my boss and i have fallen in love and he's getting a divorce
I'm 37 and my boss is 50. We have worked together for over a year and have had a spark and growing connection that has become more and more strong. Finally, he asked me one day if I thought we should talk and I agreed to do so. When we finally did, we both revealed our feelings and admiration for one another. He informed me his marriage had been on the rocks for about four yrs and they were waiting to divorce until their kid graduated from high school.
We both wanted to be respectful of the sensitive situation however; he feelings were so intense and we simply couldn't deny them. We have never been intimate but have kissed a few times. He is in the process of divorce and its really difficult. We are both very honest people who want to do the right thing. We are planning to speak with the direct manager tomorrow regarding the situation and put everything out in the open.
I never in a million years would have thought I would be in this position but I am. As much as we tried to deny the connection/chemistry, it was and is impossible.. its far more than sex because we will not endeavor into those waters until he is moved out and the paper work is submitted. I can't help but feel sorry or bad for his wife. There is a "Female code" and I do feel that I have broken that for even speaking with my boss to the degree we dd. Bottom line is that when love hits, you really are struck and there's no denying it.
Would appreciate any feedback.Noel's response
Your actions so far seem honorable. I encourage you to avoid sexual intimacy until his divorce comes through.