Midlife Crisis at Age 32!?
A year ago my husband and I had a big argument and went thru a rough patch in our marriage. Since then we decided that we wanted to work on our marriage. I was very very happy in our marriage. We fought over little things here and there but never anything I though that would break us. We sold our condo and rented a place in order to start looking to buy a house, got pregnant with baby number two and spent a great baby moon together where we were totally devoted to each other. When we came back my husband started to withdraw. It was right before his 32 birthday. He told me I shouldn't care if we will celebrate it together since its his birthday and not mine. He started to not come home at night, working extra long hours (he has several business so at times it was warranted), constantly being on his phone, not having anything for dinner I make and saying things like "I will not sleep in the same bed with you". A few weeks later I found out that he was texting his much younger co-worker and spending time with her on the phone and out at bars. She is 9 years younger than him, while I was at home three months pregnant and with our toddler. Out of anger I put all of his things in bags and told him to leave. So he did. Since then I have asked him to come back and asked him to go to therapy and he refuses. He says that we need to divorce. He has since rented a very expensive apt, is openly dating his aforementioned co-worker, takes her to fancy dinners, buys her whatever she wants and takes her on vacations. He also goes out almost every night and spends time with less than successful people from high school, basically anyone that will go out, while I am a month from my due date. He tells me we will never be together and that I'm crazy for thinking he would ever want to reconcile with me. He says he wants to be happy and in time I will see that us not being together is the best thing that can happen. Is he in a midlife crisis or did he just check out for good?