Mid life crisis.

I have been married for 16 years and we have an 11 year old daughter. About 4 years ago my husband had an emotional affair. He told me he it was only emotional and over the phone. There was no real contact other than the day they met. It was a hard year and a half after that but we survived. Ibwas very controlling and asked a lot of questions initially but this past year I felt I had truly gotten over it and had moved on. We had a great summer and we were connecting great. On august 31 we had a small disagreement and he came out with he didn't know if he loved me enough to stay married. He said he's not getting any younger and he wants to live his life. He wants to go out and party and not worry about having to come back home at all. Then he says he wants to try to work it out for the sake of our daughter. He says he doesn't want to hurt us. He does try. He doesn't go out as often. But he's always on Facebook or on his computer. He doesn't want me to ask what he's doing or who he's talking to. He has days when he says he wants to work at it and then days when he says he is wasting his life and he needs to move on. I want to save my marriage!! I think he does too or else he would have left already. Are we hopeless?? Is he having a mid life crisis??


Noel's response

It sounds as though it could be a midlife crisis.
I suggest you invite your husband to marriage counseling, which may help you sort things through in a safe environment.

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