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My husband is suddenly very controlling, and trying to act younger, is he going through mid-life?

by Rose
(Springdale Arkansas)

The Question

My husband is 38 years old and he recently had started making changes as far as his physical appearance. It started with him shaving his head, because his hair was thinning, then he decided to shave his mustache for the first time since I have known him, but he kept a the goatee. He changed the way he dresses and bought some clothes that all the younger guys wear.

He has become extra moody and gets cranky with me whenever I try to talk to him about anything. He also has gotten real controlling and runs me through the third degree about where I was and who all was there. Some of my lady friends and I arranged a small dinner for a friend who is battling cancer and he started making threats that if he finds out there was any men there some heads are going to roll.

I don't know what his deal is, my every minute has to be accounted for, but he can go wherever he wants and if it takes longer than I think it should, I'm the crazy one. It's not like I think he's having an affair. In fact it's the total opposite, he doesn't want to let me out of his sight.

He goes to bed at 8:00 pm, because he has to be to work at 4:00 am and if I do not go to bed when he does, he gets angry. He is driving me crazy! I don't know what to think. Can it possibly be that he is going through midlife crisis?

Noel's response

His behavior may be partly due to a midlife crisis, as he may be starting the think he is no longer 'young', and is afraid he is less attractive, which may mean he fears you may find other men more attractive than him. But it also sounds as though there is something else at work, which may need some counselling to help him with. Either individual (for him) or marriage counselling.

Whether he is willing to go to counselling or not, you also have to decide how much of this behavior you are willing to put up with, as severely jealous people can become quite emotionally abusive, which you are already experiencing.

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Aug 15, 2012
wake up
by: Anonymous

He is cheating on u believe me all the signs are there don't be in denial

Sep 21, 2011
by: Anonymous

Thanks Noel for your input, I really appreciate it!

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