mid life crisis in marrage

by cindy poole
(summerville sc )

Question

My husband and I were married for 28 years. He stood by me during menopause and I want to stand by him. He says he is not in love with me. How could that be after 28 years? He has left and says he is a lot happier because he is not living a lie.

How long before he wakes up and realizes what he wants, because I know in my heart he still loves me. He just needs to find it.

Noel's response

I don't know how long it will take him to go through this transition, and there is no guarantee he will come back. It is possible he is telling you the truth.

My suggestion for you is that you move on in your own life, and determine what kind of relationship you want to be in, whether he comes back, or you eventually end up in a relationship with another man.