Mid life crisis in males who have been good husbands but totally changed
(andover, kansas 67002)
My husband of thirty six years came home one day, packed a few things and left me. Before he left he told me it wasn't me it was him, he was unhappy with his life and he needed space.
He filed for divorce soon after, and I haven't seen or heard from him since then. My question is how do I get him to go to therapy since he won't talk to me? He's determined to put all the blame on me. My reply to that is blame for what? Blame for caring about him, fixing his meals, washing his clothes, being his confidant and friend and giving up my life to stay with the kids and keep the home fires burning I'm totally lost and devastated. People who haven't gone through this type of divorce don't have any idea what it's like nor do people who have lost their husbands through death. His parents are closed off from me too. I think he's poisoned them against me Noel's response
You don't mention how long ago he left, but I am assuming it is a year or more.
I don't know that there is any way to get him to go to therapy, but you might find it helpful to see a therapist yourself to help you get through this difficult time.