Mlc husband!!!!!

The bomb was dropped 7 months ago. I'm 53 he 57 we have been together 27 years married 23. Two teenage boys life was good just remodelled the garden he built beautiful area with hot tub Dec 2015. He met other woman beginning of May 2016 told me the week after that he loved me but not enough going on to say over next few weeks that he didn't love me and wasn't in love with me anymore. June 14th I found 400 + texts in 10 days.I phoned number a woman answered said nothing was going on they were mates and that she'd stayed in a relationship with someone for wrong reasons what the hell he told her God knows. My kids were due to take important exams that week!!!! Needless to say I phoned him he just said we 'll call it a day then. So cold and heartless. I threw him out mid june he moved in with ow early July. He was devoted to the boys now only texts then once or twice a week. Seen them three times in 6 months. They've even said there was nothing wrong with you and mum. got text September asking if I was starting divorce proceedings or him. No discussion of our marriage apart from him saying we haven't got on for months and that he hadn't been happy for years. Asked him why didnt he talk about it just said never got round to it. News to me and extended family his brother and everyone. He even said to him stop telling your wife you were unhappy as we all know its not true. He got engaged to her November (still married to me). Got letter December from lawyers,asking that I divorce him. She is a common foul mouthed tart c**t seems to be a favourite word of hers threatening people ( seen from facebook). Let's face it I wouldn't like it if she was the most beautiful woman in the world. So out of character for him we were cuddled up in the hot tub two weeks before he met her. He's lost around two stone in weight as I have. Doing things he never did going to rugby matches with her etc. Doesn't even bother with his brother and family they were so close. Miss the man he was. Haven't spoke to him since October. Is this a mid life crisis. What the hell do I do. I would have bet all the money in the world that this,would never have happened to me. Heart broken

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MLC husband!!
by: NWF

Hello, I am so sorry that this happened to you and your family; it happened to mine also. It seems that they all read from the same script. This is not your fault and do not accept that it is...it would have happened no matter what. MLCer's hook up with the first person that pays any attention to them. It is called Infatuation...not love. I will not go on about MLC (you can read the other comments to find a good website to read about MLC) but I will say that you should not file for the divorce. Tell him that this is his divorce, you do not agree with it, and you will not help him with it at all!!! If he wants a D, he will have to file for it and pay child support and alimony as well. If it goes that far, I would ask the court to have him pay for your lawyer. (My judge said No to that but try it anyway.) You might want to chat with a good (no need to have the best) Family Attorney and I hope that you have your own checking and savings accounts by now...and credit cards. You are still married and you are both responsible for any debt together so get your name off of joint credit cards and please get your own. It seems that you are from a different country and the laws are different from the US so talk with an attorney and try to hang tight and make no quick moves or changes. It will do you no good to argue with him, it will only make him mad and he will spew more anger at you...do not worry about the anger, it will go away at some point in time (may take a few years though).

Hugs to you, NWF

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by: Noel

It sounds to me like a MLC. My only suggestion is that you read the many other entries in this blog from other women whose situations are similar to yours. You will no doubt find help from the many comments and replies.

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