My dad - clearly having midlife crisis and refuses help
(Brisbane, QLD, Australia)
My dad finally told me that he was feeling stale and numb and not sure if hes in love with my mum anymore - after 28 years of marriage - now - 3 months later, my mum finds out that he kissed another woman and has been texting sexy messages to her and all - even talking about my mum being home and that's why he cant talk to her.
i was told tonight and he could barely look at any of us.
he said that hes numb and feels nothing. no remorse. so sadness. so regret. just nothing.
he's like a shell of a man who refuses to get help - how much does have to loose before he realizes hes not well?
im completely shattered. he's the man who is supposed to teach me how a man is meant to treat a woman - what is this teaching me? i had to have a break down and beg before he would look at me let alone get off his ass and give me a hug - please help!Noel's response
It sounds as though your Dad does have the classic symptoms of a midlife transition. Perhaps if you show him this website he will see himself, and realize, at least, that he is not alone! (Most men going through it think they are the only ones it's happening to, and they just have to 'tough it out'.
Hang in there with him, let him know you love him, and when you want a hug, keep telling him to get off his duff and give you one!
And know that this too shall pass.