My husband is confused about his feelings for me.

We have been married for almost 20 years. We have three children who are very busy and honestly our marriage came second to the craziness of life. He told me was not in love with me, but loves me.


He is confused and is not sure what he wants. he says he wants to work on our marriage and stay together and be a family. He has broken my heart and I cannot trust his words. We are started therapy (one session) the therapist also suggested that my husband see someone individually. he refused.

I am so lost, hurt and confused myself. I have NO idea how to behave. I want to reach out to him but I also want to give him space. Just as confused as he is.

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Jul 25, 2016

by: Noel

I am not sure what to suggest. As you know if you have read many of the other submissions here, yours is not an uncommon circumstance.

You are perhaps fortunate that at least your husband is willing to go to marriage counselling, and although he is unwilling to get individual therapy, you might find it useful to do so in order to help you deal with the situation.

Keep the lines of communication open with him, and speak your truth as compassionately as you can.

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