My husband doesn't know what he wants
by Cindy
(Indianapolis, Indiana, usa)
The Question
Out of the Blue my husband told me he didn't know if he wanted to be married anymore. I am devastated. He has never even said anything about this ever.
He told me that he had been thinking about it for awhile. I asked him why he didn't come to me and he said he didn't know. He says it is him and also mentioned maybe he was going thru mid-life crisis. I love my husband very much and after 33 years of marriage I am not giving up on our marriage and told him that.
We are still sexually active and even more so after we had talked about some things but he seems so distant and I do not know what to do. How can I handle this situation and keep our marriage together?
Noel's response
If your husband is a typical man, he will not know how to talk about his problems... even to himself!
If he is willing to visit this website, he may find some useful information here. Again, if he is willing, you both would no doubt benefit from marriage counseling, and perhaps personal counselling/therapy.
You might also encourage him to have a complete physical check-up, just to be sure he has no serious health problem.
A suggestion for when you are talking to each other about a difficult topic: go for a walk, or a drive, to do the talking, as men feel much less threatened when talking side-by-side, than when doing so face-to-face.
