Male Partner & Midlife Crisis

We have been in a relationship for 7 years.

We live 2 hours apart from each other and have our own houses,we see each other on weekends and when we have vacation we spend week or 2 together, and for the past 2 years since he found his sister passed in her house, I think my partner is going through a midlife crisis. He is 48 .

Where we do live apart with distance, we had made plans to get a house together so we could be together.

His business is failing, He doesn't like his work, he doesn't want to live in his town, looking to change his career, we live in depressed secluded areas where it takes 2 hours to drive to the nearest place for entertainment. He has got a lot going on and is confused on how it will play out.

He says he loves me and can't imagine his life without me. Wants and needs me in his life but don't want to hurt me, so he wants to end our 7 year relationship. The changes he wants to make he says involve me but are not about me, which is true and I understand and support the changes, but don't want him to end the relationship we have because he is changing. Please Help

Noel's response

It sounds as though his grief over his sister dying is being complicated by a midlife transition. My only suggestion is that you continue to let him know you support him, and you do not want the relationship to end.

Given your isolated circumstances, with both of you living in depressed areas, you might consider a move to a 'better' place, if your work allows it, or if you can find suitable work in a less isolated area.

I expect he is in danger of becoming depressed, if he is not already, living in a depressed area with no support can make it worse.


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