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My husband hides things

by Nancy
(Oklahoma city okla)


I have been married for about three years, and in the last year my husband has started to act strangely.

I will put something someplace, and when I go to get it, it isn't there. I will ask him if he has seen it, and he replies "no", but soon after he will come up with it and tell me it was someplace I have already looked two or three times. It is irritating to me, because I know where I put it, and it wasn't in the place he supposedly finds it, because I already looked there. Is this part of middle age crisis?

Noel's reply

This does not sound to me like middle age crisis activity. What he does is mean and unkind. I do not know whether it is deliberate, or due to some kind of emotional dysfunction on his part.

At any rate, it sounds strange to me, and not being a psychologist, I have no suggestion as to what to do.

Perhaps you could see a psychologist, or doctor, to figure out what to do. Do you have a trusted friend who knows him, and knows whether he has shown other aberrant behavior?

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Oct 22, 2017
What he’s doing is a type of abuse called gaslighting
by: Anonymous

What he’s doing is a type of abuse to make you lose confidence and think your losing it. Then, he looks like the hero when he finds it for you. I’ve been there, start writing everything down and purposely place things out to see if he moves them and confront him about those things later.

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