or Should I stay....... 
I have a boy friend for 4 yrs and he doesn't seem know what he wants in his life. I care deeply for this man at the beginning in our relationship but now …

Married man not able to have an erection 
I've been seeing a married man. We have a lot in common, thought that he was leaving his wife. Says she has no interest in sex etc. However the chemistry …

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What is wrong with my husband? 
I am a almost 40yr woman married to a 47yr old man. Ever since we got together our communication levels just stunk, and still do. I try to talk to him …

left me for another woman, what is he thinking? 
After 6 years of a slowly developing relationship that just blossomed into a beautiful love, future plans, retirement plans and future trips...he is having …

affairs 
My Husband has left me for another married women and her from her spouse. She is out of town now and my husband wants to see me and be with me during that …

Lack of Sex 
Hi I am a 30 year-old woman and my boy friend of 4 years is soon to be 37. We moved in together 6 months ago and now only have sex about once a month, …

I feel betrayed and humiliated 
Hello, I been married to my husband for 17 Years, I am 39 years old, my husband is 42 and we have a beautiful 17 year daughter. He is been very abusive …

Is this a Midlife crisis?? 
My boyfriend and I were doing great one day and the next he was angry with me for anything I did. He started being distant, didn't answer phone calls or …

He is looking up old high school girlfriends 
Hello, I have been married to my husband for 31 years, last year some stupid old hs girlfriend who is also married and lives in another state found my …

Trying to figure out what is wrong with my husband 
My husband and I have been married for 20 years next month... We've always had a good relationship lots of love and he was the best dad and husband you …

why do they act like they want to hurt you emotionally 
My husband and I have been together almost 20 years and we have been through a lot. Two of our four children did something stupid and he got fired because …

Reach out or be emotionless?  
My husband is almost 60, very fit and acts much younger. He started having problems after his brother died, then my parents died, and he started having …

does he want to come back home?  
Well I don't think this is a midlife crisis seeing as were both in our only 32 but here it goes. About 11 months ago we had our beautiful little boy. …

He has left me after 69 days of marriage 
Hi, I have been with my husband for 13 years, we only recently got married. He is a city banker in London and I think the pressure has been too much …

married friends of the opposite sex  
My female friend and I go to lunch about twice a week, just she and I. We are both married with children. We work closely on projects at work and no one …

My husband turned 50 yesterday. I really thought we were doing great. What are the chances we as a married couple will survive this? 
My husband turned 50 yesterday. He has completely thrown me for a whirlwind emotional turmoil. He has decided after 20 yrs of marriage, that he is uncertain …

my husband lives in usa and iam in pakistan with my kids 
i am living here in pakistan since last 8 years. my husband all the lies with me i no he has girl friend and his two two kid from that woman. he told that …

How do they feel when they decide to return to the marriage 
My H was in a full blown MLC for 7 years, left had a girlfriend filed for divorce and when I said ok enough is enough, he decided he wanted to work on …

My brother,s midlife crisis 
How do I get through to my well educated, intelligent brother that he is making a terrible mistake by throwing away 24 years of marriage. He has everything …

My boyfriend wants to go back and live with his mom. Is this a good sign? 
me and my boyfriend have been together for three years and living together for two and now he wants to go back home with his mom, but wants to stay together. …

What Older Women Want 
I am 60 and a widow. My husband (age 70) was sick for 15 years and always felt bad that he could no longer perform in bed & upset that he couldn't do …

Mid-Life Crisis AFTER the breakup - Any Help Please? 
Hi Noel, I'm at such a loss right now and have nobody to whom to turn. I've read many stories from marriages, but I'm struggling as a girlfriend who met …

Should we do as he wants and leave? 
Hi Noel, My husband and I have had the most amazing marriage for 15 years. Out of nowhere he tells me that he just needs to be alone. He has been very …

Midlife Crisis and Separation 
A few months ago, right after my husband turned 50, he began to change. He started spending more time alone, began to say that we needed to separate, …

do i have low t  
Recently over the past year, tension inside myself has been building, I am going to be 45 this month for one thing age does not bother me, but that is …

How can I make him see the light? 
My man turned 50 recently and changed almost overnight. he became cold and distant and said many hurtful things to me. I tried to be understanding even …

Any help please? I am really suffering. 
I am 37 years of age. I have a great wife and 2 amazing kids (4 and 7). Three years ago a family friend who was the same age and same family situation …

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andropause 
how long does andropause last? When do i want to have sex again? Noel's response Andropause, like menopause, can last a few months to a few years. …

My husband left but says he loves me and misses me everyday. 
I know my husband of 25 yrs is going through a mid life crisis, almost every description I've read of the signs point to him. He's seeing someone else, …

husband talking to another girl 
In my husband's office there is one girl with whom my husband talks a most most of the time. she goes with him on his bike without telling me. one time …

He is almost 60, and wants more sex than ever 
The question I assume my husband is having a mid-life crisis. He contacted a woman he has known for over twenty years that he always called his friend. …

MY HUSBAND SAYS HE IS TAKING THE KIDS, SELLING THE HOUSE, AND LEAVING ME WITH NOTHING 
The Question MY SISTER DIED 7 MONTHS AGO. WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED 25 YEARS (GOT MARRIED YOUNG). my husband now says he is leaving me taking our 4 kids …

ejeculation 
i am fifty an my ejeculation dose not sqirt out just oozes out. Noel's response It is quite normal for a man your age to have less vigorous squirting …

Can midlife crisis resemble bipolar disorder? 
The question My ex-husband has been in midlife crisis mode for four years now. I swear he is bipolar. His moods are terrible and he does the most …

It has been seven months. Should I move on? 
The question Hi, Noel you commented on my question that it sounds like my husband is going through a major midlife crisis. I am driving myself crazy …

Do I let him stay in my life, even though we are getting divorced, for his own feelings of guilt? 
The question I am in the process of getting a divorce after 20 yrs. of marriage. My husband has been having an affair with a neighbor for at least …

Husband left and hasn't called in 9 days 
The question My husband moved out last Monday. Said he wanted to be alone to work out his issues. Tired of my jealousy and lack of trust. He has been …

A crisis when my husband returned from deployment in Afghanistan 
The question My husband of over 16 years recently arrived back from his first deployment to Afghanistan. We had a wonderful marriage for 16 years …

Mid Life Crisis 
The question My husband came to me in August of last year to tell me that he wasn't happy. It came as a shock to me of course because I had no idea …

My husband is suddenly very controlling, and trying to act younger, is he going through mid-life? 
The Question My husband is 38 years old and he recently had started making changes as far as his physical appearance. It started with him shaving …

what are the signs when the midlife ends 
The Question What are the signs when a male midlife crisis ends? How do we know? Do they show their feelings and normality to their family that they …

To the other woman out there whose life is only beginning after male mid life crisis 
I also have sent a message to Noel and would like to send a message to all us women who are in the same situation with their partners in midlife crisis. …

Am I the right woman but wrong time for this man? 
The Question I am 43 my boyfriend is 51 and we have been together for almost 3 years. I have two children from a previous marriage, he has two children …

Sex Chemistry - is it more an issue in mid life? 
The Question My husband of 14 years with arranged marriage, and his ex still on his mind, there was no mad lust in bedroom dept. But we did share …

Husband thinks he is bisexual or gay at age 60 
The Question My husband has had issues with sexual orientation for most of his life and a therapist said that he is gay. Now he doesn't know what …

He says he loves his high school sweetheart. Is going to leave me? 
The Question My husband is in a midlife crisis. We have been married for 35 years. Is it possible that he will leave me for his high school sweetheart …

wanting more 
The Question I am a 34-year-old married to the most beautiful loving person in the world. She is the best mother and wife. I am pushing her away because …

My man keeps dragging up the past 
The Question \ How can I help my partner if he is constantly bringing up things from years ago that irritated him but he addresses them as if they …

It is driving me mad 
The Question My 52 year old husband is having a midlife crisis and left the house almost four months ago for an apartment 20 minutes away. We have …

My husband says he loves me but he's not in love with me? 
My husband says that he loves me but he is not in love with me. He says that he doesn't know what happened but he fell out of love with me. He's 45 years …

Marrying a woman from another country and giving her money 
The Question At what point can you determine whether a woman "really loves" you for who you are and not for all the money you give her and her family. …

What is happening to me? 
I am 52 old and unhappy with my existence. Till now my wife and I have been happily married for 30 years. I love her as much as I always have. She is …

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How do you change so fast and lose all feelings? 
Hi, I've been married 26 years my husband and I are both 46, he's a firefighter/Paramedic and has a business on the side. I quit a job from the state …

My husband of 12 years says he doesn't love me anymore! 
My very loving husband told me one night he was tired of being a husband, father, tired of working and tired of going to church! I got mad when he said …

My husband just discovered he has a daughter he didn't know about 
The Question My husband recently found out on Facebook that he had a daughter from a relationship 19 years ago, and is now in a midlife crisis because …

Highly sexed man develops erection problem 
The Question I am a married woman of 42 years. My husband is 48 years and is a very sexually aroused person. We had a very healthy sexual life in …

Divorce 
The Question My 41 years old husband and I had sexual problem for a year. He can not maintain his erection when having sex with me. With oral sex, …

Does male menopause cause bisexuality in men? 
The Question My hubby is 47 years old and is now bisexual. Is male menopause a cause of bisexuality in men at this age? Noel's answer Male …

the girl from earlyer years  
The Question Well my husband of almost 20 years has lost his mind. In short he has left me and our two girls for another woman that he knew from …

I want sex and my husband doesn't 
The question My husband is 46 and I am 36 years old. I am always wanting to have sex. We havent had sex in 2 years. When we do have sex it will be …

how long does it last and will he get better?  
The question My husband is going through what I assume is a midlife crisis. He is distant and spends all his time away from our home. He has found …

Is my boyfriend going through a mid life crisis 
The Question I have been with my boyfriend coming on 2 years, am 28 and he turns 40 in a couple of days. We have just come back from holiday and last …

How long does this go on? 
Question Does middle age crisis end at some point? Noel's response Yes. It can take anywhere from a few weeks to a few years. But it does …

47 years old and don´t like my job, but don`t know what to do for a living. 
The Question Hello, I was just looking for answers and navigating through the Internet found your web page. I am 47 years old, went to college …

Feeling Lost and Alone due to husband's MLC. 
The Question I have been with my husband for 13 years. He is 43 and has been going through midlife crisis now for almost 2 years. He has been …

midlife crisis- does it make you unproductive? 
The Question I am 47 years old and feeling like I'm in a middle of it. I am in the oil and gas industry, I was working fine 2 days ago, but I feel …

He wants to be single 
The Question We have been married for 32 years and he has left saying he wants to be single without any responsibilities. We have a 2 week old grand-daughter …

do they return to the marriage 
The Question My husband left a month ago. Says he still loves me but wants to be by himself. He said he doesn't want a relationship with me or anyone …

I she a midlife crisis girlfriend? 
The Question I have been with my boyfriend for a year. We had a long distance relationship. Though we lived far away, we were part of each other's …

Do men in a midlife crisis lose interest in their relationship? 
The Question Do the men going through a midlife crisis tell their partners they do not feel passion for the relationship anymore, and they are not …

I am 'in shock'.  
The Question After moving out my husband has completely cut me off, and becomes angry when I try to contact him (not very often). If this is a mid-life …

How can I help him? 
The Question Hi, I’m 24 and I recently broke up with my boyfriend who is 36. Apparently he is too confused about his emotions and doesn't want to …

What could he be thinking? 
The Question My partner of 10 years fits every single midlife crisis symptom except that he's more relaxed, careless & feeling euphoric. He been …

Seperate or Divorce 
The Question We have been married for ten years. We have two small children. My husband says that he never wanted to be married and he feels empty. …

Will my husband ever come back? 
The Question My husband left me and our two teenage daughters 6 months ago completely out of the blue. He had been bored for 4 years but no-one had …

My husband is depressed and drinks too much 
The Question We have been married for 28 years. My husband has always had low grade depression, as have I. A year ago I noticed that his drinking …

Does this sound like a midlife crisis? 
The Question Hello. My boyfriend left after four years. Said it was all him not me, and I did nothing to cause it. AT random times through our relationship …

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Married man age 52 
The Question I'm 38, married and went through a very tough time for 19 months. I was diagnosed with PTSD. A married man visited me every two weeks …

Am I having an early mid life crisis or am I just a cold hearted bastard? 
The Question I'm 36 years old, married to my college sweetheart (Together since we were 19 years old) have two amazing boys (7 & 4) and all I can …

Childless marriage and mid-life crisis connected 
The Question My husband is 46 and I am 48. We lived together for 9 years and have been married for 10 years. When we met he knew I was infertile. …

I feel as though my life is over 
The Question I am 40 and feel my life is over with. I feel like I am just going through the motions. My drive is gone and I feel like it is gone forever. …

He comes and goes as he pleases 
The Question My husband slowly started to spend more and more time away from home, until now he is here about three days a week and the other he supposedly …

Can his feelings change in midlife transition? 
The Question I'm 43 he is 42. I was laid off of a well paying job nine months ago. We started arguing over money and paying bills. My husband is on …

How did your wife deal with your MLC 
The Question How did your wife deal with your midlife crisis? How long did it last for you? My husband is starting in on his fourth year!! Very …

My 50 year old boss is having a midlife crisis - and I have a crush on him? 
The Question Here we go: I am 30, and my boss is 50. We are both very successful in our company; in fact, my boss recruited me, and I have been …

HARLEY DREAMIN 
The question I am 49 year's young. I don't want to come off as petty, I know their are many problems in this world. I personally have many problems, …

Support groups for women? 
Do Support groups exist for women whose husbands are going through a mid life crisis? I live in Miami, Florida Noel's response I do not know of …

Life didn't turn out the way I thought, and it is bothering me 
The Question I am not sure if I am having a mid-life crisis or am just depressed. I am a 46 year old male, married for 25 years with no children. …

What Am I Going to Do? 
The Question Dear Noel: Im 47 years old and I think I'm going through some kind of mid-life crisis. I went back to school at 44, not because of …

thinking of starting college at age 47 
The Question I just turned 47 and regret not going to college. I did attend for a week when I was 19, then never went back. I was making, I thought, …

Is this mid-life crisis? Please help me 
The Question This past year my husband has forgotten our anniversary and my birthday, in all the years (13), he has never forgotten them. Our sex …

How to handle husband suffering from MLC? 
The Question My husband is 51 years old. He is good looking, and a successful man. He has been the best husband, father, son, friend and a relative …

Is my husband going through a mid-life crisis?Is he going to leave me? 
The Question My husband and I have been together for 12+ years. We have always been inseparable,truly enjoying one another's company and very loving …

Will my husband come back 
The Question My husband, I am sure, is having a midlife crisis. He showed all the signs before he left. We've been married for 12 years and have …

Fearless-Certainty becomes Cold-Empty-Indifference 
The Question Somewhere after High School I seemed to be driven by a mission designed by a higher power. Shortly after my 52nd birthday, I started …

Do Men Ever Get Through A Midlife Crisis? 
The Question My husband is 50 and left me for a 25 year old. Do men ever come out of a mid-life crisis and how long does it take? Noel's response …

I'm struggling, and my boyfriend/fiance is riding away... 
The Question I have been dating Bob or 7 years. He has lived with me and my two kids for 4 years of those 7 years. Last Christmas was a disaster. …

My husband doesn't know what he wants 
The Question Out of the Blue my husband told me he didn't know if he wanted to be married anymore. I am devastated. He has never even said anything …

Can men go through a midlife crisis at the age 35? 
The Question My husband has been acting like a complete bachelor for the past 5 months now. He is drinking, draining our bank accounts on his drinking, …

Can a midlife crisis change a man so drastically 
The Question My husband and I have been together for about 27 years and we have two young children. We have overcome many obstacles over the years …

Husbands Mid Life Crisis 
Question I am 46 and my Husband is about to turn 50. My Husband was the most loving kindest gentle man I have ever known. I have known him for 30 …

Midlife crisis 
Question Please help I am losing it... my husband was on Oxycotin everyday for 7years of our 9 year marriage. the Doctor put him on it. Everyday...there …

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Cheating 
Question I've been with a man for six years. He is 47, and I believe he is going through midlife crisis. He thinks that cheating is okay, and …

Husband in midlife crisis ? 
Question My husband met another woman & moved in with her after he claims he'd only known her for four weeks. He is nearly 53yrs old. She is 39 yrs …

How can I see that my husband's MC is ending? 
Question My husband is 42 years (me 41), we have a daughter of 5 and we are married for 15 years. He started to act strangely 18 months ago. He …

I caught my husband talking to another woman  
Question I caught my husband talking to a woman on a strange cell phone the second day after we got back from vacation. He was in the motor home …

How can I get him back? I think I truly love and care for him 
Question My boyfriend came out of 20 years of marriage and saw me as the best thing that ever happened to him. But lately he began finding faults …

I never was loved by as a child how do I deal with it? 
Question Born july 1963 /given for adoption 1964 never new father/mother my marrage has ended I am in this world alone. Noel's Answer Yours …

How Long does it last? 
Question: how long does the transition last? Noel's Answer: It varies. With some men, it is a few weeks, with others, several months, and with …

how long do i wait on my husband to come back home? 
The Question: After the loss of my husband's mother and about a year later our 19 year old grandson, who was killed in an auto accident, my husband …

Going back to school at 55 
Question I'm 55 and interested in going back to college. Actually, I did go to college a year ago and dropped out after 10 weeks because I was afraid …

crying after sex 
Question: If a 46 year old man who wants oral sex and more and after he ejaculates, he cries what does that mean. i have never encountered this and I …

midlife crisis? 
My husband and I have been together for 14 years. He is 44 years old. We have had a great life and marriage together until the past year and a half. …

when the husband does strange things. 
QUESTION: I am married for the last 12 years, and my husband, I think, is having a midlife crises. He does things that make me feel that he has another …

Signs of a Midlife Crisis 
Question: What are the typical signs of a midlife crisis? Noel's Answer: First let me say there is a difference between a midlfe crisis, and a midlife …

I cant take anymore!!! 
I am 43, i have two lovely young boys 8yr & 12yr. I have been with their mum for 23 years now. Just over a year ago i made a crap attempt on my life, (with …

72 YO wants sex with wife 
I was exiled to the spare bed room 15 years ago. I was unable to please my wife and she said things like "She felt like a hole" I used to fulfill my lust …

is my husband gay/bi? 
Found out my husband has been in bisexual gay dating sites and calling gay chat line he say its just the meth that causes him to be like that or is he …

How can i show I care? 
How I can attract a 47 years old who is divorce 13 years ago. How can I show that i really care for him. Noel's response Be yourself. Tell him …

9 month telephonic relationship ONLY 
All my life I am/ have been a man-pursuer. I go for what I want & I am fiercely independent, while simultaneously, I am dependent because I am the sole …

59 and divorced after 30 years 
So I stayed in the closet bt I get head from gay guys. Am I a homo? Noel's response I would guess you probably lean that way.

My husband is 42 an can't keep a erection  
He's 42 an when he tries to have sex with me his erection goes soft he also seems very distant. I tried asking him what's wrong but he don't want to talk …

i am the confused other women. 
a man i have been working with for 5 yrs suddenly started paying a lot more attention to me. he is 20 yrs older than me. he actively pursued me for several …

midlife cheater 
my husband has a business, he i believe is in midlife crisis. he is having an affair with his worker that is half his age. he states he loves her because …

husbands midlife crisis 
I'm not sure if my husband is going through midlife crisis or not. he is cheating with a much younger girl with children. he states she understands him …

midlife cricess 
I've been with my ex for 41/2 yrs ,last easter he just disappeared and ,I did.nt know if he was dead or alive . Long story short .after i try to get him …

Dealing with midlife regrets and how long does transition take?  
Hi Noel, I'm 52 and been happily married for 16 yrs, stable in my career and financials, always had good health. About 9 months ago I started having unexplainable …

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Is it a Midlife Crisis? 
I'm 41 and my boyfriend is 52. We have been together going on 10 years and have lived together going on four years. In the last year or so he began to …

Midlife Crisis Men Problems 
Is there something that triggers this midlife crisis or midlife transition into starting? Is it some tradegy that brings this on in men? Why do these men …

Signs to look for with Midlife Crisis 
what are the telltale outward signs of a man going through midlife crisis that women can look for in their mate. Example: hair coloring, mustache coloring, …

Could my husband be going through midlife crisis 
Hi, My husband is 36years old and the last 6mths he changed and became verbally abusive and last week he said its time to make money and live life. …

Am I his mid-life crisis?? 
I am 31 and married. recently a male coworker who is 50 and married started hitting on me. I pushed him away at first, but he was persistent. finally I …

Suffering form Despression 
My husband is suffering from depression and on medication has left our family home and does not communicate with me answer my calls or emails what do I …

just cant figure it out 
my 63 year old husband left me and our 2 children for his brothers widow and her 2 small children. I asked him if he loves her and he told me he loves …

My husband is 66 yrs old I am wondering if he is going thru a midlife crisis... 
he says he wants time away from me, does not want to kiss me all of the time...when he is away he seldom calls and checks on me....bought a harley motorcycle, …

Married 39 years dating a co worker  
I am a 62 year old male have been dating a co worker for 3 years. We have known one another since I was 29 and she was 22. We are now in love. what shall …

How many Couples reunite after a divorce? 
After 34 years of marraige my husband filed for divoce to be with his high school sweetheart. Our counselor told him he is facing a true mid life crisis; …

Why does he go from sweet and attentive to mood and distant? 
I've been married to a warm wonderful affectionate man for 26 years, recently be goes from hot to cold. Noel's response My guess is he is going …

is there life after midlife crisi? 
my brother in law grew up in a polygamous family setting. Home was as dysfunctional as they get. has severe emotional trauma from childhood that he refuses …

during midlife crisis, do they have brief moments when they are sane and have feeling? 
or are they 24/7 in crisis for those few weeks to 5yr period? How do they feel when they eventually snap out of it? Are they tired, fresh, ....what is …

will he ever get over this mid life crisis 
My husband left me 5 mths ago, he says he loves me but not in love with me no more. he is very confused can't answer why he did this. He says he never …

Not sure but maybe... 
Iam 44 yrs old no real education as you will probley find out when I misspell words ect. But I was married to my first wife for 7 yrs had 2 wonderfull …

whats wrong with me  
i am 54 years old been engaged for 9 years love my woman. back in may we had a fight (like the one in may 2011 but both times she hit me enough to bleed. …

midlife crisis or long affair 
I'm really not sure if he did have a midlife crisis. He seems content now and after 34 years of marriage, I would think he'd want to be free of me. But, …

Do men remember the history ? 
My husband of 34 years announced he was unhappy and needed space, filed for divorce, refuses to talk and has someone else which is a serious relationship …

my husband says he still loves me but not like he use to .Is that normal 
MY HUSBAND SAYS HE STILL LOVES ME BUT NOT LIKE HE USE TO Noel's response Often when people have been married for a number of years they begin to …

When is Middle Age? 
I am 41 going on 42 am I middle Aged? Noel's response For centuries, the average life span was about 70 years, which meant that the 'midlife point' …

how to get through heartbreak 
After 25 yrs and three children he has told me he is no longer in love with me. he loves me but not in love with me anymore. He has been having sex with …

there is any book in spanish that can help? 
I would like to know is if posible have the books in this web site translate in spanish, there is a lot of spanish speaking people including me that …

my husband is going through a midlife crisis 
I would like to know how do you talk to your husband when he is going through a midlife crisis and has already moved out saying he needed space. Noel's …

what usally happens in cases like mine? 
iwas married 16 years , my ex had got caught by her text, he left fo her we divorced and his family has nothing to with nor do our kids and he is very …

Desperate for Companionship: Gay at 60 
What are the best strategies for finding a same-sex partner for men after 60? I just turned 60 last December (six months ago) and have been "out" for 10 …

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My once loving husband has turned into a monster 
My husband of 23 years left me 5 weeks ago after I found out he was having an online affair with a woman he met playing online games.. This woman lives …

What to do next 
My husband has recently filed for a divorce after 17 years of marriage. I totally don't want a divorce. I have begged and pleaded for this not to take …

is My 41 Yr old Husband Starting a Midlife Crises 
lately for the past year myt 41 year old husband has been differntly...its like i dont even know him anymore...we will be married 20 yrs this august...its …

Stages of Midlife Crisis 
My husbands midlife crisis is confusing the heck out of me. He was once a warm loving man who would do absolutely anything for his family. He has been …

39 year old man and now having questions about my sexuality 
I just turned 39 years old and have had many sexual partners since the age of about 15. I've only had a couple of real relationships. About 4 years ago, …

He's changed a lot. Could this be a Midlife crisis 
Hi Having been married neally 21 years,these past two years have been rough,communication has broken down,he only talks about things when it suits him.The …

husbands drunken 1 night stand 
my husband is 52, 6 months ago i found out he had a drunken 1 night stand, he is a singer in a hotel and stayed behind then went up to a room with a woman, …

will he cheat? 
weve be married for 20 yrs he is now coming up to his 44th birthday, he's recently finished in the army a year ago,he says he loves being out and is loving …

separated for 5 months fate of marriage unknown 
my husband and i have been together for 10 years and he walked out on me very unexpectedly. i came home 1 day he sat there showed me his p.o. box key and …

Dealing with the hell of my husbands midlife crisis 
My husband and I have been together for 19 years. He is turning 50 this year and it really has been bothering him. For the past year or so he has been …

Husband is 42 years old and all of a sudden very emotional!! 
My husband has always been a strong man and now he cries over alot of stuff!! Why? Noel's response I am not sure why men often become emotional …

Betrayed by arranged marriage  
I have been with my partner for 5 years. He had work problems and out of desperation found work abroad. I visited him and we made plans for me join him. …

Married but interested in some one else 
I'm 39, married and have 2 kids. I recently met a woman who I cannot stop thinking about. We spoke for about 15 minutes and their was an obvious attraction …

Is he in midlife crisis? 
We have been married nearly 21 years,its always been pretty rocky but we got thru it. Im 11 years older than him,hes nearly 42. Hes American and Im British …

Mid life crisis 
I had never really studied how to deal with someone like my husband who seems to be in a midlife crisis. He left me six months ago and filed for divorce. …

Pushing him for the divorve! 
My husband of 13 1/2 years has moved out and is involved with a 28 year old divorced mother of 2. We don't have any children and we were together 15 years …

36 and unsure whats wrong. 
Hi I am about to be 36. This past year my wife gave birth to our only child so far. Shortly after, I was in the hospital for MRSA. In the past few …

Male-female age difference 
I am a 49 year old male. Do you think I am too old to date a 31 year old woman? We both have professional degrees. Noel's response Age is only …

depressed husband 
Hello. Married 7 years, 3 months shy from 50. He does not want to work any more,lazy sleeping all day,does not want for sex. Went and bought a new sports …

obession 
My husband lost weight at 45 and now he is obsessed about himself and wants attention, anyone's attention. He wants to be looked at by others especially …

51year old man having baby with 25 year old woman 
I I'm 51 year man with a 25 year woman I'm divorced no kids i make a good living, I feel like this money I make and the crap I have to put up with to make …

is it a mid life crisis 
my husband told me 6 weeks ago that he had met another woman on holiday , they had beeen talking for 3 weeks on the phone he doesnt even know her but said …

Mid Life Crisis or Depression 
My husband of 20 years has been depressed and very angry for many years (I say this he says no).Slowly he started to withdraw,phone calls from work stopped,then …

age 
I am 14 years older than my 35 years old girlfriend is the age going to be problem? Noel's response There is a lot more to a relationship than …

Sex after testicular cancer surgery? 
I'm a 53 year old woman who has met a wonderful 56 year old man. We get along great and talk about a future together. He has had one testicle removed due …

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Half way to no where. 
3/4 teaching degree....I have dyslexia and ADD. Went into sales and was side tracked and then the kids came... made good money so I but it on hold..... …

after 37 years of marriage he left 
My daughter lived with us. Her friend needed help to quit drinking. I was against it from the beginning. But he is now wanting to marry the friend she …

52 year old hubby I am 56, 16 year old son. Think he is in MLC 
Had a wonderful weekend together, next weekend, Valentines day just got a card signed Happy Valentines no love ... and a big candy bar. Has never not done …

What do I do? Something's wrong w/my husband! 
My husband and I have a good, and open relationship. He has a daughter, from someone else. I am now pregnant with his second child. When we usually argue …

Older men leaving marriage for younger woman 
Are older "Mid-Life Men" REALLY happy after leaving their wife to start a new family with a younger woman? Noel's response As I have stated when …

my 32 year old boyfriend watching teen porn and he has a teen daughter ? 
i'm 20 years old and is it normal for my 32 year old boyfriend to be watching teen porn when he has his 14 year old daughter living with him ?? please …

Mid-Life Crisis or Change in Beliefs 
Hi, My husband and I have been together for 17 years and will have been married for 15 this August, 2012. It was love at first sight when we met and we …

masterbate no sperm anymore 
yesterday and today i masturbated and no sperm came out i am worried about this i am 34. Noel's response It could be a serious health issue (unless …

Male crisis 
My husband is 33 and we have been married for almost 5 years and have a 3 year old daughter. we have been together for 12 years before getting married. …

Will he ever come back? 
we were married early (aged 21) and have been so for 13 years. he has always been logical in his decision-makings, he was a bull. two years ago he …

Together for 10 years and just been dumped 
Bit complicated but I guess everyones stories are. We have been together for 10 years, we have split before when he felt he didn't want to be with me. …

Lack of erection 
I am 55 years man and is healthy body. but i am finding total lack of erection and sperm leakage very early . what to do. Noel's response See your …

why a woman 43 sleep with a young male.. 
I have a son that was 22yrs and a woman 43 has sex with him, and her daughter at the time was 18 and she also has at the time was 14,anyway he lives with …

Health effect of younger man and older woman 
whats the health effect of 29 years old man making Love to a 60 years old woman. Noel's response If you both enjoy the experience, the health …

Is there any hope that my husband might return to me? 
My husband left two years ago .He filed for divorce in october 2011.He seemed very happy and always told me he loved me.He made a point of letting everyone …

older sex 
I'm 60 my wife 61 married 35 yrs. she lost interest in sex I'm sexual ....I started to look at risque pics on internet hoping she"ll see and maybe...? …

My husband left me for another woman 
Recently I married(10.12.11)my partener of 23 years. I thought we where very happy. The wedding was fantastic from start to finish. Just three days later …

To Nice for to long! 
My husband has been going the the classic mid life he loves me but not in love with me. He feels numb but not sure what he wants. Well this has been …

50 year old boyfriend is avoiding me after feeling pressured 
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months. When we met we immediately had a close relationship and he told me he was in love with me before the …

I'm 46 year old male, 25 years married, and have fallen in love with a 21 year old male 
Since I can remember, i have always had an attraction to the same sex, I just denyed it, however it never went away. I did what most men do, got married …

HEIGHT AND WEIGHT MATTERS 
I am a 46 yrs old man,i am only 4'7" and 73lbs,my wife is 5'11" and 258lbs she 39 yrs.I am like a small kid to her.we had love marriage.I was her private …

Is there hope 
My husband of 25 years, my soulmate and best friend, everyone thought we were the perfect couple. Told me, out of the blue that he doesnt want a divorce …

Is there anything I can do to save me marriage 
I have been married for 5 years. I am 6 years older than my husband ( he just turned 40). For about a year now, we have had intimate relations rarely. …

I let go of my girlfriend 
I am a successful person in every sense of the word. I have a successful business, resourceful and contended. My wife is a career oriented woman, She is …

weak erections 
i don,t have hard erection thats happend a week ago before it was good i have lust but the problem is erection i do,t know why plz help me Noel's …

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midlife crisis, bipolar or both? 
My husband has been going through a midlife crisis for over a year and has pretty much followed everything by the book. multiple affairs, in love with …

What if your boyfriend is confused with his feelings? 
I have a boyfriend. We have been together for, I just really don't know how to say it. But before he leaves the country, we've been for 16months. Then …

Sudden changes 
Everything was great when we first got together, but after we got married eveything changed. I found out about all kinds of things he lied about and I …

Husband still having an affair after 20 years. 
My husband of 37 years had an affair 20 years ago and had been seeing her for several years. Until I caught him (by recording his phone conversation) he …

after all that... now what? 
OK, I'll make it as short as possible... I used to have confidence, lot's of friends, cute girlfriends, plenty of sex, and a secure job working for …

21 year age gap 
Hi I'm a 28 year old woman who has been in a relationship with my 49 year old boyfriend for over a year I love him very much and would quite happily marry …

My husband left with no warning and totally cut ties 
My husband walked out on me and our 3 kids 4 yrs. ago, no warning no explanation, no communication. He filed for divorce 9 mos. after he left, never helped …

sex at 52 
Does a man,s sperm get weak at this age and more like thin egg white and does the age make him come quicker? Noel's response I don't think sperm …

When to Give up? 
After years of other women being in our marriage in some form, how do you know when enough is enough? I've never believed in divorce, but I can't allow …

Mike Steinhauer 
When did mike tell you and at what age of his life? Thanks Nameer Noel's response He told me when he was in his late fifties. In other words, …

Husband rarely interested in sex 
We have been married for 5 years. We are both 52. My husband relieves himself when needed. He is rarely interested in sex with me. He use to go through …

Dad and Girlfriend 
I hate my dad. He is 46 years old and he is dating a 21 year old girl. hes been acting so different. he even hits me, and hes never done that before, and …

I feel abandondoned by my husband in MLC 
Hi Im 45 husband 46 we were together 22 years 2 teenage kids.I thought our marriage was fine sex was good. But noticed emotional distance from him for …

He is now engaged to another woman...what can I do? 
My ex boyfriend has shown many signs of a midlife crisis. He ended our relationship out of the blue without any option to sit and discuss or try to work …

i love some one who is older than me 28 year 
i worked with him 3 year every one know he is kind lovely person, he is married and he told me he loves me and he want to marry me i refused but really …

44 yrs old man moves back home to mother 
I was engaged to my ex and we lived together for 4 1/2 years, but had been together 6 years. He is 44 and never been married or have any children. He …

Erection Difficulties. mid 40's male 
I'm 46 in pretty good health and weight. I exercise mildly. My question is my erections have noticeably decreased over the last couple months. I used to …

Male Partner & Midlife Crisis 
We have been in a relationship for 7 years. We live 2 hours apart from each other and have our own houses,we see each other on weekends and when we have …

Cheating husband  
I've been married for fourteen years we have two Kids one seven and one thirteen I thought everything Was going good until two months ago when my Husband …

It's complicated 
I'm 41, lots of life experience. No job, some skills but a terrible lazy attitude, though I'm energetic and like to complete a task. Have a girlfriend …

as a wife of a 50 yr old man who has to be married to me for almost 6 yrs.......what can i have to do to excite him 
Have been married for.the second time 6 yrs... my husband has a decreased sexual appetite..was wondering if there is a way I can find out sincerely is …

I want more sex than him 
im 21 years old and he is 52 and i hope there is something to increase his sex drive i want sex i love him. Noel's response I doubt there is anything …

Im in love with a 50 yr old man who is with a lady dying of cancer 
Im a 27 year old woman, in a band with an amazing guitar player. However, im gay, he is abt to be 50, the woman who introduced him and me is dying of cancer …

husbands 3 month affair can we survive 
my husband has had an affair with a widow whose husband had only been dead 3 months, i think the affair lasted 3 months before i found out, he left for …

It's been two years, do I give up? 
I've been with a man for 14 years now, I am 50, he is 49, we started out as good friends, and he persued me for years until I let my walls down and believed …

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Taking a break from us 
My husband (40) left with packed bags on Thursday night when he got home late from work, said he needed a break from us (I have 2 kids). He has been on …

He is having an affair with a younger woman. Will it work? 
I have been with my partner for 17 years. i found out someone was asking him for a fling but told me he wasn't interested. After months of arguing i asked …

he is older, but has more sex drive than me 
I have an older boyfriend he is 55 yrs old and i am a 26 yr old woman and he has more of a sex drive than me. is that right for a man that age to have …

married for 32 years of marriage and a girlfriend now. 
Married for 32 yrs and stilll live in the same house and he has a girlfriend now. It started 2 yrs ago. We fought about money and a drug addict son. I …

midlife crisis - I don't know who he is any more 
My husband left me and my daughter four months ago and was having an affair with a 28 year old collegue,in the space of twelve weeks he left us moved in …

erection problem 
i am 36. i had no exposure to blue films.now when i watch blue films i have no erection. i am unmarried and had no sex at all. am i impotent? Noel's …

should I marry this older man? 
my age is 23, I am in love with man his age 43, he is married, we would like to marry but I am afraid that is it right or wrong,but he is loving me lot. …

my partner has left me for the third time in ten years  
He first left at age 46 then again age 49 and then again this time at age 56. This age is when you're suppose to be settling down with someone - why would …

confused - he doesn't love me, but still wants to see me now and then 
married and been together 23 years,he joined the police and changed. then last july he tells me he doesnt love me but still cares for me he has not been …

trouble with ejaculation 
My wife and I have been together for 3 years and married for 1 1/2. We have a good sex life and still love each other. My problem is that I am have trouble …

very much worried 
I am 36 years old and my wife is 30year old, married at the age of 34, have no kids. I have a serious problem, during the intercourse suddenly am getting …

Do men going through MLC commit suicide? 
My estranged husband has threatened suicide. He has told me he has a gun and he's come close several times shooting himself. I called his son, the one …

Is it normal for a man who is 60 to be obsessed with children? 
My father remarried to a 20 year younger woman a few years ago. He always said that he always dreamed of having a large family and he is also a strict …

Closeted 40 year old gay guy 
I'm a 40 year old professional working Muslim man. As long as I remembered I've always had attraction to other men. I am an introvert and not able to express …

She says she is leaving because of our age difference 
I was in mid 30’s when I married my girlfriend which was 20 years old. We have had a very successful marriage for 25 years and 2 wonderful children aged …

father daughter porn 
I am mortified that my live in boyfriend father of two girls 21 and 24 is looking at father rape daughter father fuck daughter daughter suck father type …

humps 
My partner gets the 'hump' and doesn't say why, just goes quiet. It upsets me and I stop talking too. I tried to explain, wrote a long explanation letter …

Immature boy/men 
where would you classify 46 yr old boys that don't grow up Noel's response Immature.

what can I do?  
I've been married for 10 years, have 3 sons (15, 6, 8months) it's my second marriage, I'm 39, he's 38, he is unemployed for two years in a very bad situation …

I am a lonely single woman 42. A married Man 52 is flirting with me. What do I do? 
I am concerned about a budding attraction I have to a married man, who is 52. I work at a store and he comes in once in a while, but from the first time …

I am bi 
Did not do anything until my fifties. From a meat market site, I met this married guy. Did what was expected. After I told him what business I was in, …

Is my husband having a MLC?? 
Hi My husband and I have been together for 18 years and have two children. He is 38 and I am 37. We have separated twice before (once due to an affair) …

intrusive thoughts 
My fiance/ babies father just told me he has been having thoughts about raping people! I need help should i leave? Noel's response If you believe …

I'm 50 and 37 year old girlfriend is pregnant.... 
We are both separated from previous spouses but not yet divorced. I have a 21 year old daughter and an 18 year old son with my wife. Girlfriend has 13 …

Infidelity 
My husband of 30 years has been seeing prostitutes for the past eight years. I love him and don't want to break the marriage, neither does he. He is going …

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Is masturbation beneficial for BPH? 
I've read that regular masturbation in one's twenties has been shown to reduce the risk of aggressive prostate cancer. For the less serious condition …

my husband has betrayed and abandoned us 
I was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2008 and during treatment my husband began a relationship with another woman, after 32 years of marriage, not counting …

syptoms in male midlife crisis 
I am 11 years older than my husband. We have been married 20 years now.3 kids (youngest 13.5 others 17 and 18)The love making has gone,he doesn't take …

syptoms in male midlife crisis 
My husband keeps saying he doesnt love me,hes leaving,he hates me,hes very moody and quick tempered.He never spends time with me.He is 42 in June.Are these …

husband 45 years old left home 12 weeks go ,on my birthday 
he has bipolar....we have 2 children 24 and 25.... i am receptionist, he a director... He is attractive man...but i am an attractive woman... or so they …

Married 34 yrs... he wants more money than can be earned?? 
Due to my having disabilities..unable to gain work..hubby is in depression...not being able to get out of the financial rut?? help! Do we vacate our …

When does a man's mid life crisis end? 
My husband has shown specific signs of mid life crisis for about 6 years now. He is 42. One issue involves a woman he works with in his office. I can see …

Is he cheating 
My husband and I have being married for 17 years he doesn't want to be intimate anymore because he says he is tired. Noel's response I have no …

Is he going thru a mid life crisis?? 
My husband of 18 years has filed for divorce and is having an affair. It all started the summer of 2010(not the affair but everything else). He was in …

Why would a 42 year old healthy unemployed male married with infant move in with parents 
Why would a 43 year old healthy male. Married with an infant move home with mom and dad? Noel's response You would have to ask him. As he is unemployed, …

How could u make a 40 years old mother of 3 children reach her orgasm  
How could u make a 40 years old mother of 3 children reach her orgasm. Noel's response There are a number of ways... everything from straight intercourse …

Am I trying to recapture my youth with this younger woman 
I am a 34 year old married man father of two. I fell in love with a 18 year old woman. She is now pregnant , I am trying to start over, I am wondering …

why is he avoiding me 
I am married woman and met a old childhood friend of mine we both r married and hit it off he asked me out for a drink and I joined with nothing on my …

Can you snap In and out of it? 
Can you flash in and out of a midlife crisis? Say you feel different one day and everyone is calling you crazy for months, and then you snap back for a …

mid life crisis at 55 
my husband left me in july last year just before our 34 anniversary.he blames me for everything.he wont tell me why just that he doesn't want to be with …

Leaving Me For Ex Wife 
My husband is 66 years old. He wants to go back to his ex wife he divorced 41 years ago. They had a reunion last year and he says he never got over her. …

no sex 
Three years ago my husband started looking at porn I stumbled upon it I asked him to stop he said he would then in July I found out he was doing it I asked …

Midlife Man Using Porn for stimulation 
My husband and I are both 50 and have always had an active and satisfying sex life...Over the past few years I have noticed some changes is my husband's …

Husbands current behavior 
My husband (age 50) had a year long affair which he confessed to in May 2010. We separated briefly then he moved home after a month. Well it was a very …

i want to stop cheating but how  
I've been with my girlfriend for over 2 years and from the start we was both cheating on each other but but now we have a baby daughter and I don't know …

How do I get my mid life husband to go to the doctor? 
My husband has been going through a mid life crisis. He is depressed withdrawing from me and the kids. No interest in sex either. He still hugs and …

My dad loves his ex? 
Before my dad met my mother, he had a girlfriend. The relationship lasted 3 years. While he was dating this woman, he met her brother and became best …

a month of no sex 
I am a 45 yr old attractive woman who has been dating a 43 yr old man for the past 5 months. He has been divorced only slightly over a year with 2 teenage …

How to save my marriage? 
After nearly 17 yrs together, my husband has said he doesn't want to be married any more or the responsibilities that go with it. We have a business together …

My 32-year old boyfriend DUMPED me! 
My 32-year old boyfriend dumped me and told me really hurtful stuff over the phone. Yes he dumped me over the phone. I am 24 and he is turning 33 this …

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sexual problem 
I am 50 years old man. I have problem spurams leakage when I talking with girls I got truble please referred. Medicine. Noel's response Make an …

i was 26 he 30 and it was 2nd marriage he says its the longest... 
My husband would say this is the longest i've ever been married what does that mean. I just need to know what that means if you know it has been really …

perfect relationship now what  
i have been with this man for 3 years. i have 2 children 5 and 7 and he is the only father they know these are not his children but, he treats them as …

i believe my boyfriend is gay he is 44 years old  
I'm so sure my boyfriend is gay. We lived together I just left him. I'm so sure he is gay/bi in denial. I feel used and hurt. I love him we wanted to get …

Midlife Crisis Despair 
My spouse of 24 years now (he is in his 40s) had to move due to career and has been gone for 3 years. There are reasons I can't move trust me. He started …

affair or mid life crisis? 
My husband of 10years is now deleting his calls and texts. i found viagra in his wallet, quizzed him, he hit the roof telling me to stop snooping he is …

BF dumped me over the phone for someone else around 4 year anniversary. 
I've known this man for over 20 years ago. We dated at 19, got pregnant, subsequently lost the child. Split up. Reconnected 5 years later, he cheated on …

is it a midlife crisis? 
Hi, my 39 yr old bf of 1 year has decided to end our relationship, well it was 4 months ago now, i am still trying to make sense of it all...i have to …

Will we ever recover from his abandonment 
I am writing as a daughter who is trying to support her broken mother. My dad dropped the bombshell one week ago that he wants a separation from my mum …

Ex girlfriend is having our baby soon 
Hi, where to start. My girlfriend and i met 4 years ago in Europe. She is 30 and i'm 43. We went out for a while, broke up, back together but only ever …

My husband walked out after 14 1/2 years of marriage  
My husband and I have been together for 16 years and married for 14 1/2 of them. This is his second marriage and he and I raised his 3 kids from his first …

Husband got caught looking on live chat dating website 
found out my husband has been looking at web sex dating websites, confronted him, he got very angry and said it was because he was depressed. He is currently …

My boyfriends sex drive is gone 
Goodday I am 33 years old and my boyfriend is 43 years old. In the beginning we use to have sex regularly but I haven't had sex from him in the past …

lack of intimacy 
MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN MARRIED ONE YEAR, AND BEEN TOGETHER 5 YEARS. I HAVE 3 CHILDREN, 2 THAT LIVE WITH US AND HE HAS ONE ALSO FROM PREVIOUS MARRIAGE …

I am a man and my partner left after 30 years 
i am 66 this year,my partner is 48, we broke up after a row last year, we had been together for 30 years and had two girls age 22 28 on the day of the …

MY HUSBAND AND HIS FEMALE DOG 
i've been married for 6 months my husband likes to spend time with his female dog all the time if he goes to the bathroom he tells her to come with him …

age 
At What age do men typically go through this period of their lives? Noel's response Anywhere from 35 to mid-fifties.

Do they ever wake up and realize they made a mistake? 
My ex left me for another woman in April of 2011.We had been together for nearly eighteen years with the exception of an eight year break in between.We …

Why say he loves me then meets a girl he doesn't know and say he loves her and starts dating her 
Ok do me and my ex broke up on dec 9 because of stress Then he got a job he kept telling me he loved me and we were Getting back together kept coming …

Boundaries? 
Noel, You mention setting boundaries...My husband says he has to "fix" him before he can work on us. Yet he hasn't left me, he's just distant. He still …

Getting Married To An Older Man 
Hi there. I am a 20 year old woman and i have been in a relationship with a 50 year old man for 3 years now. for the first year age seemed a problem, …

Does MLC ever end? 
Will my husband ever get over this horrible situation he has put us thru? We are separated now, but I never wanted that. He only thinks about himself, …

Four Years Later 
we still struggle with what he was feeling for the other woman. he gave up everything for her, and was honest enough to say how he felt. you encourage …

re-connecting with high school boyfriend 
My high school boyfriend(first love)recently got in touch with me. He said an old school mate of ours gave him my number. He wants me to visit him …

lies 
My daughter is 27 and dating a married man with 5 kids, he is 37. He is highly highly intelligent. My daughter has lots of life experiences and says …

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Make new friends 
Hi, I`m 40 years old now and I thought this mid-life crisis was unreal, but I`m feeling totally down and I see that is true. I don`t know what to do or …

What are the odds of him coming home? 
what are the odds of a man returning to his wife after a midlife crisis? Noel's response I have never seen a report of the odds. I know some do, …

Crisis w/ GF!! Prior Abusive Relationship with her Ex causing problems??? 
Hi I'm a 31 year old male, My girlfriend is 27. We have been dating now for about four months. I have never been married however she was married for seven …

How early can someone go through a midlife crisis? 
My boyfriend who is 28 and I know that that is early from the research that I have done but is actions seem like he quite possibly could be going through …

Tell me what is going on in his head!!! 
It's now been 48 days since our "crisis" began (crisis being an "inappropriate" texting relationship") and I still don't know what to think, or how to …

Losing My Wife after 15 years 
After working hard, becoming successful, my wife came to me and said I have been telling her what to do and directing her life. She said she has no life …

Is it friendship? or more? 
i discovered by accident some emails between my husband and a co worker. they were obviously flirting, but the one that bothered me most was a fairly innocent …

left for a younger woman! 
My husband and I have been married for 10 years with 2 young children. He decided that he wasn't in love with me anymore. He stated that he cares more …

wife left me and my 5 year old son. What should i do? 
wife left me and my 5 year old son. What should i do? Noel's response The first thing I suggest is that you make looking after your son (getting …

Returning to school 
I'm close to 60 and never finished my college degree for one reason or another. I now have the opportunity to return to college FOR FREE through my employer's …

Mid-Life Crisis 
Hi Noel. I'm not sure if my husband is going thru a Mid-Life Crisis. He is not sure what he wants and that he feels we are not as close as we used to be …

dad's midlife crisis and daughter's un-knowningness. 
My dad recently went through a very traumatic divorce, he was divorced by a woman he was with for 15 years, she is 20 years younger and I suppose felt …

im a 38 male staying horny all the time 
last 6 or 8 months i stay extremely horny all the time. me and the wife can have sex and 5-10 minutes it feels like i haven't had it in a year. ive had …

My father is leaving my mother for a younger woman of my age 
Hello, my father just announced he is divorcing my mother for a younger woman . She is 39 , the same age as me. My parents have been married for 40 …

Does MLC affect men in a way due to their anger or guilt to perform spousal rape on their wives before they leave home due to an affair?  
I am affected by this greatly. What my husband did to me was very out of character for him. We were together for 16 years & married 15 of those. He had …

Pregnant by a man that left his wife and then went back to her. 
I was involved with a 50 year old man that was married for 24 years and left his wife and has now went back. I am 38 years old. He has three grown children …

falling in love with my boss 
what should i do i do not love my husband but care about him not wanting to hurt him. I am falling in love with my boss, but he won't tell me how he …

My husband is 35 years old and he has moved out because he is confused. 
Hello, My husband and I are about to celebrate our 14 year anniversary on January 1st. We have had a difficult time the past couple of years due to finances …

Does a mans sex drive decrease? 
My fiancee and I have been together for five years. For the last 3 months my sex life has been at a stop by being active once a month. We had talks about …

My boyfriend always wants sex, I do not 
My boyfriend is always on me to have sex. It was great in the beginning. We both did not work at this time, now I work m-f and he works only full time …

Im 32 my boyfriend is 48 having problems in bed 
Ok so i began dating my 48 yea old boyfriend and he had not had sex in three years till me now. he has a difficult time getting hard. he gets horny and …

I am a man facing these problems 
lack of energy motivation and sex drive. feeling tired most of the time. also cant feel much when having sex-feels like i am not big enough for partner. …

44 and wondering where the fun went.. 
I'm 44 - Divorced, Father of 2.....my question is how to feel fun, I get it once in awhile but it never stays long,,,,,and when the fun leaves I can almost …

My husband and I have not had sex in the last 21/2 years? 
My husband is 41 and I am 45, we have been married for 10 years, and for the last 2 1/2 we have not had any intimacy? Is he going through a mid life crisis?? …

why do men in their late 40s want to date but not commit? 
My friends and I are in our middle 40s. The men we meet are typically the same. They all want to date, have fun but are not ready to commit even after …

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i am 32 and my boyfriend is 45 
hi i been dating a guy who is 45 years old and i am 32 big age difference i have never been married still a girl he has been married before and has 2 kids …

He thinks he's too old to have a baby, but I'm pregnant 
Im 28, and my boyfriend is 47. We've friends a couple years, and for the past 6 months we've been romantically involved. His big issue is that he thinks …

Selling off my company 
After selling my company 18 months ago, I slowly started sliding backwards! I miss being the CEO, having some status. I cry sometimes in the shower! …

Im Losing Patience 
Hello, I believe my husband is going through a mid life crisis. He is 41 and i am 29. We recently had major renovation work to our home and had to live …

sex 
why does my husband have to look at other women before he can have sex with me? Noel's response My guess is that you have been married to each …

Separation 
We have been separated for seven years, marriage was too hard as my wife became so depressed, I learned after our marriage that she had been raped as a …

is it normal for a man of fifty four to have a high libido. he constantly wants to have sex , day and night 
he is too interested in sex, he is fifty four. wants to have sex day and night. will not allow much sleep to the woman. he believes sex can make or break …

my 58 year old husband wants his own apartment? 
We are in foreclosure. We've been married 16 years. My husband drives a truck for a local company. I clean houses for extra money, I have a business …

I am in a crisis and I dont know what to do 
We have been married for 32 years. We have all we can wish for. Now I have discovered Viagra hidden in his garage. Big amounts of Money missing. Sequins …

male mid life and walking out on thirty year marriage 
30 years marriage teen sweethearts 4 years prior to that ups and downs in marriage nothing ever runs smooth very demanding mother in law but i married …

I'm 23 year old woman and I'm attracted to a 44 year old man 
I'm 23 years old, I recently came across someone new, I've known him for about a week but the thing about him is that I am half his age... and also he's …

I am a 44 year old man and Need help.....need it now Please 
Hi, i'm a man 44 years old, but look wise i'm about 29-30. have a good build and tall and fair. i have never married and i have never been in to any thing …

is my husband scared to ask for a divorce 
He had an emotional affair - might be still I don't know. he is 52. dad recently died, mom about to die and sister dead. He says he wants it to work with …

Mid-life or instanity 
I'm 43 and my husband is 44 we have been married for 23 yrs. for the last 3 yrs we have spent weekdays living in two different cities, due to work. No …

my boyfriend of 10 yrs is 42 an going through, what I believe is, a mid-life crisis :(  
My boyfriend and I have been living together for 10 years. I was divorced 12 yrs ago and have three great kids that are 20, 18, 14. My boyfriend and …

I am a 49 year old man and feeling like I'm starving for attention  
I'm 49 years old truck driver been driving for 30 years now. anymore I feel like Im starving for attention and don't know why. I have a great wife that …

Will he get back to being the man he was? 
My husband of 29 years has been depressed for 2 years. I now believe it is depression and midlife crisis. He says he hates our lifestyle, our furniture, …

My husband stopped everything 
My husband use to call my office at least 5X's a day, then would bring me lunch 3X,s a week, sex was great, 2X,s a week.....then 18 months ago everything …

He suddenly left after 25 yrs., near his 50th birthday & so not like him to join dating sites for sex 
We had our share of problems of the course of 25 yers, but nothing serious...no cheating, just the lack of communication that made it more & more difficult …

What is Wrong With Me? 
I am 29 and my boyfriend is 42 We have been Seeing Each other for almost 5 years. When we first got together he lied and said he was single after two months …

I think my dad might be in andropause 
My dad won't visit or talk to me anymore, ever since I expressed my displeasure knowing he was dating someone the same age as me. It has been over two …

how many time sex in a mounth is ok for a 44 years old man? 
my husband is 44 years old and he want sex once in a month. is this normal? Noel's response I don't think there is a 'normal' amount of sex for …

husband leaves...says he is confused but loves me 
my husband and i have been married for 2 yrs, he up and left n packed n one day moved into another house and said we are separated and we don't work and …

what stage of MLC when spouse say Iove you but not in love with you 
My husband come home from working out of country and I got the speech I love you but not in love with you. He was very distant. Can you tell me what …

my 41 years old husband wants to have sex all the time, i can't even cudle with him because he gets a hardon. is there anything wrong? 
i can't even cuddle with him because he gets a hard on. is there anything wrong? We have sex almost everyday and sometimes two to three times a day I …

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Is he in a midlife crisis or just cruel 
My ex decided after having an online relationship with another married woman to move across the country to be with her. He has self esteem issues and …

Dad on viagra 
My dad is 48 years old and my mom is 47. My parents don't have a good relationship. They don't sleep in the same room. The other day I found Viagra pills …

my husband 
My husband is 46. he is bipolar and has no interest in sex. never has been really sexual. But now its been over a year. we've been together 13 years. And …

What am I supposed to do? 
Four months ago my husband of 10 years moved to Hawaii to help his parents. Two weeks ago he went to the Philippines and was with some girl. I have been …

husband confused about his feelings  
My husband and I have been together for 8 years and have 3 young kids (including a baby). We never had any major fights and seemed to be happy together, …

Personality Change 
My wonderful 23 year marriage to a loving, kind, generous and thoughtful man unexpectedly and suddenly ended a few months ago, soon after he turned 50, …

My father is having a mid-life crisis. 
My father seems to be going through a mid life crisis. He had always had a dream of starting a company and had uprooted the family numerous times to Asia. …

marriage 
My husband spends all his "free time" at a bar and not with me and his children. He says he isn't cheating but i wouldn't be so sure. He has recently told …

WHAT TO DO  
MY HUSBAND LEFT ME AFTER NEARLY 30 TOGETHER, MARRIED FOR 14 ,HES A GOOD LISTENER AND SHE NEW IT, SHES LOTS OF ISSUES GOING ON HEAVY DRINKER & FREQUENT …

Will he come crashing down 
My husband is 45 and I am 40. two years ago he lost his mum to cancer and has never got over it. He works very long hours in our business and started pushing …

my first love who is married for 2years wants to come back in my life after seven years! what must I do ?? I'm confused! 
my ex and first love who's married for 2 years came back in my life after seven years! What must I do?? I'm confused! Noel's response You haven't …

My husband is going back to his old girlfriend from 30 years ago 
My husband has just ended our marriage and decided to go back and live with an girlfriend (also married with children) after not seeing or hearing form …

wife going to her girl friends house every sat night;s? 
i have no desire to go out with my wife i;m 13 yrs older than her and i'm retired and have a lot of debt , bills to pay and all wife loss her job a yr …

Why is he mad that I got a lawyer? 
My husband of 26 years left three months ago. For three months I have cried, reached out to him, offered him help (I believe there may be a bi-polar issue …

I want my wife to have a baby  
I'm 59 year old my wife is 32 we have been together for 12 years and she want to have a baby. I need help. Noel's response I don't know what kind …

Is my guy committed to me???? 
I'm in relationship with this guy for past 9 years. He is divorce but to date he is very secretive about us. None of his family knows about me. He says …

please help me understand my partner 
hi there hope you can help me make some sense of whats going on in my partner's head we got together 3 yrs 8 months ago i left Scotland also my family …

My Boyfriend has lost his sex drive at 29 
My boyfriend who is going to be 29 in 6 days has lost his sex drive for about a week now. What is going on. He says that he doesn't understand whats happen …

moving on 
i was in a relationship for 13 yrs have a 11 year old son my x has moved in with my ex friend and says he is in love. Noel's response The title …

40 year old male with security issues 
My husband turn 40 about 8 months ago. Since then he has been eying women while I am with him, on porn sites, consistently working out to stay in shape, …

He and his mother on a private holiday? 
is it normal for his mother to ask him to go on holiday with just her and for him to think that's ok? Noel's response Without further information, …

jealousy 
my wife invited her ex husband to stay at our house, should i be worried?? Noel's response As I don't know you, your wife, or her ex-husband, I …

Less sperm when a man is tired 
is it normal for a 40 year old husband to have less sperm after sex when his tired. Noel's response I am not sure what you mean be less sperm after …

Two midlife crisis within 5 years???? 
My ex partner was a 47 years old Englishman and married when we met, I was 35, lived in a different country in Europe. At the time he didn't have a good …

my 40 year old husband has lost his sex drive 
I am 38 years old and married 6 years. I am very attractive and height (5'8") weight proportioned (size 6). After going thru a health battle with lupus, …

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Mess after deployment 
My husband recently returned from a year in Afghanistan. His blood pressure was out of control the first couple of months, and he really went off on our …

Man Gone Wild 
I was with a man for 7+ years. After a mild argument he dumps me and starts living like a teenager. His reason for the dump was that he just didn't …

how to stop cheating on my girlfriend? 
I've been with her for three years I love her to death. But I just keep getting those fucking urges. And I want to STOP. I know deep down that I want to …

Stages of Mid LIfe Crisis 
At what stage do men realize what they have done to their spouses? My husband left me after 27 years of marriage. he has been living with his OW for the …

separation 
If I am separated from my kids father and he have a girlfriend but he tells me he don't want another man around them what does he really mean? Does it …

kids 
My man is 45 and I'm 26 can he still give me kids? Noel's response If you mean can he still make you pregnant, the answer is yes, unless there …

no sex drive 
My husband has no sex drive, at least where I'm concerned but has been watching porn regularly. Is the problem with me? Noel's response I don't …

our age difference 
I am in love with a girl who is 18 years of age while I am 25 years old. The age difference is seven years(7), is she too young for me to marry or either …

My husband in his early fifties wants sex all the time and gets irritable if he doesn't get it.  
My husband in his early fifties wants sex all the time. He gets really irritable and depressed if he in his words "gets backed up". Although I haven't …

Moderate to Severe Depression & my wife 
I'm 56 and on medical retirement, I had an upper C-4,5,6 Spinal Fusion 7 years ago. I cry, and want my wife home with me as much as possible. She has stayed …

help me undersand 
My husband is 46 years old and I am 35. He is very distant with me even though he says nothing is wrong. Is this a sign of mid-age? Noel's response …

separation 
my husband left me 2 months ago after 44 years of marriage. He had an affair over 30 years ago and was going to leave when our children where very young …

WILL THIS WORK OUT?  
He moved in with him mom to work thru his own issues. He says he loves and misses us but he needs to decide if single or family life is right for him. …

My husband ssays I am perfect now, but still leaves.... 
My husband of 16 years, suddenly asked for a divorce. He states that he can not handle how I have treated him in the past. I asked for 3 months to reevaluate …

masturbating? 
Hi, I'm dating a 42 year old friend with benefit meaning were not in a full blown relationship and I've been noticing that every time after sex at night …

Mid-Life crisis husband cheating.. 
My husband age 45 going on 46 who work as a CAT scan technician at Mount Nittany Medical Center in State College, PA has had an affair with a co-worker …

should i leave my husband because he hasn't had sex with me for3 months? 
My husband got caught by me because he was having an affair. This was going on for 3 weeks I didn't leave him because I'm giving us a chance but 1 week …

Is a car really a midlife crisis? 
Hi! Ok first off, I am living my life the way I want to and couldn't be happier, but it seems as if I have quite a few detractors. But I just now found …

husband talks openly about young women 
My Husband is 57. I am 61. He openly has started talking about drop dead gorgeous YOUNG women to me. He has been told by me that it hurts my feelings …

male friend wants affair with me 
my guy friend who is 37 just got married last year to a wealthy girl ( hmmm... i know! I know!) who is only 28. After recently reconnecting with him...via …

What's going on? 
After 24 years together, my husband announced that he was leaving for someone else. He loved me, but was not in love with me anymore. There was no signs, …

My husband doesnt find me attractive anymore but says he still loves me 
We have been married for 29 years and just before his 50th birthday, out of the blue my husband came home and told me he didnt know where our marriage …

What does it mean when my boyfriend say that he is in crisis of us when we are still together  
I live with my boyfriend for more than 4,5 yrs. We used to be happy, fighting but together and nothing happen until just 3 days ago.. His character quiet …

MALE SEXUALITY 
WHAT HAPPENS TO A MALE IN HIS MID LIFE SEXUALITY? Noel's response : Many men at midlife lose energy and libido (which includes losing interest/ability …

depression 
my partner of 7 yrs has just told me his feelings of love towards me are not the same anymore, he says he feels so unhappy with life that he does not have …

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Mid Life Crisis? How can We be Happy Together again? 
I have a boyfriend of 4 years. He just told me he is breaking up with me. He didn't say "break up" because he feels I am still so wonderful but he said …

He's 42 years older than me. Will we last together  
My bf is 60 and I'm 18. We love each other deeply and can't stand to be away from each other. Our sex life is perfect and has been from the start. He doesn't …

He left and is with another woman. I think it is midlife crisis 
my husband left me for another woman he will be 50 in June .he is living with her and he tells me he still loves me and misses me but he said he thinks …

How long midlif crises last 
Is my husband will back to normal ?and how long it will last? Noel's response As I have mentioned in other questions of this nature, it can take …

sex 
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 months now. Our sex life started out very good but in the past month he said "he's not in the mood" and we have …

How to control my behaviour 
im aged 62 yrs, i was faced at work with an employee 37 yrs, approached me and started to talk about her problems, I become involved emotionally, i told …

Wife told me to go out and get my sex drive satisfied with someone else, then found out and filed for divorce. 
My wife of many years told me she was no longer interested in sex, she released me from my vows and to go find someone to satisfy my sexual needs. So, …

Why would my husband of 22 years continue to lie about his affair? 
3 years ago, my 53 yr old husband started an affair with another woman. All the signs of MLC were there, bought a convertible jeep, a new BMW motorcycle, …

Husband has been gone for 10 months and is using meth 
We were married 24 years and together 27 years. I kicked him out on our anniversary of 24 years, because he was starting to act strange and i could not …

Whats going on ?? 
My boyfriend of 11 yrs lost his mother 2 weeks ago. I have not heard from him since. I call and he does not return my calls. Im so sad. Why cant he just …

Married woman texting my husband. 
Ok a few weeks back this woman accidentally texted my husband thinking it was her daughter. After she did, she then called that same night and apologized. …

Man menopause 
I am 49 and have been with my husband, who is 42, for 13 years. I have three children he has none. We wanted one of our own and never got pregnant. He …

a sex wreck after 33 years of marriage. 
my ex partner gave me a std after a night with a common prostitute. This is after i supported him financially for 12 years. He has told me he frequents …

23 yr marriage 
Recently I met a man, who is separated from his current wife of 23 yrs, the divorce is to be final is about 2 months from now. They have been separated …

why am i jealous & how do i stop it? 
Weird situation. Approx. 15 to 18 yrs, ago I began seeing a girl I knew in high school. She is also the ex wife of my best friend. (who I also went to …

will he ever come home 
My divorce from my husband of 40 years will be final in a few days. He has reunited with his children and his family somewhat. He is still with the women …

My boyfriend left me after 6,5 years togehter 
We were together with my partner for 6 and a half years. He is 46 now, I'm 17 years younger. We moved to another country together 1 year ago, because he …

When he can't give you one specific reason why he needs space, could it be he is in the midst of a mid life crisis. 
My boyfriend of one year who's turning 50 in a week, all of a sudden asked for space to figure himself out? When we first ran into each other, (we graduated …

Marriage shortly after an affair 
My husband of 26 years had a one month affair with a woman from his sophomore year in high school. He is 48 and I am 47. His paramour is also 47. He …

Why did my wife and daughter leave me after 20 years of marriage 
My wife 43 (married to me for 20 years) and daughter 17 after having ignored me (not speaking to me) for a period of 6 months for no obvious fault of mine, …

another woman 
Do affairs that start during a mid life crisis and destroy the marriage and family blossom into wonderful relationships that last? Hard for me to bear …

45 and alone 
My longtime partner for 7 years, now wants to be just friends. I love her and want to stay with her. I do not know what to do if she starts seeing other …

my ex 60 year old in a double life for past 9 years 
My ex has been in a double life relationship for the last 9 years.The only reason why i found out was because i received an std after he told me he had …

sleeping with a 17 year old female I work with. im a 42 year old male 
I work with a 17 year old female. I'm a 42 year old male. she sends me picture messages of her semi naked, kisses me at work, i feel guilt but tonight …

how long does male mid-life crisis last... 
How long will a male have mid-life crisis? Noel's response anywhere from a few weeks to a few years.

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I left my husband, and now he thinks I am in mid life 
I left my husband 10 months ago after 17 years of marriage, I would have left sooner but didnt because of our children or ability to financially support …

Husbands emotional affair. 
My husband came to me abt a year ago and said that he didn't know if he loved me or not anymore. I found out 3 months later that he had been having an …

Past father issues 
My husband has became depressed over some childhood issues he has been denying. His depression is affecting our marriage. Is there anyone else experiencing …

Midlife crisis over adopting.., 
I am a 37 year old woman and husband is 42. We talked about adoption and went through the classes and everything was fine until a child was found that …

a 60 year old Husband having an affair 
My husband is at his 60 years of age and i found out that he is having an affair with a 21 years old female. Could you tell me please what is wrong with …

wife moved out 
after 26 years of marriage with some rough times. she never worked i supported the family. last year i have been having hard time paying the bills . so …

Mid life crisis affair 
My husband left me after almost 30 years of marriage so he could live with his co worker who he's been working with for 13 years and having an affair with …

viagra 
hello im a 43 year old woman and im married to a wonderful 60 year old.. i think my husband is experimenting with viagra but when confronted about it, …

Any hope? 
Hi. I am so desperate and tired. We have been married for 27 years.(very happily I thought) Two years ago my husband aged 48 met up with his ex girlfriend …

my 53 year old husband has left 
My husband left me out of the blue after 35 years of being together and 29 of those years we were married. we met when I was 15 years he left me for another …

He says he's in love with me but doesn't want commitment 
I'm a widow (of 2 years) and met a wonderful 57 year old man. He has expressed he wanted to help me around the house as I have three children at home …

Help me decide? 
Two days ago my wife had me sit down because she had some information that was going to hurt me. She told me that during our 23 year marriage, she had …

My commitment is WEAK 
I am 28 years old MALE, I have a girlfriend and we have been going out for 1 year now and still going, in spite of all the troubles that i face everyday …

Boyfriend no longer cutting his fingernails - is he cheating? 
my bf is no longer trimming his nails. He does keep his long nails clean. when I ask him to trim them he says no. is my bf cheating on me with another …

condoms found in husband's drawer 
After 33 years of marriage, 55 year old woman finds condoms in husband's drawer. Noel's response I assume you think he is 'up to something'? Have …

How can I help him cope with his midlife crisis? 
I wanted to help him cope with his midlife crisis, but don't know how. He blames me for his unhappiness and is considering a divorce. This is not what …

Is my husband's behaviour due to an emotional crisis?  
2 months ago my husband came home in a strange mood. After a lot of staring into space and looking pained, he told me he was in love with somebody else …

husband wants to have ex-girlfriend back 
My husband reconnected with his ex girlfriend of 20 years and both have been emailing. To the point he wants to meet with her. I found out when accidentally …

Husband left for young girl abroad 
My husband of over 25 years has moved out. He has met a student when on business in Nairobi. He visits there every few weeks for a week or so. He is …

husband having sex with a 20 yr old and he's 40 
Im dealing with a situation where Ive been married 20 yrs bt with the same man 23 yrs.. we are married with 4 children, Im so hurt and confused I feel …

not enough sex  
my wife is 50 and overweight and sick. she cannot have sex as often. I am 53 and started to watch other women more often sometimes wishing sex with them. …

how long will last 
46 year old boyfriend tells me he needs space because he needs to figure his own issues. He say he loves me and does not want to break up with me. he calls …

Changed Man 
Around a year ago my husband went back to work after being unemployed for a year and a half. while he was unemployed he was fine although i maybe wasn't …

is this part of mid life crisis 
ex boyfriend walked out with no answers we got along great did everything together and he went back to an ex that argued with him all the time. Noel's …

sex change 
i am a man of 35 years strongly who feels a women inside me. i want to change my sex and want to see myself as a sweet women. how is it possible? …

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Is my ex-husband in MLC? 
My X and I were married for 16 years, together for 20. He got into some new age reading about 5 years ago and then of all a sudden one day, he told me …

husband of 33 years just left to go home to mommy. why ? 
We were not fighting or nothing. he just lost his job and informed me he was going home to his parents and never working again. There pretty wealthy and …

My husband accidently called me and I heard him talking to another woman 
My husband was out with his cousins and he accidentally called my parents house. I heard him talking to another woman, and telling her how good her body …

63 year old husband has no enthusiasm for life. 
My husband is a pessimist and doesn't like (trust) other people. I didn't see those red flags because at 21 it was the late 60's and his political rantings …

Ihave two boyfriends 
I am 39 yrs divorced woman with 2 Children and I stay at home with my Mom. Im in loved with two men at the same time. I cant Choose. I have been going …

I am a college student and I am writing a paper on mid life crisis 
What are the physical change, self doubt and depression that come with mid life crisis? Noel's response You will find them described on this website. …

Lack of sex 
My boyfriend of 4 years does not think about having sex now.I'm 50 and he is 36. He does not even bring it up or when I touch him in bed he turn away from …

Sex, Love, Father figure to my kid 
I am 32 and my boyfriend is 37. We met online and fell in love. I am very outgoing, he is not. I have a five year old. My bf is very devoted to us and …

Husband still comes around...What does it mean & how do I respond? 
Hello, My husband informed me July 2rd that he was having an affair and left on July 3rd. He's been living with his sister (near our home) and still comes …

Anger by husband at midlfe 
My husband wants a divorce. Says the last decade has been lousy. Well I had cancer plus hip replacement I completely lost my sex drive and when I …

is this midlife cris 
43 yr old male dated a woman for three years she now 45 out of blue needed time space and blamed all on me-tried to figure it out she snapped telling me …

Husband spends a lot of time with his niece 
my niece (age 29) and her 2 boys have been staying with us for over a year. She removed them all from a very abusive relationship. Her mother somehow has …

Is this midlife crisis or full on insanity and is there a difference? 
My spouse of 26 years went and served for 8 months in Afghanistan while he was there I was in the hospital and deathly ill. I had major medical issues …

Insane Husbands 
My husband will be 49 this year. Having enjoyed a close relationship with him for 20 years, I was broadsided recently by his mistrust and jealousy. I've …

mid life relationships 
I am a 55 year old widower I am interested in asking out a 46 year old woman. I have been out of the dating scene for over 25 years. We know each other …

He doen'st want me to come to his high school reunion 
My husband says that he would prefer to attend his high school reunion without me because he would worry about me having a good time. He has expressed …

could i be going through midlife? 
I'm a 49 year old man, my wife is 46 i don't know if I'm going through the change, but my wife acts like she don't love me anymore. sleeps in another room, …

my boyfriend 34 years old cheated and blamed me.  
I lied to my boyfriend about who went with me to get my nails done with and he got upset and never came home that night.. the next day he came home and …

Am I going through a Mid-Life Crisis 
Hello, My name is Ryan, I am 36 years old and I think I might be going through a mid-life crisis or something equivalent to that. I met my wife …

My husband has left me after 18 years 
My husband has left me after being together for 18 yrs, married for 13 (he is 47 I am 45). He says he has felt unfulfilled and not as happy as he should …

Midlife Crisis or Life Change?  
My almost 39 year old husband of 17 years has been angry, easily frustrated, cursing more often, condescending, and controlling for the last 2 years. …

My husband wants to party like he's 20 again and now he needs a break from me. 
I'm 40 and my husband is 41. We lived together for 2 years and have been married almost 12 years. We've been through a lot! One example is our house …

Is he having a midlife crisis 
I've been with my husband for 25 years. We have a 20 year old daughter and until 3 years ago everything seemed good. He was offered the opportunity of …

my husband and wanted have sex with me and another woman at the same time 
Hi Me and my husband married for 23 years and had happy marriage so far. He has this fantasy of sleeping 2 women at the same time. One of them would be …

husband rejects intamacy 
My husband is 42 yrs old and I am 28 yrs old,as you can see there is a age difference of 14 yrs but to me age does not matter. My husband has been rejecting …

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marriage and cheating 
hi, my husband is 46 and we've been together 19 years are nearly 10 years married. Recently, we had big problems, i felt that my husband wasn't interested …

Is it salvageable? ( Or even worth it) 
Wow, where to begin? I guess at the beginning, right....I met my husband when I was 18 years old (he 28). I was a senior in high school and began to work …

My "Ex" said he needed to think and hasn't talked to me in 3 weeks. 
We have been together 4 yrs, living together the past 2. We have had some issues such as my insane jealousy and pushing issues all the time, my emotional …

should i give my husband space or show affection 
Husband is 33 and seems to be a textbook case of midlife crisis. Three months ago he bumped into his first love from 13 yrs ago and just so happens she …

low t 
Ok. So he has fatigue. Libido gone. Is not willing to do anything to sexually satisfy me. Just likes to cuddle and kinda of fondle a little. And sleep. …

Should I be having sex with my wife when she is going thru a midlife crisis 
Sex with wife she has midlife crisis. Noel's response>/b> You don't mention how old your wife is, so I don't know whether she is going through menopause, …

sexless newlyweds 
Past history of low T and enlarged prostate(truck driver) Took testosterone injections about 3 years ago. Had a very full sexual past. Many women. Just …

I'm a 43 year old man afraid of getting divorced 
I'M 43 years old and my wife and sister don't get along and it looks like I'm getting divorced. I don't know what to do. My wife says I'm not giving …

why did he leave me and the kids, for someone he knew a week 
my partner's mum died and he began drinking a lot and so we were arguing more. 10 days after the funeral he left me said he couldn't stand the rows, but …

I know I have it, (MC) but does she knows she has it? 
Hello, I am 48, she is 45, have been married for 15 years, together for 23. We have 2 wonderful sons (9 and 11). For some months now, I have been wondering …

Decided after 12 years of marriage and 4 kids can't be together 
We have been married for 12 years and together for 20 years. My husband will be 38 this year and has decided to move out of our home to be able to find …

Older man - what kinds of problems can I expect? 
My boyfriend is 57 and i am 43 what kind of problems will i experience? Noel's response I know several couples where the man is twenty or more …

my husband has a crush on a younger woman 
My husband and I have been married for 15 years and have 3 kids. He recently lost his job and had a hard time finding another one. He is now working again, …

how can u relieve urine after sex 
After having sex my husband was unable to relieving his bladder, causing a lot of discomfort . What can be done when that happens are what can be done …

Do they really blame theirs wives for everything?  
I worry about my ex. he wanted to come home once and still isn't sure he made the right choice. But his behavior is getting worse not better. he drinks …

his space is it the right thing to do? 
when a man is going thru a midlife crisis and tells you he wants to be left alone, and you do leave him alone for the most part how will you know if him …

Husband called his ex girlfriend 
One day, I found my husband called his ex girlfriend. He didn't noticed it. Is this normal? Should I pretend nothing's going wrong ? What should I do? …

confused - he just talks about sex when we do talk 
me and my boyfriend were together for 5 years and then after an argument he told me he wanted to be single and we broke up. For months after that i was …

He just left... 
Ok so here it goes... My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 5 years. I even am in the works of moving to be with him as he's Canadian and …

My husband of 15 years wants to leave me for a woman half way around the world 
My husband met someone on a business trip 2 years ago, they only spent one day together. They have continued their relationship online and he flew her …

Unmet needs 
Thanks for this very helpful website Noel, my husband is 57 and I am a young and healthy 61. Having passed through my menopause I still enjoy our love …

sex drive 
my man is 47 and this past week his sex drive just gone for no reason. Noel's response It is not gone for no reason. There is a reason, but you, …

Husband constantly says he's moving out 
My husband and I have been struggling financially for numerous years. We have a 7 year old boy together. My husband get's so stressed out that he constantly …

My Sex After 60 
I am male having a problem with keeping my erection for any period 1 day it's seem fine than while I am having sex i lose my erection. I have tried …

cheating 
do men that are going through midlife regret cheating on their spouse? my husband has been gone 4 yrs now he says he loves me i can see a change …

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I'm 40, she's 21 and I think she likes me 
i'm a married man 48 yrs.old,a 21 year old girl and i met at church,she's beautiful, we started having coffee, started walking, going to dinner, all in …

Unhappy in Indiana 
My husband and I have been together since we were 14 and 15 years old. We had our first of two children at 18 and 19 and shortly got married, we have been …

Can I use midlife crisis to stop no fault divorce? 
My husband wants to file for a divorce with no counseling first. I believe he is in a midlife crisis and can not make a life changing decision right now. …

could my dad be losing his mind? 
my dad is an alcoholic, and takes vicodin lately he's been down right PHYSCO! Noel's response Alcoholism can make a person act somewhat crazy. …

Is it midlife crisis? 
My boyfriend is 45, in the last 2 weeks he has bottled himself up. Says he has and issue he is dealing with that was harder to deal with than he thought …

Married Man and Gay Internet Porn 
My husband and I have been together for 10 years. We have 4 children and I thought a good marriage. He lost his job this past year and has been quite depressed …

husband left me after 18 years of marriage 
Hi Noel, I have been married for almost 18 years, my 52 year old husband left me (I am 52 years old) 3 months ago, he is cheating on me with this woman, …

How do I deal as a wife 
We have been together for 19 years and have two children. One is 18 and going to college and the other is 11. My husband has not been wanting to …

BF's loss of parent triggering mid-life crisis? 
My bf's family is going through a difficult time as his father is dying, slowly but surely. He asked me for space, but not to get out of his life. May …

separation 
About 3 months ago my husband said to me he loves me but is not in love with me anymore. He wanted a separation. In this time frame I had broken my leg …

Sex with my husband 
After B dropped (7 1/2 months ago) we did not have sex for 5 months and husband did not move out...but said he wanted a divorce. We are now having great …

oral sex 
I've been seeing this guy for over Two Yrs. now, all he does is want to make me happy by playing with me with my clothes on and then he wants oral sex …

husband has left home 
My husband of 28 years happily married life has left for another (older) woman - is he likely to return? Noel's response I really don't know. Some …

What's the difference? 
How can you tell if the difference between a man in midlife crisis having an affair and a man "just" having an affair? Noel's response I don't know …

Husband loves me, but says he feels numb.. 
Hi there, My husband WHO IS 39 and I moved to another country 6 months ago, we have been together 19 years and married for 12 this November, we have always …

Really confused 
I am in my 60's and my boyfriend is in his late 50's. We have been seeing each other for almost three years. He says he loves me but we live not very far …

i believe my husband is gong thru a mid life crisis 
i believe for the last 2 months my husband is going thru a midlife crisis - i don't know how much more i can take and am wondering will he ever feel the …

Dissapointed with husband 
I am married for 6 years and my husband looks at porn, plays games constantly. Hardly wants to spend time with me. He has a ego issue about his …

My husband wants a baby 
we have been married 5 years and my husband knew i could not have a baby. he now wants to find a women to give him a baby I am 7 years older than him he …

how long does it last 
How long does it last and will he ever be normal again. Noel's response It lasts anywhere from two months to five years. It will be 'normal' again, …

How would I know if he is telling the truth? 
My husband of 27 years is in full blown mlc. everything started when he found an opportunity to reconnect with his past girlfriend. to make a long story …

I think my father may be having a midlife crisis 
Hi Noel! About two weeks ago my dad told my mum that he was leaving our home. He said that he didn't love her, that he felt oppressed and like my mother, …

MIDLIFE CHANGE 
MY HUSBAND AND I WHERE MARRIED FOR 28 YEARS. HIS GOING THROUGH MIDLIFE CHANGE. HE LEFT ME FOR A 35 YEAR OLD WOMAN . WE BEEN SEPARATED FOR 9 MONTH. DO …

My husband says he can't take the arguing about debt any more 
My husband has serious debt and we have argued constantly for awhile on how to deal with it. I came back home several days ago to find a note left saying …

How can I say the right thing to make my depressed husband happier? 
How can I say the right thing to make my depressed husband of 50 happier? Noel's response Depression is not usually caused by someone not saying …

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the end of his midlife crisis 
what are the signs that a man is coming out of his midlife crisis? Noel's response The main sign is that he starts to act 'normal' again, but in …

Midlife crisis he wants to come back, I don't know? 
Married 25 years, he has had a girl friend since the divorce, (7 months divorced) He wanted to come home about 2 1/2 months after the divorce. I thought …

I am a doctor in India, and am in a mid-life crisis 
i am 50 yrs pediatrician settled in a small Indian town. For the last 3 yrs i am facing a downfall in my medical practice. also loss of libido affecting …

why do men turn gay in their mid life? 
why do men turn gay in their midlife? Noel's response I don't know that men suddenly turn gay in midlife. I suspect that men who seem to turn gay …

Depression 
My husband I have been separated for a little over two months. What I felt was a midlife crisis turns out to be full blown depression. My husband has …

moods swings 
What does my husband have so many mood swings during midlife crisis? what is making this happen to him? Do you know how long this will last? It has …

men in midlife crisis & sex 
My fiance is 44 years old & is looking at other women all the time now. I used to be the only one he would have his eyes on. He's been very irritable lately …

We've been married almost 10 years. since the passing of my husbands mother 4 months ago, he has been angry, avoiding me,etc 
He says he wants a separation has made verbal threats about if i don't pay bills that I can get out. sends most of his time away, hides his cell phone, …

strange husband 
this is a tad embarrassing but im at my wits end...i think im losing my mind the way my husband of 31 yrs is acting i dont even know him anymore. mood …

Midlife crisis 
My husband of almost 40 years literally changed over night. Very distant,spending like crazy and the worst part is that he pays little or no attention …

Just a huge sigh and unfair feeling. 
I'm a 44 yr old woman who has been dating a now 50 yr old man for about 4 yrs. We live about 1 1/2 hour drive from each other. We manage to see each other …

Are people who go through midlife crises workaholics? 
Hi My husband left last August and has been angry since. I have noticed his anger about 3 years ago and expressed some concerns but he grumpily said …

help 
My partner and I have been together for about 12 years. We are not married, but were engaged for a few years (no children). He is in his late 30s, and …

lieing 
I have known my husband for 9 years. We have been married for 3 years. He has Always got mad if I EVER touched his cell phone. He says that I just want …

porn and internet sites. 
i was with my boyfriend for 5 years and we were best friends and had a great sex life, he has a very high sex drive and i know our sex was the best he's …

Midlife Crisis or Hormones? 
I've been with my husband for 9 years. About 10 days ago he told me he had met a girl as our relationship is dead and he's unhappy. He expected me to allow …

crying? 
do men cry and appologize often during mid life crisis? Noel's response Some do, some don't.

hot flashes ? 
do men exp. hot flashes ? Noel's response Some do.

gng back to school at 55 
which is better online or in class room? a little history i have been out of the work force for the last 10 yrs or so.i was diagnosed with brain cancer …

Reunion and Reconnected 
After 42 years of marriage and loving this man since I was 16 he has reconnected with the woman he dated in high school before me. She drew him out by …

IS this a midlife crisis? 
i got married at 17, to a soldier. he was 21. i'm now 23 and he is 27. he has been gone for 16 months at a time and most recently 2 years. we live separate …

husband is away for six months 
We been married for 13 years, recently both finished psychology degrees, moved to our own home, but had to put husband's clothes out due to terrible behavior. …

Learning how to be an emotionally mature man at 47? 
So here is my background. Now in my 47th year, most of my friends would consider me a kind, thoughtful, hard working white male with a great sense of humor. …

what am I suppose to do while his 'figuring it out'? 
My husband has be telling me and our kids for months that he is moving out, I hear it almost everyday, I never say anything to him, I just let him talk. …

Husband Moves Out 
I am very confused. Until last January, I feel we had a great marriage. We never fought over money or household chores, we were passionate and loving …

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midlife crisis, affair, and divorce 
I was wondering if anyone thought my husband would return after his affair during his midlife crisis and him requesting a divorce. We have been married …

My husbands mid life crisis? 
My husband is 55 years old and I believe is in a mid life crisis. We are on the verge to separating perhaps divorce. It is devastating to me and our children. …

Legal separation instead of a divorce 
My husband is in a midlife crisis and wants a divorce, I don't. He has been in this crisis for about 6 months or longer. I know it takes a lot of time …

I loved him and let him go, now he wants back?  
He is 47 years old and in debt. Our children are raised and in college. He had been unhappy for a long time, with everything not just me. but I really …

I need data about MLC to give the court and delay the divorce 
We have been married 30 years - happily. Over a year ago, my husband left me and my girls cut all contact with me. I have been given no reason at all. …

Why do the get depressed? 
Why do they have depression after all of the craziness and affairs? Noel's response I think it is partly because they thought having an affair …

Is my situtation due to a mid-life crisis? 
My husband lost his job and has not been able to find full time employment for several years. He just up one day and decided he did not want to be married …

don't get it 
I've been working at the same place for the last 7 years. I really thought i loved it. we have down time a couple times a year where we are off work for …

24 years later, wants child 
my husband and I have been married 24 years this month. When we married I had two small children from previous marriage. He knew when we married I could …

friend in midlife crisses 
My friend decided that after 20 yrs he is going to leave his wife. He told her he never loved her the way a husband is supposed to love his wife. They …

Mind always young about sex 
Hi I'm 45 yr young. 21 yr has passed with a successful sex life . after 20 yr. of marriage am unable to make sex relation. Before 20 yr we make …

when? 
when do people usually have their mid life crisis. Noel's response Anywhere from age 35 to 55.

Not sure what to do next? 
My husband of 19 years (26 together)told me 4 months ago he wasn't happy anymore in our marriage (same story as all the rest) and wanted out. Great marriage …

frustrated person - I don't know what's wrong with me 
Ten years ago went out on my wife. no excuse. been married almost 25 years. In between I left my house a couple of times because I felt no love even though …

Is it mid-life crisis or is it just me that he hates 
My partner of 14yrs he is now 40yrs old has walked out several times, but 3 yrs ago he came home from work, crying said he had been sick at work, didn't …

bored with the bedroom 
My husband has turned 42 and for the last two years he has been having these urges to experiment - wants to go to adult shows , watch porn and visit Amsterdam …

Do all men go thru midlife crisis? 
Do all men go thru midlife crisis? I am a woman and have read what you wrote and that is exactly what my ex-husband may have gone thru or still going …

Gay 
Does it make me homosexual if I find the robot (Sunny) from I-Robot sexually attractive, I watched the film and came like a freight train twice.. help!? …

The Collapse Of the Closet  
Hi, I'm 55.. my names Grahame and until now I have lived a normal, very straight kind of life. I am an investment banker, married with two asthmatic children, …

My husband left me after 22 years 
My husband and I got into an argument-I had been seeing text messages from another woman. He told me that he doesn't hate me but doesn't want to be married. …

dealing with a spouse who has depression 
my husband has lost his father in may 13 2010 and has not dealt with the loss of his dad. started to notice changes when he was burdened with the finical …

Mid life crisis. 
I have been married for 16 years and we have an 11 year old daughter. About 4 years ago my husband had an emotional affair. He told me he it was only emotional …

midlife crisis and avoiding divorce 
I believe my husband is going to a mid-life crisis and wants out of our 20 year marriage. He says he's not "in love" with me anymore. He wants someone …

other girl 
Hi I am married for 12 years, and have 2 kids. My husband loves me very much. But for the last 1 year my husband is very much attached to a girl working …

He loves me, but is no longer "in love" with me? 
My story is very similar to "Gone for 9 days and hasn't called" except my husband has been gone for 2 months. He had what appeared to be an emotional …

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I am very irritable 
I am man, 44 yrs old, married, have 4 kids, In last 4 years I am became very irritable, very nervous, resigned 3 time, divorced, but we returned back after …

Need Answers...husband's MLC has destroyed our marriage! 
Hi Noel, you have no idea how much this forum has helped me to understand better, although still suffering from my husband's mid-life crises, or at least …

Midlife crisis, or bisexual and heterosexual stalemate?  
Midlife crisis, bisexual and heterosexual stalemate by: Anonymous This is certainly what happened to me but I'm not sure whether it is intimacy and …

My husband is 34 and says he is confused and needs time to think 
My husband is 34 years old, and approximately three weeks ago he told me he is confused and needs space to think. He says he doesn't know what he wants. …

Something that doesn't fit what I have seen here (or missed) 
To start I spent my life until age 36 as a very happy guy, never married did what I wanted (had a Harley) dated a lot. Choose what professions (owned my …

My Wifes daughter is out of controll 
I am 42 my wife is 39. She has a 21 year old daughter from a previous marriage. We have been together for 9 years, married for 7 years. I always knew her …

what do i do 
my husband left after 30 yrs together. I didn't see it coming. we hardly ever argued thought we had a good marriage but been together since teenagers. …

Midlife Crisis or Bipolar Disorder??? 
Hi, Noel my husband has left me and my children after 25 years of marriage. Since he has left at first he said he wanted to be friends still and every …

sex stopped 
My Wife and I are 60yrs old. Married for 25 yrs. We Had A Fantastic sex life. From the beginning she had less of a sex drive then Me. We are monogamous. …

Midlife Break-up 
Hello, I don't know exactly if my boyfriend is facing mid-life crisis or not. He has been upset for the last weeks and two weeks ago he decided to break …

Anger 
Why do men in a crisis, hold so much anger towards their wives. My Husband of 44 years, is always angry and trying to control me, if the outcome of …

A new hobby is helpful 
I'm 46 and have been married for 18 years. I'm an expat living in the country my wife is from. We're both the same age, but I really feel like I have some …

Support Groups 
Are you aware of any support groups, real life preferable but online would do, for men experiencing midlife issues. I am in Toronto and just really want …

Can your boyfriend have a mid life crisis at age 29 ? 
My husband to be has called off the wedding, and ended the 10 year relationship with me by saying he doesn't love me anymore. He said i have got issues, …

At the end of midlife crisis signs 
The question My ex-husband has been in a midlife-crisis for 5 years, and took up with another woman. He never communicated or texted me in the …

My husband left me pregnant 
My husband is 32yrs old we have been married for 3yrs and have been together for a total of 9year. Just this last December I found out he was cheating …

Mid life crisis? Should I stay? 
Hi there... My husband and I have been married for 6 1/3 yrs, Together for ten. things seem to have fallen into a comfort zone I guess. He several …

not sure if my husband wants a divorce or is it mid life crisis 
i am in a situation right now with my husband,and i am not sure if it mid life crisis. He is 49 years old and we have been together for 32 years married …

my 60yrs husband wants to leave me after 23yrs,  
The question My husband says he doesn't love me like he used to. we have always been a couple who were best friends as well as husband and wife, he …

My dad has a drug problem, and now I think he is in a midlife crisis as well. What can I do? 
The question My father has had a drug problem (Cocaine) off - and more so on - the majority of his life. He is finally getting help for that, but …

After reading all the problems people have, mine have solutions 
The question It is true that as human beings we have crises at different stages of our lives. I am someone who understands crisis since I was born. …

I fell in love with an older man than me 
The question I'm 35 and he's 45. I know we are both mature but I would like to know what kind of topics, subjects a man his age is looking for as …

blindsided! 
The question MARRIED twenty five years this year husband went away to camp for work. It was going ok. Then the last couple of times he came home he …

what do i do to try and relate to my ex husband  
The question It has been five years now. He only texts me when really necessary, and I feel so much better that he knows I exist, but do I step back …

hanging in but confused 
The question Wow. Well first of all you hear of these stories but don't think it will happen to you, you feel you have finally gotten to that point …

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divorce out of the blue 
The Question My husband and I had great sex, probably the best we ever had. The following week he asked for a divorce. I am so confused. He said …

Husband has lost control in life 
The Question My husband of 23 years is going through a transition in his life that he cannot control. He has always been very analytical - always …

what are the chances of my husband going through with this divorce? 
The Question My husband and I have been married for 8 years and we have two children, ages 3 and 9 months. We just bought a house 14 months ago and …

If I see all the signs and symptoms of my husband being in a mid-life crisis, how do I tell him? 
The Question My husband has been under a great deal of stress and is very unhappy. We bought a business 3 years ago and he has worked 863 days out …

Trouble reaching orgasm 
The Question I am a male 44 years old and have been married to the same woman for 25 years. She is non-adventurous sexually, and even a bit of a …

My husband going through midlife crisis? 
The Question After 25 years of marriage my husband, I assume, is going through midlife crisis. We had everything you could ask for: home, good …

My 48 Year Old boyfriend is pushing me away AGAIN!  
The Question Hi, I am a 42 year old divorced mother of 3 beautiful children...23, 13 & 10 years of age. I was married for almost 14 years. In …

47- year-old Man Just Divorced 
The Question I am a 47 year old man just divorced and I don't know what to do to start over. Noel's response My first piece of advice is not …

What is "bitching?" 
The Question My husband has been going through a midlife crisis for a very long time. During the past several years he has started cussing me out …

Is he going to come out of this, or just become a grumpy old man? 
The Question Do they come out of this midlife crisis? You said 2-5 years. It has been 5 years now. He hides away if I ask to see him. Do they connect …

He left me! Help 
The Question My husband is 28. We have been together for 11 years. We had a hard time after we had our first child 8 years ago. Then our daughter …

Should I be supportive of the changes he wants to make?  
The Question After reading all these postings and analyzing my husband behaviour for the last months possible a few years (not as intense)I finally …

Does a mid-life crisis go through stages? 
The Question Three months ago my son and I went to New York City and had a blast. Normally I go on 4 to 5 hours of sleep no problem but since then …

How do I help my partner? 
The Question My partner of 16 years decided 3 months ago he did not have the same feelings for me anymore and was unhappy. For a few weeks he made …

My 43-year-old boyfriend thinks he is tweny something 
The Question I need some insight. My boyfriend of almost a year this past summer began having a midlife crisis at age 43. He bought a bicycle and …

I'm male, 43. My partner left about a year ago. She said she still loves me. She came back a week ago, but now no contact.. 
The Question I can't cope with life at all, even getting out of bed. Got no friends to talk to. When my partner left she never gave any reason. …

SEX WITH ENLARGED PROSTATE 
The Question Is there a better time of day for men with enlarged prostate to have sex? Noel's response As far as I know, there is no particular …

I feel insecure, and worry that my wife is going to cheat on me. What is going on? 
The Question \ I am 52 and in good physical shape. My wife is 49 and looks better than ever. We have had a great marriage and have dated each other …

the other woman 
The Question My 60 year old husband has been having an emotional involvement with a woman 25 years my junior. I accidentally discovered that they had …

Wants a child at 55? 
The Question \ At 55 my (new sports car driving) husband is suddenly obsessed with having a biological child of his own. When we first met and married …

My husband moved in with a former cocaine addict who is now on anti depressants 
The Question My 59 year old husband of 38 years set me up so that all our debts were consolidated into our mortgage and then left me 4 days later …

is my ex going through a midlife crisis 
The Question \ I had been seeing my ex partner for two and half years. We were engaged after 2 years, planning on selling our houses and planning a …

Will my kids be okay? 
The Question My ex-husband is most definitely in midlife crisis. He used to be so caring and loving, to me and to our three children. Then when …

Could I be in a Mid-life crisis? 
The Question \ I am 40 years old, never been married, never had a long serious relationship, don't date, failing to be successful at my job, always …

I feel attracted toward other women and I have never had another woman in my life. 
The Question I feel attracted toward other women and I have never had another woman in my life. I am now 52 yrs and still have the urge. I also can't …

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what about adult chat rooms ... and web cam sex ... and 19-yr-old Romanian girls ... 
The Question My husband of 30 years is taking off to Romania to be with the 19-year-old he found on an adult chat room. These were XXX rated and he …

i feel very attracted to a womans boobs. 
The Question i feel very attracted to a woman's boobs, especially good sized, & can't take off my eyes at times. Why? I feel I must feel them/suck …

Are these symtoms of a midlife crisis? 
My husband of 17 years had a affair with a woman from work who is 10 years younger. He has left me and our children. Our divorce was final 5 months ago.. …

50 year old boyfriend wants another child 
The Question My boyfriend of many years is turning 50. His only child has left for college and he hears from her infrequently. The boyfriend has …

Mid-life triggers 
The Question Should I change jobs if a work place that has a lot of young women, causes me to feel depressed? Or should I try to work through it? …

Is mid life crisis a medical condition or simply a cop-out or excuse for bad decisions?? 
My husband of 12 years decided that he was not very happy. He had trouble holding down a job for a few years and then found one but had an hour long commute. …

Why do men in their mid-life make women their age feel undesireable by wanting younger women? 
The Question Why are men careless about how they make women their own age feel so unattractive and undesirable. Don't men lose their erections with …

Age 
The Question Age when a man goes through a midlife crisis? Noel's answer As I mention on The Two Crises page on this site, I believe there …

Search for meaning 
The Question I'm 44 and divorced 2 years ago. My life is not working. Nothing seems to bring me any enjoyment anymore. I feel stuck. I am no longer …

He wants me, but he also wants to have affairs 
The Question Hi Noel, I am a woman whose loved one is, I believe, experiencing a midlife crisis. I am so glad you exist and are willing to read …

midlife crisis or dislike 
The Question My partner and I have been together for 26 years (we are in our early 40s) and have two adult children. My partner drinks every night …

Is he having second thoughts now that our divorce is done? 
The Question My husband and I divorced two months after he droped the bomb. I did not realize he was in midlife crisis at the time, though after reading …

I want a holiday, he doesn't want to go, and doesn't want me to either 
The Question This is the second year of husband's MLC though it likely started earlier. After 30+ years of marriage, he says he loves me, but …

I got together with my boyfriend shortly after he got divorced. Now he wants to be alone. 
The Question I was blind-sided 2 months ago by a very loving boyfriend who suddenly turned into a monster. After a year in a profound and very loving …

Help!! My dad is going crazy! 
The Questions I honestly did not believe in the midlife crisis until my dad changed drastically over 3 or 4 yrs ago. I secretly nicknamed him Dr. …

is my boyfriend having a midlife crisis?? 
The Question Hi, My boyfriend who is 27 was made redundant from his job in March, and around the same time he decided he didn't want to be with …

Why can't he talk to me but can talk to her? 
The Question Hi Noel, We have been married for 17 years. My husband started an affair with a very long distance telephone call in February with …

44 yr.old husband turns gay? 
The Question My husband/best friend of 22 years and I were living apart and to my knowledge were working on our problems. I moved out of our home …

Swollen prostate and fertility 
The Question Can a man that has an enlarged prostate or prostate cancer have children? Noel's response A man with an enlarged prostate (e.g. …

Why is it always a Midlife "Crisis"? 
The Question Why does midlife always have to be a crisis? What would it be like if we tried to treat midlife as the next right of passage just like …

Is a strong desire for sex a sign of midlife crisis? 
The question Is desiring an extreme amount of sex with your wife a sign of midlife crisis? Eddie Noel's response It could be. Some men …

The adult daughters of a midlife man 
The Question How do you support the grown up children when dad goes into midlife crisis and takes up with a woman younger than they are? In particular …

I can't have sex with my husband, and don't know why. 
The Question I love my husband very much but for the past 3 months I can't have sex with him. Is there something wrong with me? I dont want to drive …

Glad to find this site ! 
The Question This web site will be the start of a new era for me! I have been searching for answers for months as to why I feel the way I do: mood …

Loss Of Memory/Just not being myself? 
The Question Hi to all. Well I can tell you I am so glad I found your web site. I have been to the doctor at my hospital clinic (2 different doctors) …

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Loss of interest in sex 
The Question My partner is 38 and his sex drive is very low. We hardly ever have sex anymore, and this has been going on for several years. He says …

He has left, but not really. How long do I put up with this? 
The question On September 9, 2009 with those dreading words "I love you but I'm not in love with you", my Husband (42) told me wanted a divorce. We …

I am 35, and don't know what to do. 
The Question My name is Tebogo and I'm 35 years old. I went through the website and I now believe that I have a midlife crisis if I were to call it …

What am I? 
The question I have been married for 32 years. My husband is 55 yrs old. My husband found an old girlfriend from his younger years. The woman is older …

Can men still have kids after a Midlife Crisis? 
The question Can men still have kids after going through a mid-life crisis? Noel's response Yes. Men can father children until very old age. …

Is this part of mid-life crisis Men? How do I respond? 
The question In talking to most women in there late forties and up, there seems to come a time in our relationships where our spouses become very …

to tell or not to tell him he is having a midlife crisis 
The question I think my husband is going through his midlife transition. I've tried to talk with him about his anger, moodiness, depression, sadness, …

Husband 52 Has Affair, His Father dies, Divorces me, and changes job. Midlife Crisis??  
The question My husband of 26 years started conducting an affair with a co-worker almost 2 years ago. I found poetry he had written to her, but kept …

midlife crisis 
The question My boyfriend is 59, and I am 49. We have been friends for 15 years and dating for 4 years. Recently his daughter got married and …

midlife crisis on my 44 year old husband 
The Question How long can this last please? And why doesnt he believe this? He left two years ago. Now he is into women 10 to 12 years younger …

Confused 
The Question My husband and I are high school sweethearts. We have been married for 35 years. We have always had the ideal marriage. We both were …

Why am I worrying even more? 
I thought when I was in my forties I would be on top off the world. Not so. Then I thought maybe the 50's. But more worry and anxiety. I have aches and …

Can a midlife crisis come on all of a sudden? 
The Question My husband was happy until Christmas last year. Then in January he suddenly changed. He became moody and began avoiding the family. He …

Does He, or doesn't he? 
The Question We met at work, both divorced...single for awhile. Instant connection...but long distance. Time passed, lay off made it an option to …

Divorced over midlife crisis 
The Question My husband has acted strange since turning 49. That was in february this year. Our anniversary was in april. He just divorced me saying …

Is my husband just staying cause it is easy? 
The Question Although our relationship has had its ups and downs we have always seemed to get through. We recently renovated out current house …

husband leaves wife for another woman 
The Question do they ever go back to their wives? Noel's response Sometimes.

How do I behave when he visits? 
The Question My husband of 32 years left last week to be single without responsibilities. He is visiting me in 2 days. How do I speak to him? What …

My boyfriend is not sexually active anymore 
The Question My boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months now. During the first 4 months, he was sexually active. But as time goes by, he started …

Do I allow him to family functions? 
The Question My husband after 32 years has decided he wants to be single without responsibilities. How do I treat him in regards to family gatherings? …

39 and midlife? 
The Question We have been married 15 years, and Monday night he asked me for a divorce. He is just tired of working at marriage. Five days prior …

Getting help 
The Question Married 28 years and we talk well together and a lot lately. His doctor told him everything he was feeling was not uncommon and some …

The signs are there! 
The Question My husband of 15 years told me last week that he no longer loved me but he didn't want anything to change. Almost immediately, he pushed …

Prostate CANCER 
The Question Can you get prostate cancer by catheterising yourself? And if you can would it be best to get a operation to take out the large prosate? …

My head sweats in social circumstances. Is that a midlife symptom? 
The Question I am 36 years old. 3 years back, I started experiencing something that I’m not sure if I can call it mid age crisis. It happens only …

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and my small children? 
The Question Hi, I have been married for 10 years and we have 2 children ages 6 and 7. I met my husband in college and he was going thru some hard …

Is there any way to get through this more smoothly and quickly? 
The Question I feel like I'm in the middle of a mid life crisis. I'm changing how I dress, I'm growing my hair longer, I'm hanging out with a new …

My husband and I have been married 32 years and he still wants sex every night. 
The Question After 32 years he still wants sex every night and sulks if he doesn't get it. I sometimes give it to him just to keep the peace even …

My boyfriend of 4 years decided to move out on his own? 
The Question My boyfriend of 4 years, all of a sudden decided to tell me he wanted to be on his own. We have lived together for 4 years and his teenage …

Is is normal to lose interest in sex at midlife? 
The Question I'm 39 yrs old my wife is 57.... I love her dearly. We've been married 6 years, and sex does not interest me anymore. I often find excuses …

Shows me no affection anymore, and I think there is another woman 
The Question we are married 36 years now he keeps avoiding me. We never do or go anywhere as a couple anymore. Two years ago he announced out of the …

He is 31, and has changed a lot in the last few months 
The Question My husband is 31, in the Navy since he was 18. We have been married for 13 years. Yes a very young marriage. He said he loved me and …

I have no freinds and am by myself most of the time 
The Question I have no freinds and nothing to do...what can I do by myself without looking? Noel's response You get out of life what you put …

My boyfriend after 4 months is not interested in sex anymore and I wonder why? 
The Question My boyfriend is 37 and we have been living together for the past 6 months and for some reason after 4 months of living together, he just …

I am a woman thinking about an affair and I don't know what to do! 
The Question I love my husband, he is wonderful. He is my best friend and he dotes on me. I enjoy our sex although certainly life has taken its toll …

Is this a mid-life Crisis? 
The Question My husband and I have been together 21yrs, married 17. When we met we were 16 and 15. We are now 37 and 36. We have two teenagers. …

I think my boyfriend is depressed 
The Question Hello, my name is Rahkelah and my boyfriend and I have been together for four years. When we met he was 49 and I was 23. We hit it off …

Midlife crisis stages 
The Question My husband, 39 years old, is going through a midlife crisis. I've been researching as much as I can, trying to understand what is …

Is it okay to mention midlife crisis to my spouse? 
The Question My husband and I have been married for 33 years. We separated several months ago per the advice of his therapist. He was really angry, …

My 48-year-old boyfriend is avoiding me.  
The Question I have been dating my 48 year-old boyfriend for about four months. He is a wonderful, gentle man. After a month of dating we had a …

I am the 'Other Woman'. Can it last? 
The Question Hello. I'm a fairly young woman dating a man in his mid-40s. He is a Western man, successful in his career with a family and house of …

My husband drinks a lot now. What can I do? 
The Question My husband started hanging around with a younger (male) friend, and drinking in excess last year, and now he drinks at least 5/7 days …

I don't know if it's a mid life crisis 
The Question I have been married to my wife for 32 years. We have raised 3 children and they are grown and on their own. We have an empty home. …

Husband leaving with no real explanation 
The Question I have been married for 20 years. My husband just turned 41. One day he started drinking more and more and staying out all night with …

My older boyfriend 
The Question My boyfriend is about 14 years older than me. I am 25 and he is 39. We have been together for two years now and lately he has changed …

I looked after him all these years, now he has left. 
The Question My husband told me three weeks ago that he loved me but wasn't in love with me. Three days later he filed for divorce. Said he wasn't …

Does EVERY man go through a midlife crisis? 
The Question Does every man go through a mid-life crisis? my boyfriend is about to turn 41 and I've noticed A LOT of changes in him. We've only been …

if and when men leave? 
The Question A man had an affair and his wife had left, then they had reconciled but the man didn't seem to be remorseful. What are the chances of …

Excitement in Life 
The Question Hi Noel, I have been with my partner for nine years and it was just a few days ago he decided that he needed some excitement in his …

Time to move on? 
The Question I've been with my partner for seven years, married for two of those and living in Japan (as an ex pat) for five years. We also planned …

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MIDLIFE CRISIS AND HAVING AFFAIRS 
The Question While men are going through Midlife Crisis, I have read that they more likely go for younger women. I am five years younger than my …

husband says he doesn't love me. 
The Question My husband says he no longer loves me. I think he really does but is going through a rough time. I want to know how best to help …

Is my 38 year old boyfriend going through a midlife crisis? 
The Question My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two months. Things started off amazing between us. He was happy and so full of life …

Left me for another woman 
The Question My husband left me two days before New Years Eve. I was totally shocked. We have two children, son is 19 and daughter is 16, and they …

Confused 
The question I am a 42 year old Man, and I have lost all my normal energy and interest in sex. All I want to do is sit around and watch tv. Normally …

Orgasm 
The question Hi, my husband (44 years this year) and I have been married for 8 years. I have 3 concerns. a) My husband has not been having an …

is my husband having a mid life crisis 
The Question I was with my husabnd for 11 years and married for three. He is 32 and has ran off with a friend of mine who is 19 years old. He has …

My husband can't make decisions 
The Question I think my husbands in a midlife crisis. He left two weeks ago. I tell him I love him but he seems so angry and is not in love with me. …

Do all midlife men who leave their wives get involved or are already in an affair?  
The Question My husband of 28 years has left home and says he does not have the same feelings for me. I have looked for signs of an affair but have …

Midlife man back with ex 
The Question All the symptoms are pointing that my husband is in midlife crisis. He did a lot of things difficult to explain. He does not want …

Angry and manipulated. 
The Question I am 48 years old and it seems like there are now two families in my life. One is my wife and the children. The other is me and the …

support groups 
The Question Are you aware of any support groups in the Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania area for men with mid-life crisis? Noel's response I Googled …

Boss mid-life crisis 
The Question My boss is going through a mid life crisis which threatens the entire organization. He is potentially going to sell the company which …

Now What? 
I am what everybody says one of the most successful surgeons in the country I live in. I am the top earner of the hospital group I work for. I worked …

enlarged prostate 
The Question Last year when my husband had his yearly exam, the doctor said he had an enlarged prostate. This year at his exam the doctor said he …

Does it make sense to try to help my husband through this? 
The Question Does it make any sense for me to make my husband aware of the fact that the reason for his erratic behaviour is that he is actually suffering …

Mid-life crisis or mental illness? 
Hi Noel: I don't know if my husband is in a mid-life crisis or mentally ill (paranoia) but I am tire of his odd behavior. I want to help but he's …

Right livelihood crisis 
The Question At 24 I "fell" into a career as a government official. It was the depths of a recession and, as a new graduate out of work for a year, …

How do I make this last? 
The Question I am 49 years old. My wife and I went through a mid-life change together several years ago. When we were in our 40s, (Her early 40s, …

My husband has an urge to be on his own. 
The Question Four weeks ago my husband came home and told me he had quit his job (although his boss talked him into staying)and told me that although …

How long will this abuse go on? 
The Question My husband and I have been married 20 years, and for the last nearly two years we have been separated because he told me ne was no …

How Come The Men Get Off So Easy? 
The Question I've read through some of your scenarios here - I don't see any happy endings in terms of the "previous" life? I wonder about the …

my husband doesnt know what he wants 
Six weeks ago my husband left me for another woman. He is not living with her though, as he said she has a boyfriend, but he can't stop thinking about …

is my spouse going thru a mid life crisis? 
The Question We live common law. we have been together 19 years and have two beautiful daughters. In early summer he had a one night affair. …

My husband thinks he is a failure 
The Question Hello, About 3 months ago, it was as if a switch were flipped and my usual loving husband suddenly became very quiet and then told …

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My Husband and a Midlife crisis or transition? 
Question My husband and I recently separated after 21 years of marriage. I don't know what has happened except that we both were unhappy and I suggested …

My marriage 
Question I am 52 years old and my husband is 55. We are both in our second marriages and are both grandparents. My husband and I went out 34 years …

mid life crisis in marrage 
Question My husband and I were married for 28 years. He stood by me during menopause and I want to stand by him. He says he is not in love with me. …

Get my husband to couseling 
Question My husband and I got together 1988 and married in 1996. Several years after marriage we started trying to conceive to no avail. Tried fertility …

What are psychological changes that take place in the midlife? 
Question I am 46 years old...am a teacher. I just notice I'm more irritable and easily get angry now than before except I know I am hypertensive. …

Yes women have it also 
Question My wife's father passed away, our eldest went to college, and she has become a different person. Was always kind, extremely devoted. Now …

MidLife Crisis in Men 
Question At what age do men usually start going through mid life crisis? Noel's response It can happen anywhere from age thirty five to fifty. …

Shall i wait  
Question My husband is age 53. We've been separated for 4 yrs now. He left me, because he said he fell out of love for me, and admitted he has an …

Husbands midlife crisis 
Question If you know your husband has been carrying Viagra and Cialis with him, is there any reason besides an affair? A counsellor said he was …

Midlife Crisis Mood swings 
Question Can anyone help me! My husband has left me 13 weeks ago due to infidelity during a midlife Crisis. He is 46 and his new girlfriend is 19. …

transient sweating 
Question I literally get hot flashes several times a day. I sit there and just start sweating, not just my face, but everywhere. It interrupts my …

My husband wants to retire, and I don't want him to 
Question Got married two months back, my husband is 11 years my senior divorced was married at 23 and has three kids living in the west with his x...he …

coming back to the women he left 
Question What are the chances that a man who went through a mid-life crises will want to reconnect with the women he left? Noel's reply I …

My husband hides things 
Question I have been married for about three years, and in the last year my husband has started to act strangely. I will put something someplace, …

Men who have affairs and leave home 
Question My husband left home six weeks ago, and is living at his mother's. I found texts from a woman he had been seeing. He said the relationship …

Men who have affairs and leave home 
Question My husband left home six weeks ago, and is living at his mother's. I found texts from a woman he had been seeing. He said the relationship …

Hyperactivity 
Question My husband just turned 55. In the past month he has become extremely hyperactive along with changing his entire attitude about work and home. …

Relationship 
Comment We have been happily married for 35 years. Within the last year we have both lost our jobs. He has mentioned that he feels worthless. I have …

my partnerkeeps changin his mind 
Question For three years now is he suffering from mid life crisis. I have been with my partner, we do not live together but I stay at his a lot he …

feeling like a failure 
Question My husband is 41 and recently we had a boarder(female) who was removed from the house on my part because I felt like a fifth wheel in my …

When all this will be end  
Question My husband and I have been married for 3 years, and we have been happy. I am 29 and my husband is 54 years old. But last year he told me …

dont want to regret  
Question I have a great girl friend who is perfect for me but I have a 7 year old boy and his mom wants to give it another try. I am afraid if I …

Does this sound like mid-life crisis? 
Question My husband is 48 years old and he recently went to a conference for work in Texas. He is a cowboy and ended up riding a bull while there …

Can a married man in his 44 become bisexual? 
Question In the last five years my husband is spending more time with gay friends. I think he has become bisexual. I'm 12 years younger than him …

Of course! It is a midlife crisis. 
Question For just about a year I have researched, watched, listened, cried and just about died inside over and over due to my husband's crisis. …

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Left the marriage and has a girlfriend 
Question My husband suffers from depression and bipolar disorder and now is in the midst of a midlife crisis. He has left the house and is having …

Is it common to be driven towards change even if you cannot seem to find the answer? 
Question My mid-life transition seemed to start in my early 40s, when I decided to quite teaching and find something more meaningful in life (teaching …

Midlife Men who leave their wives of 28 years 
Question Once a man leaves his devoted wife of 28 years is there any chance he will return after he realizes he's not looking for someone, but what …

new begining 
Question I do not finish my college, but go to business. For many years (15) I run a profitable business, but in Dec, 2008 I decided to shut down operations. …

Why are his feelings changing so much? 
Question Why are his feelings for me different each day? One day he's ok, the next he can't seem to stand the sight of me. I'm lost. Noel's Answer …

How long will this crisis last? 
Question I'm a wife whose husband, I believe is in the mist of a Mid-Life crisis. We have been married for 26 years, soon to be 27 and together for …

Is this classic to mid-life crisis? 
Question My husband and I have been together for almost ten years. During this time, we had previously had a wonderful sexual relationship. About …

my husbands midlife 
The Question My husband recently decided to leave me and my kids. He quit all his church responsibilities, unhappy in his job, living with his miserable …

Only for Men? 
Question: Can this apply to women also? Reading things here, I feel much the same way. I've often held the dominate financial (or at least equal) …

WHEN WILL IT END? 
Question STARTED IN 2004 WHEN I WAS 53...LOST INTEREST IN WORK...STURGGLED EVER SINCE...THIS IS SAME AGE MY FATHER AND HIS FATHER STARTED DRINKING...I …

does a man going through midlife crisis like to read and look at pornography more? 
Question My husband is 60 years old he is twelve years older than me. I have recently found out he has been reading erotic stories and looking at …

Thinking of changing my career, lifestyle....everything 
Dear Noel, First and foremost, congratulations on this website and even more on embarking on the amazing journey of self-discovery. It feels like …

sperm color 
Question We have sex infrequently. Does sperm color give any clue that my husband is doing it with others? The sperm is clear and very little. Noel's …

Sudden change about loving one's partner 
Question: My husband made a DVD of slides from his teenage years. He says that that was a trigger for him to leave me--his wife of 30 years-- and …

Unmotivated, but depressed 
Question: My husband has been going through something and I'm worried about him. We've had several miscarriages and finally he agreed to have a …

midlife of my partner 
THE QUESTION: My partner hurt me last year when i found out about his affair with a girl half his age. Hez 48yrs old,our sex life was good. He was sleeping …

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